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Understanding the Invisable

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Maggers
Maggers

If you fibro folk can bear another thought on today's society!   Written after a comment from a friend - made me think how many folk out there are misunderstood.   Called No Spots.

No spots, no scars, no walking frame

No cast, no splints or bandages

And so she is not entitled to consideration or a kindly word

A shirker, hypochondriac.

Fatigued she said

We all get tired

It’s more than that she cried

I’m numb, exhausted, foggy brained

Blind in one eye.

But still no visible reason for her laziness

Believing her to be

A benefit cheat as the papers say

For all of us to see.

She limps sometimes and then forgets

Or so it seems to them

They have no comprehension 

One day fine another not to suit her they believe

If only they would take the time to see what is

Underneath

And understand the nature of her ills

 but quick to judge they are

Their accusations and their gossip

Eventually reach her ears

She can take no more  and an

Overdose finds her on the floor.

Guilty neighbours rally round

If only we had known

We could have helped her cope they cried

And now, well what of now

 community rallied round and we find

A caring happy neighbourhood where

Side by side man and woman stand

United to the cause

To treat as would be treated one and all.

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  • lisa52101
    lisa52101 Maggers

    Posted

    I too don't know what I would do without my husband. I am also a control freak which can make me difficult to be around. My husband would say I'm stubborn but I'm always quick to reply I'm not stubborn just tenacious. See, I even have to be in control of the name of my not giving in.

    My first marriage was rather abusive but it made me value my present husband so much more. Like Christine I thank my husband daily for what he does for me, and his reply is always that I would do it for him, which I would. I do feel for him though, he married a size 10, 6ft 1" sports mad, energetic woman, who disappeared before his eyes within a yr of marriage.

    Anyway on a more cheerful note I agree with you on the jewellery front. I love the stories behind familial pieces of jewellers, especially when it can be traced back generations. I have a really simple rose gold wedding band that belonged to my grandmother which I wear on a matching fine chain. I often find myself playing with it whilst watching TV etc. My oldest daughter has no interest in it whatsoever, so my youngest daughter will have it when I'm gone. It will have been in my family for 100yrs in March 2017.

    • Maggers
      Maggers lisa52101

      Posted

      Your ring sounds lovely so nice to have a daughter to pass it on to. Lets hope it stays in your family for many generations to come.  I think as we grow older we appreciate family pieces more.  I keep meaning to tell my adult children about the bits and pieces I have bought at antique fairs as I would hate to think they would be discarded when I go. They at least need to know they are not rubbish!
    • lisa52101
      lisa52101 Maggers

      Posted

      I think it's really nice to have something to pass on. I think for me it comes from having a family that's spread all around the world. My children,for a variety of reasons, have had little in the way of contact with family members. Talking about where particular possessions have come from helps me to connect my older relatives with the younger generation. It also helps me to work out who is best suited to what so that those items and those stories will continue on with their children to come.
    • kaz_40
      kaz_40 Maggers

      Posted

      My mum passed her wedding ring enagagement ring and other bits of jewellery onto me before she passed away. my bits of jewellery and my moms wedding ring engagement ring will be passed on to my children and hopefully onto their children. I also had both my grandmas jewellery when they passed away. I think its lovely to pass jewellery even furniture paintings pottery like royal worcester crown derby minton etc. I like old pottery Ive got quite a few bits. 
    • bronwyn97278
      bronwyn97278 lisa52101

      Posted

      Yes me too lisa....was just going to add that "vote" to say I agreed, but thought," don't be lazy"....but am feeling lazy, sorry...........Bron
  • bronwyn97278
    bronwyn97278 Maggers

    Posted

    Hi to all again;  you know what I have picked up from these last few inputs, which the Fibro sites tell us too....that pesonalities like our's...pedantic, leaders, what some call "control freaks" but to me, just people/personalites that are leaders/strong /empathetic/want the best and do their best at their careers etc, are the types that come down with Fibro....do you think if we all changed our personalities (which I know is impossible), would we get better????   wink  Bron
    • bronwyn97278
      bronwyn97278 Maggers

      Posted

      to Christine and Maggers.....no dears, not Control Freaks....for I don't think I'm one (actually have turned a blind eye to a lot of stuff from other family members)....just the Special Personalities that care, and who others turn to when in need of adice/ear to listen to etc......the Perfectionists/leaders who will only accept the best at their chosen careers ......get what I mean?..............Bron
    • anne90395
      anne90395 Maggers

      Posted

      Hello,

      What a great discussion, all about what I absolutely feel. Admit I haven't read all of it,, as quite tired now. I am just so worried about the children we are producing now. I am an Infant school teacher, can only work a couple of days a week now. What I see going on in schools appals me! To-day I was called a dick-head by a 5year old. Makes me so sad.

      Take care, Anne

    • bronwyn97278
      bronwyn97278 anne90395

      Posted

      Yes Anne;  this I AM AFRAID comes fom the Parents, usually.  I am emabarrassed to say that I have one daughter who "feels free to use language that I find Unacceptable", but tells her children that "they cannot use same".....she Just does not seem to "get it" that children's Primary source of Behaviour/Language etc comes from Example....there is no good saying "I'm the Adult, do as you are told".....it just doesn't work that way???? and I am sorry that you were exposed to same.....Bron
    • kaz_40
      kaz_40 anne90395

      Posted

      Hi anne Thats terrible what that 5 year old called you. The children of today seem to have no respect and no manners, its is sad how things have become. take care
    • Maggers
      Maggers anne90395

      Posted

      So sad that a five year old was exposed to this sort of behaviour. Children are great mimics and my grandmother always told me "children repeat in the street what they hear by the fireside"  wise old lady my grandma.  Pity a few more grandmas did not pass this one on.
    • kaz_40
      kaz_40 Maggers

      Posted

      My husband told me aboutt his boss taking his son swimming, and him over hearing a child around 6 say to an asian child hey you get back to your corner shop. for him to say that he must of heard it from a parent . The lad that said it was btween 5 -6. children pick up things from their parents.   
    • Maggers
      Maggers kaz_40

      Posted

      that is a terrible thing to say.  I remember some 25 yrs ago my son aged 5 asked me if his new friend Andrew could come for tea. I did not know Andrew so asked my son to describe him. He was not very clear so I asked him to point Andrew out the next morning. He did so and Andrew was the only Asian child in the class. It had not occurred to my son to describe him so. He was just Andrew his friend.  So lovely that creed and colour did not come into it.   As you say children pick up positives as well as negatives from the adults around them.
    • kaz_40
      kaz_40 Maggers

      Posted

      my husbands boss was stunned when he heard the lad saying it especially coming from a child so young. unfortunatly its the society we live in now its sad.  
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