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Gemmalemma15
Gemmalemma15

I'm suffering really bad from anixety & panic attacks, I can't sit n watch tv or anything as my mind is wondering 😢😢 

Im scared of dying n leaving my kids 😢😢 

Im healthy apart from the anixety n panic, What do u all do wen u feel 1 comin on ? 

I have been trying 2 ignore it & carry on what I was doing as hard as it is, is this the rite thing 2 do ??

i can't eat as it gets stuck in my throat but I forcin it down 😢😢

Sleeping is all mixed up been Up since 4.20 😢😢

Now I'm sat here worried about taking my little man 2 school at mo 

Please go away I dunno wot else 2 do x

 

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  • samisami60
    samisami60 Gemmalemma15

    Posted

    Gem I am reading the responses and what I can tell you- GOOD ADVICE... I had panic attacks out of nowhere when I was 17 on the way to college- I will never forget having to pull over for NO reason- and feeling lightheaded and like I was going to throw up... I wasn't doing anything or thinking of anything bad- the SUBCONCIOUS is the culprit I learned-

    So here is the good news, YES they go away... I had them for 4 years- my doctor at first gave me xanax temp and low dose of Zolofit which years ago was originally made for panic disorder.... I am sure everyone gets the samples they started you at 7.5 to 12.5- a reg dose was 75mg-

    I was FINE after 2 weeks at 12.5 I was on it for 3+ years... I would get them before the medication in the car- Your brain remembers the first one and thus everytime you get into the car or wherever the first one started it's instantaneously an issue- It was weird for me as it also occured on a plane.... and the angst I had to fly was like no other... I remember going into the airplane bathroom and crying - the warm rush up my spine- nausea- dizzy etc... I thought I was going to die in the air- no one would be able to help me- I would pass out in front of everyone ) this was my fear not what happened)....

    I went to a CBT and learned a very important tool- she told me- when you get that feeling let it happen... I did not understand how and why she would want me to allow for the FULL BLOWN panic attack- truth is- I never had one- but made myself fearful that I may- 

    The first time i was not in the frame of mind where that would work and I suffered- a week or 2 later I learned to give in and see what happens- the meds had kicked in I made sure to take only a small dose- to have no side effects which I only had sleepiness and that disappated when I took at night... 

    I learned I had control... a type A gal here doesn't give up control easy lol... after a few months on meds and giving in- it did get much better... I do get VERY mild oanic attacks I am 1/2 a century old now smile I can control them- and ask myself 

    What is the worst thing that would could happen? Alll my fears were not reasonable- trust me I tired to get into this reason so I would get some answers to solve my issues which I am extroverted to a T and became so afraid to leave my home.... Truth is- I told NO ONE- and keeping that inside was the worst- I did not want judgement... I thought they would tell me to suck it up and it would go away... some did- BUT nothing really happened.... and so my cure was really being able to share with myself or with good friends when I was having one- instead of freaking out inside scared to die etc- it's too much to keep inside- I rememember sharing with a few friends and they grabbed my hand and said if you need to cry just do it- you will feel better- and eventually I did... The fear was of the unknown and that was what made it worse- I learned we all fear unknown- but telling yourself it's OK to feel anxiety it's OK to share scared... it's OK to cry- or think crazy thoughts- that is when I learned I was cured...

    That was over 25 years ago- I do get a bout of angst here and there- but I know how to make it end quicker... and that is to let it happen- most type a personas get panic b/c we want to be in control of ourselves and somethings in life- panic only proves you do have the ability to stop fear- anger- sadness and more- because you share you are OK to do this... Most importantly tell yourself whether in panic or not you are OK to feel this way- You can control what happens to you inside- You do have the power to beat that crazy heartbeating dry mouth and overwhelming amount of fear...

    Best advice- like Mrs Wife etc.. let it happen- slowly- dont rush it...I can promise you eventually it works- the meds are just a tool until you can get yourself back on track... I took them and went off them 2 times in the 4 years... I also weaned myself off eventhough the doctor shared the low dose I had didn't need it- I decided to do what I wanted to make me feel OK with the breakup of me and mr pills lol.... I took time.. and knew if I needed to go back on them- I just had to make a call-

    Remind yourself it's OK to have that internal freak out and most importantly share it's OK to have this fear b/c that is alll that it is- stress can make us really screwy at times.... and this is a flag warning us of something we are not comfortable with-

    think hard... what is the BIGGEST fear you have that brings a level 1-10??? And when do you get that worst fear? You may have a perfect day no stress etc- BUT yet still get this- truth is- it's your body's way of sharing you need to allow for this feeling because it's something which is much deeper and defnitely curable pills or not....

    One secret I learned after 20 gazillion ER vists thinking I was dying... take a alcohol swab and smell it- it sounds crazy BUT it really works- 2nd- a peppermint with real peppermint oil... it's a natural relaxing oil to aid in R/R- I keep them handy and knowing I have this in my purse makes me feel better even today even if I dont need it... 

