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jackie73005
jackie73005

Please help i am 58 years old i have been married for nearly 40 years and i love my  husband so much.  It hurts so much when we try and make love i am dry and sore and although he is very understanding i do not want to give up my sex life.  Yes products help a little but it still burns so badly.  I also have lichen sclerosus i feel such a mess.

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  • honeyduck74
    honeyduck74 jackie73005

    Posted

    Hi Jackie,

    I can totally understand how you are feeling :-(  I'm 38 and have been suffering for quite a few years (longer than I probably should have been) I have tried emu oil and have found it to be very beneficial and soothing, so might be worth a try, I have also tried Vagifem and although it seemed to puff everything up (sorry if thats too much information) the headaches were awful, so the doctor took me off it, I am using Oilatum in my baths and showers which is a great help and have been prescribel Hydromol (barrier type cream). I too have a very understanding partner as I have been unable to have sex for 2 years and it bothers me alot, are you on any medication from the doctor?

    Sending a hug :-)

    • jackie73005
      jackie73005 honeyduck74

      Posted

      Hi Yes i was also put on Vagifem but like you the headaches were horrendous.  I am now trying the more natural water based pessaries and hoping these help.  I will try the emu oil, i gave coconut oil a go but it made me sore.  Thanks for the hug. x
    • Joannwilson
      Joannwilson honeyduck74

      Posted

      Accidentally saw this section. I just wanted to let you all know that men can have problems in the bedroom area too. My dear spouse has had a major problem since being on blood pressure meds. I have had to deal with the end of my ex life too. So be assured I'm not leaving him because he can't perform. I wouldn't think he'd leave me in that situation either after 37 years we have to adjust. Yes I miss the fun sometimes but oh well I know there is more than fun we love each other and have dealt with so many things together we hopefully will weather this too I just want to give you all one bit of advice. Love yourself. Make your own lives happy and happiness will follow you lol. 
  • Joannwilson
    Joannwilson jackie73005

    Posted

    I've had to learn that there is more to ife than sex. Lol.  I've been married 37 years  and been through a lot with this man I share my life. Our problem is his blood pressure meds. They cause that dysfunction advertised on tv that I guess Viagra is supposed to be for.  I asked hubby to tell his dr and they gave him some but it did not  help. So now I just listen to him snore. I never thought I'd miss the bedroom circus act but yeah I do on occasion get those old temptations but, I get out my laptop and watch a funny movie and forget about it. I hope you find a solution. As no one has mentioned yet there's "more than one way to skin a rabbit" so to speak. And if that is undesirable because of the taste or something then use a prophylactic ( condom). There's even flavored ones. Lol. Now if they had one for ladies to use inside then we'd be set. 
    • Morrell1951
      Morrell1951 Joannwilson

      Posted

      Thanks for the perspective, Joann. I've had LS for over forty years, through several marriages and I'm way finished with servicing men with other parts of my body. If I sound bitter, you are correct. If I'd been with this guy for 37 years, everything would be different. Most guys who are on dating sites in their sixties don't have that Viagra problem. Whatever they say to the contrary, sex is very important to them. Going from being a serial monogamist to a celibate self-sufficient woman isn't heartbreaking.
  • val82862
    val82862 jackie73005

    Posted

    Jackie I am just the same as you we have been married over 46 years and I have the same problem I could also do with some advice.
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