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ivan42
ivan42

Im a 42 year old straight male with a strange problem.

Several years ago i had a peyronnies correction proceedure (straightening of a severely curved penis)

This left me alot smaller when erect (from over 8 inches erect to just over 5 inches) I was circumsized during the procedure and this left my penis looking scarred and abnormal.

But I'm finding intercourse very uncomfortable and even painful.

After the operation, my penis stands up almost vertically, obviously requiring manual manipulation to where I want it to go.

This is very painful and I can lose erections because of this.

The positions I use can be difficult.

Missionary is impossible. Even if my partner puts her legs around my neck (she hates this)

Her on top is a no go because as soon as she thrusts im in agony.

The only real way I get any satisfaction is doggy style but rather than kneel behind, I crouch behind with my legs either side of her hips, so it looks like I'm leap frogging so to speak.

But my partner hates this, she says it hurts her and she all so states she doesn't trust me when I'm behind because I once withdrew and ejaculated over her buttocks.

I don't use condons as I've been sterilized but I don't mind using them as I last a lot longer when I wear one and my orgasms are much more pleasurable.

My partner hates me using condoms and is quite unsympathetic to my problems saying she won't do weird positions as she's not a porn star!

My previous partner actively begged for all the different positions ect and was far more sympathetic and helpful for my plight.

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  • Tewks
    Tewks ivan42

    Posted

    I would be devestated if i went from 8" to 5". How did that happen?
    • feelbroken
      feelbroken Tewks

      Posted

      Not a very conducive or sensitive response bro... Work on that... Trust me it ain't the length that is what counts, it's more the width and even then, I've had smaller guys and the sex was better w them, than any guy that was 7 inches or more... 5 inches is average... And what most men have..
    • ivan42
      ivan42 Tewks

      Posted

      U are told before you have the operation/procedure that you will loose around 1.5 inches from your erection and you are asked to confirm its not an issue or you won't make a fuss about the loss in the future- you sign an agreement not to take legal action if the procedure fails.

      Then that's it you are at their mercy.

      I'm not bothered about the loss of length because I can make my partner multiple orgasm now but couldn't when I was bigger and longer.

      In fact I could never fully penetrate my partner before as she claimed I hurt her but now i don't have that problem.

      All I've noticed is I tend to climax a lot quicker than i used too and for some unknown reason I produce much more seminal fluid than before so it can get very messy sometimes!

  • Will_Barrow
    Will_Barrow ivan42

    Posted

    Try to speak to your wife seriousy in an open way about all these problems. If she can't turn to you and understand you, there's no chance you'll be happy with her. Don't waste your life. 
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