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Told him & it will never be the same

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Koolredd
Koolredd

Told about my boyfriend about my herpes diagnosis last night after he went to the topic about it. I think he is still in shock more then anything .. The fact that I had relations with a girl & contracted it from a girl doesn't sit right with him ... More so it hurt my feelings that he took what I said as a joke .. He is mad because I won't tell him how it lead to us having / doing sexual things since she is suppose to be my friend and is someone I've known since 9th grade ... He wants the full details and I don't know how to tell him all that . Just confessing that I was positive with HPV 2 was a huge challenge for me ..

He kept telling me that we could no longer have sex because "im burned" and "I got that Pack" that hurt my feelings to the core out of everyone I figured he would be the most supportive heck I would've been better off talking/ telling my daddy before I told him .. And the fact that he feels he has to tell at least one person about this blows my mind this is something personal and if I wanted everyone or anyone to know I would tell them myself. It hasn't even been a month since I found out my diagnosis all of it is new to me and he doesn't seem to get that .

I can honestly say things will never be the same between us , I keep telling him to be honest and asking him what he wants to do ., I think it's the fact that he / we are so use to each other's presence that we don't know how to live without each other the attachment is so strong .

But I don't think he can handle this type of information in the long run ...

And because of this viral disease I don't see myself in the dating scene anytime soon .

Venting was much needed .

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  • Ashley7798
    Ashley7798 Koolredd

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    Im goin thru something similar my ex boyfriend left me & called me all oout of my name wen i found out called me nasty & everything & he still tants me with his baby's mom. He just texted me 30 mins ago. & i've only had sex with him. I believe he has it & thats where i got it from becus he continues to lie about stuff & i know that man we've been on & off since i was 16. But i understand your pain this is hard.
  • stephanie1217
    stephanie1217 Koolredd

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    hey ma im sorry to hear how it turned out..trust me i was scared to tell him too (husband) things actually suprised me well cause he supported me to the fullest he says he will stick to my side and learn to deal with it by my side..we do have a healthy sexual life...so please dont bum yourself out about having a great sex life...u can still be you..good thing they say the first OB is the worst and it will get less and less painful with less BO...i mean heck we just have fun last night 3 or 4 times with no worries...soo my point here is he is probably more in shock then anything that he is acting up saying meanful things to you..and honestly my husband use to always say sh*t that was messed up like hell naw if i ever find out you have some down there its over blah blah blah ect... but i didnt think i actually had soemthing like this ive always went and got my checks up and always neg...soo this time around suprised the life out of me i cried mostly everyday i couldnt stop thinking about it i seemed sad at work couldnt deal...especially cause i have a dirty little secret now!! and for him to want to tell some1 its underastandable but no right if u dont want that out in the open thats sacred to u...he seems a lil immature if u ask me i understand he might be mad or whatever but if thats your backbone he needs to take care of you and what you feel!...if it dont work out remember there will be somebody out there who wont look at it as a bad thing just a bad skin condition that activates from time to time thats all....
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