There is hope, stay strong

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I am now around 1 year post meno give or take. I just would like ladies to know there is light at the end of the tunnel, although you may not feel like that at the moment. Just remember that an unlucky few continue symptoms for eternity, and as time passes they become less bothersome and mild in comparison for the rest gradually disappearing for good. From my research this is normally 2-3 years post meno, fingers crossed.

The symptoms I remember are as follows as far as I can recall. 1 year ago/present day

No appetite – Eat nothing for weeks on end, just sipped water and ice chips. / Eating normally again

Weight loss- lost nearly 2 stone/Back to pre existing weight

Nausea- constant day & night for about 10 months/Now none

Belching- awful indigestion despite not eating/ As before

Insomnia- totally unable to fall or stay asleep got maybe 3 hours a night if lucky/ Sleep well most of the time waking mainly to pee, usually fall back to sleep but awake for a couple of hours occasionally

Night sweats- OMG drenched need I say more/ Still get these but sleep through most of them certainly not as bad or as many.

Heat Intolerance- This was weird I felt warm all the time 24/7normally cold because of my thyroid, couldn’t bear even a warm shower it had to be cold, the hair-dryer was an absolute no no./ Showering and using hair dyrer as before still get some feelings of warmth but in between feel normal again

Flushes- Lasted forever just finish one then start another, either with or without the sweats. No triggers only very sensitive to temperature to surroundings /Gone from around 40-50 to maybe 3-4.

Difficulty Swallowing/Eating- Like a lump stuck in throat even taking meds was hard because of gagging but was only actually sick a couple of times/No problems now

Tiredness/Exhaustion- probably mainly due to lack of sleep/This has passed

Emotional/Depressive- moods were down and very weepy. If I didn’t have such wonderful kids not sure I would bothered trying probably just ended it all ( hate to admit that now)/Still have a few down days but overall much better

Confusion/difficulty focusing- very light headed and dazed feeling/ Dizzy now and again memory still poor

IBS like symptoms- obsessed with keeping diary of BM/Odd episodes nothing serious

Palpitations- happened a lot/ Still get 1 or 2 but not as often

Chest tightness- very uncomfortable of course I had angina and heart disease, this was definitely anxiety/ Only get this now and again

Pounding heart – I could feel my heart pounding in my chest and hear it in my ears/ All gone

tremors/shakes- Shaking externally and internally. The external was like a constant shiver, internal was like an inner bouncing very hard to explain/Completely gone

restlessness- couldn’t relax or sit still very jittery/ Can now relax

anxiety- WOW never been an anxious person but this was just awful I was googling every little symptom, this made every other symptom worse and lots of crossover symptoms of anxiety itself./ This has gone thank goodness

Panic Attacks- Again never had one before very scary, got so I was afraid to go out, talk to anyone or make or receive telephone calls/ None at all now

tachycardia (100-140)- due to anxiety/ Back to normal.

headaches- terrible pounding every day and night/ Just an odd one now and then

head zaps- would happen day and night like a shock in head/ Get one now and again

feeling something wrong- convinced I had something terminal, Feeling detached from reality/Feel ok now do not worry about health anymore

Dry mouth-couldn’t quench thirst no matter how much I drank/Still get dry some days

Feeling of insects crawling over skin/ an odd tickle now and then

Muscle tension mainly neck, shoulders & backache, and joints aching especially hips, knees and legs/ Now all fine

Skin and hair changes dryer and older looking/ hmm just age!!

Hope this helps someone

 

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     some of  mine symptoms gone..but still going through the crap I pray every night for the heat to stop but thanks for putting up feel better post, makes also feel there is light at the end of the tunnel God bless you.
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    Bumblebee

    I dont know if this will reach you but i just had to comment on the absolutely thorough list you wrote and so detailed and so many of which i have been living and breathing through, now actively trying to tackle, and also gently accept.

    weight loss

    thirst

    aches

    major sleep issues

    anxiety etc.

    depression being by FAR the worst

    just wanted to shout out there

    kauaiblue

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    God bless you for this! I needed to know it doesn't all continue forever. I needed this hope. Thank you so much!