    • mrs.wife24531
      mrs.wife24531 samisami60

      Posted

      Awesome response what im going through feels like im dying and I don't want to. My family needs me
    • samisami60
      samisami60 mrs.wife24531

      Posted

      I have been there too- I have a 11 year old and sadly going through divorce- anxiety I have had but TG this is not panic- although I have felt a bit overwhelmed thinking of her- I had to put my fight for residency on hold- I have some medical issues and would have lost it-

      Your family needs you- and that is a good way to think of it- however, your family is going to be there regardless of the angst and this will eventually get to a bearable feeling for you- I know this feels like dying...trust me I thought for sure I would have a heartattck and die- and no one would be able to help me- Your not going to die- I think the more "rationable" side of the brain says this but the fearful side says BUT BUT BUT..Did you know that no one has ever died from a panic attack? No one.....It cannot cause you harm by hvaing it- it can cause a stomach ache or head ache- lack of sleep too much sleep hunger/no hunger...again... these are all mental issues that you can control.... think about it- Your mind is POWERFUL and can cause so much and can make the impossible seem possible... even when your certain this is a physical problem it's that convincing... You have to outsmart what your body and mind have learned from eachother- Your job today is to show your mind that this is NOT a physical issue---it's all driven by stress and angst....

      Can you get high bloodpressure etc from a panic attack? No- Can your heart race? Of course... but that won't kill you...even super high pulse in addition to that feeeling that your geart is beating so fast it will cause a heart issue.... it's NOT possible....

      Remmeber those whom have stress can cause harm to the body- this is not stress and moreso your body's way of showing fear- You have to outsmart your mind- the body will forget what to do if you can conquer it- and you can... I did.... many here have too- and if you read and learn about it- PA do not cause disease etc- sadly it's mental the worst it can cause is more angst and it may be over nothing- 

      I am happy I helped... I know this feel ihave so well- I had no one to share it with and so scared thought everyone knew this- they must see this on me- guess what? They never knew until I shared one day... and that day was the best day of my life- the weight of hiding this was not worth it and my friends reassured me it's normal and some people have it worse than others- but in the end- everyone can cure it no matter what... it's mind over body- make the choice to send this panic crap packing...tell yourself it's OK to feel this and no it's not physical eventhogh it shows physical symptoms.... How many times I have had friends whom thoght the mother/father themselves were having a heart attck and after the ER learned- even with the worst crying anxiety etc... it was only a panic attack smile 

    • mrs.wife24531
      mrs.wife24531 samisami60

      Posted

      Thanks for your reply

      You articulated that very well and that has helped me tonight. I'm trying to explain to my husband what's going on. I do believe i have ppd/ppa and it's scary somedays I feel like im so out of it and just not myself. I know things will get better because it has before. I'm just tired of going through the motions

    • Gemmalemma15
      Gemmalemma15 samisami60

      Posted

      Thank u so much for all ur comment,no am scared stiff :-( I feel so poo this morning again just want it 2do 1 totally ad enough :-( 

      I really hope it goes away x

    • Gemmalemma15
      Gemmalemma15 samisami60

      Posted

      Thank u so much for ur comment means a lot, it's really hard & I'm hoping it going 2 go away can't do this much longer, it's really getting me down, want my life back :-( with my boys n do normal things with out worry x
    • samisami60
      samisami60 Gemmalemma15

      Posted

      UR welcome...and it's OK to be scared stiff stop making urself feel bad about this...it will go away when you are good and ready to let it go.....The only task that will work for you today is to at least say if I feel like poop today it's OK...and if I don't have relief or answers tonight or tomorrow it's OK- you dont have an expiration date...w/o sharing too much here I too have been where you are... I want to have normal days with my daughter and unfortunately I have a disease with no cure...I HATE that I have no control over this issue- I can say I have given 1200000%%%%% of myself to getting back to normal whatever that means-I want my life back too....and sadly I am the only one whom can get me close to " myself" again...I am so dissassociated from my family/friends and feel alone- it does hurt BUT as long as I can say I do whatever I can each day I don't feel so bad.... and from ur posts etc... something tells me you do too- Now you have to sell yourself on this too- only YOU can make this duration shorter- once you accept what you cannot change right now and focus on what you can change you will feel better and you know this already smile 
    • Gemmalemma15
      Gemmalemma15 samisami60

      Posted

      Thank u so much Luv, summut going to ave to be dun, I need 2 feel rite & get better like yesterday, I am really scared never been through anything like this before n I hope u are rite Luv in it getting easier x
  • samisami60
    samisami60 Gemmalemma15

    Posted

    I am so glad- AMEN to that sister with regards to going through the motions... I so understand that- even with 2- people telling you- it willl be OK- It's sometimes not enough so that's where you come in.... enter woman with fears that seem like it's over...The truth you know it's not an option...Take it one step at a time don't rush YOU- don't rush it... and when you are good and ready take a simple task one that may drum up some angst and see where your mind takes you to....Forget about what you think will happen- and take a piece of paper describing the worst fear of all.... then write down what brought on the attack- at least what you think was the culprit- Then compare... You will chuckle I am certain- I did... it made no sense... and I kept this and continued one by one to write down what I was doing when I got the attack...and what I feared while having one... seriously it was a cliff note version of the mad hatters tea party and the rabbit hole....I looked in the mirror and said man lady you are seriously nuts lols--- I laughed....and that was another win for beating that stupid panic button- each time I added fear I compared it to the thoughts which lead me to it- 

    Sometimes that is all it takes to say " Hello" like seriously? Your going to freak out because of??? lol... and this became a personal joke for me and only me- laughing and snorting lol I said - I need to get something better than this to use so much energy....?  Right?

