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I have just split up from my partner of 6 years, she is pretty much all had. I suffer the affects of a brain injury. I'm not getting any help and I am feeling very lonley. I feel like I'm having a constant breakdown.

someone to talk to or hang out with hopefully would be a great help right now. I feel so alone...

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    Where do you live? You need to talk through your problems with your GP. They should be able to refer you. Are there no bran injury forums or help groups you could call on who know what you are going through. Do you not have any family and friends who can help to get you out and about and "put there" hope you feel brighter and more able to cope soon, but I know emotions are heightened in bran injuries. Take care x

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      it sounds easy but isnt, often its hard to communicate with other organizations, and its hard to get there if appt is made and its frustrating and tiring...most family and friends dont care or understand...let alone professionals...
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      Dear Mike,

      I think that when we are alne, better to give ourselves away and help peop[le that is in worst situation than us. I lost my husband in 2007 and the best thing I did was to be volunteer for hospice,I found myself in the right path. God is alive and never abandon us. I love to serve. Better to give.

      There are a lot of people out there that need you!

      God bless you!

      Celita

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      Hi Vicky, I live near Sheffield. GP's and doctors don't understand, and the only place where I can go needs to be funded because it's private.

      helth care will not pay for it. I have a brother and a few friends, I find hard to put my problems on to the few friends I have, I don't see them very often, I find it hard to talk and I just shut down,,

      My emotions are off the scale. That is one off the main things that affects my day to day life, it's unbearable and so mentally draining.

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    Hi Wayne depression is one of the worst things to try and overcome.  There is only you who can try to snap out of it. It's not ray but you need to go out and meet people. There should be plenty of groups you could join. I'm a member of the ramblers society and have been for the last 16 years. This is something that kept me going and it's also good exercise and very sociable.

    Keep your head up and any time you feel low come on this forum. There are caring people you can get rid of some of your depression and frustration.

    Brenda C

     

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      snap out of it? o mg...how insensitive...plenty of groups? please...try and find and them get there? its not as easy as it sounds...not as many caring folks as you think
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      hi Mike its not me that is depressed. Its my advise to wayne to join a group and get out and meet people.  It will do him a world of good.

      Brenda C

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      Hi Brenda, Thank you for your reply.

      It's more than just depression as a result of the head injury I can break down, quite severely. It can feel like I'm having a panic attack for about two or three days.... I can't do any thing, i can't switch off, I just shut down 😔

       I would love to meet new people and rambling sounds really good.

      but I find it hard to talk and socialise, especially when I feel as messed up has I am 😢

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    Greetings Wayne,  You have made a very good and positive first step to reach out to others.  Congradulations.  Next you could try to find something in your immediate area which would get you out and with others.  Your GP and/or local medical facility may be able to help.  It sounds like you are experiencing grief following a personal loss.  There are people going through the same thing that meet (often through a medical or church or community setting) and talk and help each other.  Your brain injury probably makes things worse and your doctor or a brain injury "group" may help with that issue.  When I moved to a new state without knowing anyone I joined 3 different groups just to get to know people and find new friends.  It worked.  I love my new town.  Good luck to you and keep reaching out!     

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      I have gone to groups where no one else came or its just one person and not much activity or anything accomplished...they system sucks and sometimes so called support groups suck more..its sad...
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      Hi Mike and Wayne,  I mostly agree with you about not much activity or getting much of anything accomplished in support groups. It is sad!   But, one has to GO to see what it's all about and then figure out if it's helpful or not.  In the past I've joined 2 support groups.  One was for parents of troubled kids.  This is horrible but I liked going because based on what other parents were going through I had it easy........so I felt better each time I went and I learned a bit too.   The 2nd was for breast cancer.  I was lucky I learned a lot, recovered, and outgrew the group within 5 or so months.  There are many other "groups" out there that one can try.  To get out and met people when I moved to a new town I joined the Newcomers Club and the local community/parks and rec center and gym for classes and equipment use.  That's where I met great friends. Some people would recommend church, but that's for a believer. Currently, I would recommend volunteering.  Choose something that you like cause you would met other volunteers that like the same things.  I'm into political activity now but, there is a lot to choose from.....animal shelter, library, boy's and girl's clubs, meals on wheels, nursing home.  Enough of this.  Just take care.    

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      Hi Devsmom thanks for your reply. It's really hard for me to socialise especially when I feel as bad as I do.

      the health care where I live is not good at all, I've had a lot of problems trying to get the care I need, I hit brick walls with the health care service all the time, they don't understand brain injury,, and yes the brain injury makes it ariffic and so mentally painfull, it's like having an hart attack in my head.

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    Dear Wayne,

    I 'm so sorry for you! Yes, some moments we have to deal with a lot of issues at the same time. I 'm Christian and I get all my strantghs from my Lord Jesus. He is always with me and without him I am nothing. Thanks God I have a wonderful husband and he supports me spiritually and as my best friend.

    Try to make new friends and even a church can help you. Be willing to open your heart and ask God for help. For now, read Jeremiah 33.3

    Your friend,

    Celita

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