Tight foreskin or tight frenulum or what?

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Hello,

Otherwise an individual in perfect, I'm having issues with my penis during sex. I'm unable to penetrate because the foreskin hurts when it slips back. With some practice, I can pull the foreskin back when the penis is in flaccid state but I cannot pull it back when it is erect. It starts to pain.

Other problem is that when I do pull it back and touch my inner thing, it hurts. The inner skin is so sensitive that even if I spill water I feel a little bit uneasy(though i can bear it). If I touch a finger, it hurts badly.

What are my options?

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    I had the same thing years ago. I went to my doctor who was not very sympatetic and told me to practice puling the foreskin back every day - which I couldn't.

    So in the end I just paid to have a circumcision at a private hospital which solved the issue completely.

    I suggest you discuss being referred for a circumcision, and if he wont then just go privately - there ar eplenty of places that will do it.

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      I get your point. However, I have 2 problems:

      1) Tight foreskin which doesn't slip back easily(especially in erect state). This should be resolved through circumcision.

      2) Very sensitive inner skin. If I roll back the skin and touch my inner skin it hurts very much. It is very sensitive to the outside world. Now, if I circumcize, how will it help me? My sensitive skin would be even more exposed and I will keep getting hurt day in and day out!

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      The inner glans is more sensitive due to being protected by the foreskin. I remember mine was very sensitive as well.  I am not sure why it should actualy hurt though unless there is some other medical issue.

      If the foreskin is tight and and will not retract, then for comfort and hygiene reasons a circumcision is definitely indicated.

      The glans is a different issue. After circumcision my glans was very sensitive as it rubbed on my underwear etc to start with, but as it dried and the skin became thicker all sensitivity went away and I never thoight abut being circumsized at all.

       

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      I will elaborate. When I roll back my skin and touch the inner penis, it is so sensitive that it hurts. Was this not the case with you? I have now started keeping it in water for a few seconds so that it becomes habituated to the external world.

      Now, if I get circumsized, within a few days/weeks, you say that the skin will become thicker and all sensitivity will go away. Correct?

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      Yes that is what I am suggesting. It seems to me that the sensitivity of your glans is due to it not being exposed very much if at all. I doubt there is any reason why it should hurt otherwise it would be inflamed etc. And you say yours does become habituated.

      A foresking that is frequently retracted will become habituated over time, but if not it will remain very sensitive as mine did.

      I think if you have a circumcision your glans will be sensitive at first as mine was, but over dats and weeks the skin will desensitize and become tougher so the issue will go away. At least that happened in my case.

      Seems to me to take it one step at a time and geta a circumcision for the tightness and if that does not deal with the sensitivity address that afterwards as a seperate issue. 

       

       

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      Thanks for the feedback! Is circumcision the only remedy though? I love my foreskin and wouldn't want to get rid of it unless of course I have no other remedy!
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      I am not a doctor or qualified to give medical advice, but based upon everything you have said and my own experience I would say that circumcision would be the appropriate procedure. If your foreskin is causing all the issues you mention, why not remove the problem?

      I suppose the alternative would be to exercise your foreskin so it will retract when erect. i tried this as well and was able to by pulling down on it very hard, but it felt so tight it was painful. I suppose you could work it down a bit at a time over the course of weeks or months - or just have it removed and resolve it completely.

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      This may well be too late, but I'd strongly recommend against a circumcision unless other treatments (stretching, steroid creams, and preputioplasty) don't work.  There are lots of men who are very happy with adult circumcision, but there are also lots of men who aren't (look for "circumcised at 18" on YouTube for one).

      Kim and Pang 2006  studied 255 men circumcised as adults and found that : "About 6% answered that their sex lives improved, while 20% reported a worse sex life after circumcision."

      Some men also choose to live with circumcision.  Personally, I wouldn't, but it would be a last resort.

      More information here:

      https://patient.info/search.asp?searchterm=phimosis

      If you're still following this post yashsr, I'd be interested to hear what if any treatment you had.

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      Correction - I meant to say this:

      Some men also choose to live with phimosis.  Personally, I wouldn't, but circumcision would be a last resort.

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    I have had this issue some years ago too but I did nothing... I can remember clearly one day I see the foreskin pealed back easily. My penis got a lot smaller since... Dnt kno what had happen. But it makes me feel uncomfortable.. I never know a man penis cld shrink and its not caused by aging.. I wild luv to hear the scientific cause tho.

    I think u should follow 2apc01 advise tho...

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      I doubt your penis could shrink, I am not aware of any medical reason for this.

      I would say though that a tight foreskin is not good for comfort, hygeine or intercourse, and so circumcision  resolves everything. I put up with it for a few years before getting a private circumcision and have been very glad I did ever since.

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    As a mother, it's our responsibility to check you when you were 2 yrs old, to make sure the foreskin can go back.... 🙈 😆 nope .... My son wasn't a toddler at the time, but had the same problem. He recovered very brightly and alert but in no pain. I strongly suggest you have a circumcision.

    This problem will bury any sexual relations. Let us know how you get on and good luck 🍀

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      I am not sure there are different types of circumcision which is complete removal of the foreskin. There are different ways of carrying out infant circumcision, but for adults it really is just a single surgical procedure.

      No need to try and convince yourself. It is simply a matter of deciding whether you want to live with your current issues or resolve them once and for all.

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      Thanks for the valuable info apc01. I somewhere heard there is something called as frenuloplasty which is a smaller procedure than circumcision which retains the foreskin but stil works in certain cases. Will it work in mine? What exactly is frenuloplasty and how is it different from circumcision. Do you know anything about it?
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      Frenuloplasty is an option, but it is more complex and specialised than circumcision and presumably more expensive as well.

      Also there is a danger that Frenuloplasty can leave scar tissue which makes movement even more painful. If you do not want a circumcisioin you could always try Frenuloplasty and if that does not work there is still the option of circumcision.

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      Parents should not retract a child's foreskin.  This is what some national medical organisations say:

      AAP – "Care for an Uncircumcised Penis"

      "foreskin retraction should never be forced. Until the foreskin fully separates, do not try to pull it back. Forcing the foreskin to retract before it is ready can cause severe pain, bleeding, and tears in the skin."

      Canadian Paediatric Society

      "An uncircumcised penis is easy to keep clean and requires no special care:

      Keep your baby’s penis clean by gently washing the area during his bath. Do not try to pull back the foreskin. Never force it."

      "Keep your baby boy’s penis clean by gently washing the area. Do not try to pull back the foreskin. Usually, it is not fully retractable until a boy is 3 to 5 years old, or even until after puberty. Never force it."

      "It is important not to retract the foreskin forcefully for any reason."

      RACP policy statement on male circumcision

      "The foreskin requires no special care during infancy. It should be left alone. Attempts to forcibly retract it are painful, often injure the foreskin, and can lead to scarring and phimosis."

      The CPS suggests that early retraction is a lot more common than seems to be the case.  A Danish study (Øster) found that only 23% of boys could retract by the age of 6-7, and an average age of ten.

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      Yes, there are different kinds of circumcision.  It may well be too late, but I would strongly recommend against circumcision unless more conservative treatments have been tried first - stretching, steroid creams, and preputioplasty.

      Many men just choose to live with phimosis though.and it's simply not true that it will "bury any sexual relations".

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