We need to be gentle with each other ...
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Dear hippy clan.....
I have a concern. Rose's survey suggests that there are a goodly number in the present cohort of recent hippies who have struggles in and on the road to revovery.
I suss I've had a better than average recovery myself, as a pretty fit 70yo guy. But, at the time of my operation and after, nearly a year ago, everyone else seemed to be throwing away crutches after a couple of weeks, driving, doing tap dancing or whatever. Sooo, while this site is lovely, it was a little hard for me to post I was struggling to cross the longue without crutches, hanging onto furniture and then lunging to the next piece of furniture!
Now though, every one to gloomy and struggling, so it seems a little hard to post I've just walk 20,000 steps or 11 miles across fenland at the weekend!
Sooooo, let's celebrate ups and downs - whatever the prevailing weather!
Take care
Mic
x
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sue50140 mic71403
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sue1957Geo mic71403
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Suexx
rose0000 mic71403
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linnet2015 rose0000
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Take care
Love from
Linnet xx
rose0000 linnet2015
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Well it is completely knackering isn't it, they are beautiful, spritely happy children full of the joys, and I am a shuffling shell of my former self trying to juggle it all on my very last legs today, my husband's laboured breathing keeps me up all night worrying and checking on him, and the noise of his chest is terrible, I have been worried sick but he is much brighter now thankfully thank you so much for asking. .
I even made time to do my exercises today (The children were playing outside and turned the back garden slope into a mud slide (!!) and had the best fun, totally covered from head to foot in mud by the end of my physio exercises god help me) My Husband is stirring in the pits of chest infection hell, I can't carry trays up and down the stairs, so I am having to do a hundred journeys up and down (not bad exercise, I am going to give J-Lo a run for her money at this rate) and because I was able to come on the forum and be honest about how hard it has been this week, it relieved the pressure that was building inside me. I can see it really isn't the end of the world now, I am just very, very tired and drained and aching. And if I am being honest Linnet, I really do need to have my other hip replaced, it has upset me a lot, because it is hurting so much, my new hip is so rock solid....I just can't face it, I am only just getting through having one....tomorrow is a new day and need to keep hoping it will just pass....and so many on the forum have managed to have both done. My good non operated hip keeps collapsing and is scaring the life out of me. I don't want to have a fall and risk my new one...same old same old... It will okay. I managed to get through another day!!!
linnet2015 rose0000
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As you know I have had both done now and although I felt wonderful to begin with when I had my first hip done, gradually the pain from my other hip took over and actually hampered my recovery. So finally with the second op I have no pain at all and its wonderful.
The biggest difference between us is our age and our family circumstances. I am 65 and although I have certain family commitments they are not 24 hours a day/365 days a year like you. So first of all you need to talk to your surgeon to see when he can do your other hip. Then try to make any future date for your operation at a time when your children are at school. As you sadly have no family support (apart from your lovely husband) the best time to have your operation would be June or September. I know you are worried/frightened but even though you are young, having an operation on your other hip can only be good, no pain, start to live and love life again.
Take care, let me know how you are getting on (pm if you prefer).
Love and a big hug
Linnet x
Kate53CornUK linnet2015
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While I was in having number two done last week I met a fab girl of 35 having her first, we were the only two in the ward. During in the night on Day 2 she went to the bathroom and came back and started crying. Her new hip was fine but she had suddenly been reminded that the other one was just as painful and would need doing soon. It was all too much. Like you, Rose, she had two young children at home, a good man but an awful lot to face.The nurse made us a cup of tea and we sat talking until the sun came up. I told her how I had felt when I had to admit that a second was not an option and how it had devastated me.
In the morning she thanked me - she could now see that if I could get through two then so could she.
Rose, I would say the same to you. I had to wait another 6 months to get the next one - it was tough and my recovery from the healing righty was shadowed by the failing leftie.
I have had many times when I have wept in pain and frustration but a friends wise words to me have always stayed with me....
"You can visit Pity City but you can't book a room there"
This operation is mega, life changing, slow, frustrating and just plain s****y but there is always hope of a future better than the half life we had. Wipe your tears and crack on until the next meltdown, you are a lot stronger than you think!
HipsDontLie Kate53CornUK
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I'm on day 6 and I've been wiping tears every night but I still get up in the morning and work it because there's a better tomorrow!
xx, Paula, Okinawa
renee01952 HipsDontLie
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How are you doing, sweetheart ? are you still in a lot of pain ? How about the constipation?
Why are you crying every night? I know it is a very emotional roller coaster as well, but if we can help you here, please feel free to share okay?
You are not alone ...
big warm hug
renee
RosemaryT mic71403
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mic71403 RosemaryT
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Good luck - nice to hear from you.
yo, go at your own pace.
my hospital requested crutches back at 6 weeks, which was a spur to me, but it doens't work that way for everyone!
hugs
mic
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renee01952 mic71403
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How is the crouching going?
big warm hug, big guy
renee
linnet2015 mic71403
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But it can be your age that is the factor and I dont necessarily mean the more mature! I hadnt realised until I joined the forum how many young people have this op and how difficult it can sometimes make their recovery when say you have young children to look after once your partner has gone back to work.
I have been extremely lucky - 2 ops no complications (touch wood!), a lovely husband to help me when he's not at work and the luxury to rest as much as I needed, when I needed to.
The forum and the lovely hippies and hippies to be have been a godsend and I hope it will always be here for all future hippies to get help, information, kindness and understanding and most importantly somewhere to celebrate, congratulate, shout, cry and have a moan.
🤗👍😨😥😠
Love to all from sunny Surrey
Linnet xx
mic71403 linnet2015
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mic
xx
Rocketman_SG6UK mic71403
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I am being pressured to go back to work early, But at 6 weeks, I know I'm just not ready yet - luckily I won't see my surgeon for another week, but then I bet the pressure will be on again.
Celebrating getting rid of my TEDs again yesterday, so that is worth a whole weekend's worth of partying in my book!!!!
Best
Graham
linnet2015 Rocketman_SG6UK
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Dont let them pressure you to go back to work until you are good and ready, Im sure they have no idea just what you have been through.
Take care 😀
Linnet x
Rocketman_SG6UK linnet2015
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I might just keep them as super flight socks.
I know they have no idea, even most of the hospital staff looking after us have no idea either. We did have one physio that had a knee replacement, she knew what wearing TEDs was like!
valleyregirl Rocketman_SG6UK
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I have only been on this site for a couple days & hear a lot about TED's. Without sounding ignorant can I ask what that is? I'm assuming it's the socks to prevent blood clots. My doc didn't have me wear those once I got home. He just had me take an aspirin a day for 4 weeks. I am from California & have noticed a lot of people on here are from the UK & maybe the use of them is common there! Congratulations on getting rid of them!
linnet2015 Rocketman_SG6UK
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Linnet x
Rocketman_SG6UK valleyregirl
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TEDs = ThromboEmbolism-Deterrent - like super flight socks.
Some places swear by them, others (me included) swear at them. They seem to be more common in the UK.
Graham