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theresa53424
theresa53424

Today is one of those days where I just want to b***h slap the professionals. I work in health care too, and the professionals have admitted they are not educated enough on Menopause. The stories I have been reading from women these last two months have been grueling. I have cried many times reading what you're all going through. Its the same story after another..... What's it going to take for these health care professionals to start educating themselves on Menopause. This is not a laughing matter, this is serious s**t. 30% of men leave their spouses during menopause, there has been a 45% increase rate of women committing suicide in the last 15 years over menopause, many women can't work; They have been forced to quit, get fired, collect disability, short term disability, go out on FMLA. Whats it going to take to get ALL MEDICAL CARE STAFF on board with this? I sound p****d, and I am, but I'm justified. Enough is enough..... I'm more educated then the professionals. I've spent over $300.00 in the last 2 weeks just on natural products because one, I'm allergic to anti depressants and my OB refuses to put me on hormones due to past history issues. I'd rather live a damn normal life for the next 10 years and feel somewhat normal then to have to worry about the consequences later. I know my body better than anyone else. But yet you want to rule my feelings, emotions, and deprive me of having a normal life? The system is effed up! And honestly, I'm so fed up..... My advice, because that's all I got right now; Be your own advocate and don't be afraid to speak out. I don't sleep, I have extreme anxiety, panic attacks, fainted, no bladder control, barely eat, afraid something will trigger my anxiety, I live off vitamins, cream, CBD, vitamin D, Magnesium, and so much more. I've become paranoid, living in fear constantly, and yet all blood work and other tests come back normal. Oh and lets not forget we're being told, no caffeine, no alcohol, no cigarettes, no sugar, etc. BLAH BLAH BLAH.....  Oh and then there's prayer, yep, been there done that too. Yep just commit me, I could use a damn vacation. Vent done..... 

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  • juanita93228
    juanita93228 theresa53424

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    Hi Theresa. I'm so sorry you are having such a hard time. It's funny you put the suicide rate among menopausal women. I was just discussing this with another lady on the forum the other day. We were wondering what the rate was and 45% is quite high. I can understand, I have good days and bad. I have to hold tightly to my faith because there have been days where I have thought about it but the thought goes as quickly as it comes. Not an option for me. And the rate of women that have to leave work is staggering. I watched a YouTube video and this woman was talking about menopause. She said she was learning to deal with the physical symptoms, but it was the crushing depression that was getting to her. I don't understand these [email]d@mn[/email] doctors (I have a great gyno and PCP, by the way, both women, but it took me while to find them after my old gyno and PCP retired) 

    You are right, this is serious stuff, anything that can make you think you're dying or going insane needs a closer look. I just think they (doctors) think it's just a natural thing that happens and we should just get over it. But when men came in complaining about not being able to "rise to the occasion" Viola! They came out with Viagra! I want a pill that makes it all go away. Just think, if you suffer from depression anyway and then you hit menopause? I think that's what happened to Kate Spade. I also think her husband was leaving her also.

    I used to never mind being alone, I have close wonderful friends, but when they weren't available I had no problem going to the movies or trying out a new restaurant alone. I went to the movies by myself in July, but I took half a Valium to do it. I have awakened in the morning afraid to get out of bed.

    They can forget the no alcohol crap, I'm still working and sometimes I have a glass(or two) of wine after work. I also find myself longing for a husband, I didn't used to give a hoot about that either(I'm 59 never married, no kids).

    I dream of winning the lottery and being able to take time to travel for a while and then start my own business(freelance wedding photography).

    Even though it was completely wrong Theresa, I understand why they put women in asylums, they didn't know what else to do and unfortunately they still don't.

    As for your family be glad that sorry excuse for a husband left. He didn't deserve you. He didn't even try to understand what was happening with you.  As for your daughter, when her symptoms hit she'll come crying to you because you can bet the woman he left you for won't be around(he's cheating on her too I'll bet or soon will be).  Just my two cents.

    • theresa53424
      theresa53424 juanita93228

      Posted

      Thank Jaunita, your reply to me was heart warming and I teared up. You're a very special person to respond in such a kind and loving way when I'm just a stranger. I can relate with you too, especially being afraid to get out of bed. I know that feeling all to well. The Viagra comment was awesome and so TRUE! My ex husband did me a favor by leaving, and to be honest not once have I missed him or needed him. Karma is a b***h though. I'm dating a man and he's wonderful, he knows I'm going through menopause and he has researched menopause online and everyday he'll text and call just to make sure I'm doing okay. He lives 2 1/2 hours away, this is hard on me because when I'm feeling anxious and scarred he's the one person who helps me through it. I feel safe when he's around. Like you, I was never afraid to be alone and very independent but lately having someone around me, and/or him I feel better, safer I guess. I never know why I'm so afraid, anxious, paranoid, and full of anxiety. We're going to be okay, we'll get through this! Offer your two cents anytime! Hugscheesygrin

    • juanita93228
      juanita93228 theresa53424

      Posted

      We are in this together. I don't feel like you're a stranger. This is something that affects millions of women. I went to the dentist today And my hygienist is going through it too. She said she's exhausted all the time. She's taking Wellbutrin. She wants to retire but financially she can't right now.

      We can't go over, around, under or over menopause. So we just have to take a deep breath, hold tight to our faith and go through it. We will not let it defeat us!

  • Finny2018
    Finny2018 theresa53424

    Posted

    Theresa - thanks for your honesty and for sharing so much of how many of us feel. I have found so much support on this forum and to know I am not alone and am in a place where I can be heard and even better than that; understood. 
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