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Twelve years sober.

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TheToad
TheToad

12 years ago today I stopped drinking. I'm not posting this to get compliments etc, just to say that I did it after years of heavy drinking, over 1/2 a litre of whisky in an afternoon some days. There was no planning to do this, I just threw my drink out the window and said I am not going to do this any more. I know that this is almost impossible for a lot of people and I was lucky that I managed. Yes, I have been tempted but the urge to drink diminished over time. I go through the just one drink won't matter times every so often, but ok so far. I hope this is regarded as an encouraging post for those of you who are struggling.

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  • kerry24237
    kerry24237 TheToad

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    Checking in after my party weekend away. Now over 2 weeks without booze. Spent the weekend drinking zero beer with no problem at all. I was smoking which i dont do normally but right now that works for me ๐Ÿ˜ƒ something really has changed in my thinking, as in im not craving wine which is my go to drink but i am enjoying the 0 -% beer does this mean im using this as a booze substitute?

    Anyway still early days, but there are major changes im about to make in my life and realising it really isnt just the drink is helping me massively. im in a strong place and im looking forward.

    will respond to some of the replies soon but im finding it hard to use this site on my phone, it doesnt correct typos which is pai ful!! ่—่—่— best wishes to all. K

    • TheToad
      TheToad kerry24237

      Posted

      Great to wake up and read your progress! Looking forward to future positive posts. Well done Kerry!

    • Robin2015
      Robin2015 kerry24237

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      Totally amazing achievement already! I felt so thrilled and proud after two weeks sober and exuberant after one month. One month is a massive milestone...trust me..praying for you. You can do it. Robin

    • kerry24237
      kerry24237 Robin2015

      Posted

      Thank you Toad and Robin.

      Robin, ive read your posts about kids and busy schedules and i completely get it but ive found ive been so stressed at commuting, work in the city, commuting again, cooking, taking my son to football, arguing with my teenage daughter, those things have made me crave a drink.

      I'm between jobs this week and my daughter said last night, you make a great stay at home mum. Sadly thats never been affordable but does make me realise my drinking has been very much stress driven.

      One thing ive noticed is how much longer the days are and how much more productive i am right now!

      A month without drinking will be start of december....thats when i may start feeling woe is me at all the christmas dos. praying not.

      K

    • TheToad
      TheToad kerry24237

      Posted

      Yes, December can be a difficult month! For me, it's family birthdays, Christmas of course and long Summer days and the thought of a cold beer at the bbq. But the feeling of achievement and pride if you don't give in far outweighs the temporary pleasure of alcohol. I tell as many people as I can that I don't or can't drink helps, as they don't offer me a drink if it's alcoholic. I get some funny looks but that just makes me feel good. I think a lot of them might be a little bit envious too. YOU CAN DO IT!

    • Robin2015
      Robin2015 kerry24237

      Posted

      Hi Kerry, like you, xmas party coming up and 2 years ago at my work they all got drunk. Obviously. I did not. Somebody slapped a girl on the bottom and she did not like it at all. He was very drunk. Obviously. She was in the ladies toilet crying and chatting with our lady boss. He was in trouble i January. Obviously. However, she was dressed in a very revealing and short dress and had just been promoted but he had not..jealousy?? Yes. Negotiations started in january but he left of his own will. His wife at home with two month old baby boy and both of them suddenly not working. He got a job eventually and is still working and happy. See him passing now and then in our town. One rule only as you know DO NOT Get too drunk at xmas PARTies and misbehave. You can do it. You have a goal like me and a family to think of like me. Praying for you..Robin

  • TheToad
    TheToad

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    And here I am again. Same as the above post but 13 years today at 17.00 NZ time on 11/2/20 booze free. Still tempted, especially as I was aiming to reach this milestone and 'review the situation.' OK so far and will just sit back and watch cricket then eat dinner. WITHOUT A GLASS OF WINE! Good luck everyone.

    • vickylou
      vickylou TheToad

      Posted

      Hey a very good and wise decision. Well done, roll on the next 13 years haha

    • Robin2015
      Robin2015 TheToad

      Posted

      Amazing milestone. You must be proud of your achievement. Such a different life for you i am certain. Brilliant๐Ÿ˜„Robin

  • Princeblue
    Princeblue TheToad

    Posted

    well done and thank you for sharing. Yes your contribution is very welcome and inspiring

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