Very Sad

Not a very nice thing to suggest Derek if you don't mind me saying! If you love someone, you don't threaten to go and have sex with someone else. You try and discuss the problem gently!

He didn't say he still loves her and she basically has cut him out of her life. He doesn't say how well they get on or what the rest of their life together is like. They have had 15 years to discuss the problem and presumably did.

He has evidently raised the matter with their doctor perhaps they should discuss it together with him or go to Relate.

He didn't say she had cut him out of his life, just that she didn't want sex any more. Yes I agree that Relate would be a good idea if they are both willing as a third person might help them listen to each other's needs. It takes two to make a marriage work and when there is a problem, each needs to hear the other and respect them.

I actually meant a major part of their life. But that part must lead to other problems in the intimacy of living together. Does she ever visualise what he is having to do in private ?

Maybe she does but it seems as if there is a breakdown in their communication with each other so couples counselling could really help them both.

If you only knew. if there's anybody that believes an open line of communication that's me. typically men keep a tight lip if they're not happy which turns out tragic in a relationship and stupidity on their part. no you're definitely wrong on this I've done everything possible to be open about the problem but still she would rather not talk about it. we're not newlyweds either going on 48 years of marriage I would have never thought we would have this kind of an issue. but like I said it is what it is and I have learned to live with this circumstance.

Did you get this from patient info?https://news.patient.info/4HSP-HGK8-6A3ALPT4E0/cr.aspx

she she doesn't even no what I'm doing it's all done in . I'm sure she wouldn't approve. I have seeked help from my medical professional, family members and a close friend. and all agree that I have made every effort possible to make things better.

I did some research on what was going on and I realized that menopause played a big part in this problem. it was recommended to me that she might need hormone treatment but she said she would have no part in that due to the health risk.

It sounds a sad situation all round. I hope things work out for you both. It's nothing to do with anyone but you two but as you posted it on this forum, people will have an opinion and make suggestions, which is all I was trying to do.

No I didn't Derek. I have my own views. It's great for both in a relationship if sex is still important and very difficult if one's sex drive diminishes. I hope things will work out for the chap who wrote on the forum.

She is probably past the age when hormone therapy would help. How is her general and mental health. She is of an age when a medical check up and blood tests might be of benefit. You never know she may have worries about her health and many ladies hide them out of fear or embarrassment of examination. Often better to see the practice nurse than a male GP.

Presumably as reluctant to even discuss it with you she will not have confided in anyone else or did any family members raise it with her after you spoke to them. Does she have any sisters?