    You may have PPA- and that makes sense... your hormones alone can REALLY screw with your head- You will feel like yourself when your ready...don't rush it just get there on your own time and don't judge if it's not rational etc...it is what it is...best advice...don't rush your feelings/thoughts... BUT DO make sure that you write down how you got there... I promise eventually you will chuckle and say how on earth did I get to this? I had that ahhhhaaaa moment too many times... smile Sleep well and YES talk to the hubby and make sure you share this is difficult for you to explain so can he please allow you to take your time and not make this about anyone else but you.... You need to convince yourself that's it';s OK and this will pass when your good and ready smile 

    • mrs.wife24531
      mrs.wife24531 samisami60

      Posted

      You're so awesome to talk to thank you for that amazing advice. That was the best advice I received on this forum! The hubby took me on a walk and we talked about it and I think he has a better understanding. We really want to have more children so fingers crossed
    • Gemmalemma15
      Gemmalemma15 samisami60

      Posted

      I am terrified Luv, feels like I dying I no it's the anixety but I'm stil scared stiff :-( thoughts running through my mind 

      I can't even eat I'm pushing myself to eat everything is an effort im scared stiff 

      I ain't a clue wot cud ave started it off just wish it Wud do1 :-( x

    • samisami60
      samisami60 mrs.wife24531

      Posted

      You are so welcome- If you feel better that was my goal smile I try to use my own experiences sometimes - I am SO GLAD you told hubby I would love to hear you have more children... I stayed with one wish I had another BUT this age she's in reminds me of why I should not do that lol.... smile 
    • samisami60
      samisami60 Gemmalemma15

      Posted

      Gem- It feels like dying but you do know we have NO idea what it feels to say we feel like we are dying... We learn at a VERY young age that dying is like on TV- you see greivances- anger and more- You see people whom maybe passed for 5 minutes and they woke up like nothing ever happened...

      Having those thoughts in your head are NOT irrational... BUT remind yourself how you started to think this way....? It wasn't because you died or almost died even though those attacks are BRUTAL and yes I thought this must be a slow trip to death and how bad will this get- Will this thought and fear EVER Get betteR? 

      I know it does and I had such crazy irrational and VERY hurtful thoughts about myself thinking I was a wimp and just crazy....I lost over 12 punds in 2 weeks- I was suspended from college at the time because i made myself so beyind stressed and I never shared just how bad my own personal anxiety was I was afraid of people thinking I was crazy...

      I was scared stiff as well.DONT push to eat....I cannot eat when I was/am in panic mode... dont put pressure on this- the stress is worse than not eating...take baby bites and baby sips of water etc... eat what sounds appealing... and it's OK to feel this way- most importantly you need to say this to yourself and know this time may suck... BUT no one does from panic disorder and as long as you stay open to sharing when you are somewhat anxious the level of angst will not feel so bad after a while... 

    • Gemmalemma15
      Gemmalemma15 samisami60

      Posted

      Thank u so much Luv, I'm really hoping I can cope with it tbh, as I'm scared stiff of dying & my kids being took of me, my kids don't want 4 nothing so jo reason why they should only the way im feeling with the panic attacks n anixety :-(

      im always really bad in a morning been up since 5 :-( it wore of a little bit yesterday so i had a betta afternoon, hoping it's going 2 happen 2day aswell x

  • samisami60
    samisami60 Gemmalemma15

    Posted

    it's OK that you feel this way- If you can just for tonight accept this is how you feel now- don't try to justify or rack your brain wondering how and or when will it go away- just focus on little things- if you cannot eat just make sure you have some fluids... if you cannot drink much take the smallest sips possible- The body can survive without food for a few weeks...BUT you don't want to get dehydrated that can also mimic panic...so just leave these thoughts in the waiting area of your home...Tell yourself to take a number you will get to the issue eventually and tell the "problems" you deal with each issue based on urgency- Right now, you need to just take all of this off your shoulders and only focus on one area....think about what issue  requires immediate attention....I am certain the only issue tonight is sipping a cool drink and watching some fabulous chick flick that makes you laugh...

    My fancy is prettty woman or " This is 40- Even Pitch Perfect #2 I think Pitch Perfect is what I am going to turn on right now....I need a chuckle and so do you....and get some sleep! You have a fabulous new day ahead and look at all of the options you have....MANY smile 

    • Gemmalemma15
      Gemmalemma15 samisami60

      Posted

      Thank u so much luv & hope u are a fab day n lots of smiles Luv, I gotta sort little lad out for school & take him up there 😢 hope the scarey feeling goes away  x
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