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    Ladies,

    I'm in my late forties and in the early stages of perimenopause.  In many ways it has changed my character completely, and I often feel as if I have gone around the bend!  I work in a 'mans world' and menopause is just not recognised in my work place.  I have the aching bones, the dry skin, the depression and anxiety - big time on some occasions!  Also vaginal dryness. Due to some medical issues I can't go near HRT.  For my hair and skin I have started to take some good multivitamins, which have helped greatly.  I found a youtube channel called Menopause Barbie.  It is founded by an American female doctor who specialises in Menopause.  She is very eccentric, but knows her stuff!!  There are about 60 odd youtube videos to watch as she goes through all manner of subjects on estrogne, progresterone and so on.  It is very informative.  You need to start from the beginning at video one as they build on each other.  Maybe just take some quiet time out and sit with a cup of tea and begin to watch them - you will be investing in yourself if you do.  

    I live in the UK and unfortunately due to budget cuts the only thing they tend to dish out is HRT.  The GP's do not seem to be well informed on alternatives, and unfortunately if you can't take HRT like me it appears you seem to be cast out to find your own way!

    Ladies, I wish you all well with your menopause.  I think we do really need to stand together on this. xxx

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    i have most of your symptoms too the sleeping problem is worst i have to take sleeping pilla to fall asleep i think i developed tolerance coz it doesnt work anymore and worst i have anxiety attack after surfing internet of more symptoms now my anxiety doesnt go away and everytime i close my eyes my anxiety take over and hot flashes too together so ive been awake for 24 hours now iys killing me anxiety doesnt go away
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    and my eyes so sore from not sleeping and from using.my cellphone i have no one to talk everybody sleeping lastnight now its morning everybody gone to work and im a stayhome mom and my 11 yrs old still sleeping so i have nobody to talk only my cellphone reading post here and typing reply
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      Janita I know how you feel, I am here with my grandson and this is the hardest thing having a toddler and I feel like crap. I am so tired of feeling so bad, I just want to feel well again. I have maybe two good weeks back to back and then the rest is feeling like crap. This feeling can go on and on until my period gets here and it could be weeks or months, besides this is perimenopause. I wake up with these heart palpitations and stomach, arms and hands shaking throughout the day. Along with crash fatigue just hits out of no where.

      Ok enough about me sorry for rambling on..i noticed you have anxiety. I had it really bad at one time . When I stopped googling every sympton my anxiety decreased a whole lot. My mind was constantly playing tricks on me.

      I could not hear anything bad such as someone dying or see commercial on tv about illness , I would have an anxiety attack . I am much better in that area, I just want to reassure you that you are definitely not along, I feel as I have no one to talk to nor do they understand.

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      i feel little bit relieve knowing that im not alone trying not to goggle more about symptoms worsen my anxiety ..im like that too what i heard and saw in the news scares me and worries me i feel so depressed and tired im hungry but i have no appetite just too many symptoms
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      feel little bit relieve knowing im not alone im trying to stop looking for symptoms in the internet not good idea ...im like that too im scared and worries if i heard and see something bad in the news on tv ..im really tired and depressed and im hungry but i dont have appetite and the hot and cold sensation start behind my neck and spread to my head and down my shoulder and sweating and feet is cold scares me too and the anxiety im going to see doctor for my anxiety ...i just want a good night sleep and i will be ok
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      I had the cold feet also. It did go away and just two days ago back to back i started to experience it again. It is all hormonal. I'm noticing symptons are worse around time for period. You may want to start charting it. It kind of helps me some that way I know what phase I'm in. I also took a vitamin b12 spray for the anxiety, it worked wonder at first until I realize that my worrying and googling was part of the anxiety. B12 deficiency can also bring on anxiety. Magnesium can help too for the insomnia and anxiety.

      Also try meditation , you can YouTube and find some things for meditation to help clear your mind. The mind does control the body so you have to take control of your mind. Hope you start feeling better...we have to hold on to hope.

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    Thank you bumblebee85, reading this has put my mind at ease. I was convinced I was going mad or losing it or worse that I was going to die. This menopause thing is rotten and in many ways debilitating. I had never suffered a panic attack before, but suddenly wham here they are and how frightening. I also get the stabbing/ electric shocks in my head, the feeling nauseous and the sweats. My mood a lot of the time is on the floor which is totally out of character for me but I'm hoping in time things will return to "normal" whatever that is as I would really like the old me back.

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