What caused your anxiety?

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Realising that my absuive ex caused my anxiety was a big stepping stone for me. It made anxiety less scary because I unerstand why it happens.

Is there anything that has happened in your life that has caused panic attacks? 

Something I saw the Speakmans do was great for me. There was a woman with a phobia of spiders. After speaking to her, they realised she had the phobia because when she was little her grandma screamed at one. She became frightened and began fearing spiders. When they discussed this with her she then went onto hold a spider and her fear was gone.

Similarly, my pfirst panic attack was in a shopping centre. It made me frightened of going out because I wasnt sure when I would have one or why they were happening. On examining this I realise that the violence and abuse I was suffering from my partner caused this, and instead of shutting him out of my life, I shut out travel. 

I now know that travelling wont trigger an attack,  it still makes me anxious because it is a fear I have created, by believing wrongly that it caused my anxiety.  I can now unlearn this fear and feel much more confident now I know what caused it in the past. 

Maybe this would be a good idea for other people, if not done so already. For health anxiety I woudl look at what has happened in your life that was not health related!


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    Good advice. Mine is health anxiety that happened in 2009 over my gallbladder which took 2 options i finally got it out. So that caused me to have anxiety/panic attacks. Was medicated and in stress unit for that. I was anxiety free till a month ago and again caused from health over throat issues to kidney stones and then I thought I had all kinds of stuff going on. After blood work EKG and trips to er I have health anxiety. Which I feel is getting better but still have those days of my mind doing speeds of 100. But I listen to you tube meditation a lot and it helps. I'm on ativan and busiporne which is helping.. ❌❌ we will all get better 
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    Mine was brought on by my marriage breaking up and the realisation that my life was not goung to be the one i had planned and hoped for. Followed by an emergency life or death hospital drama that came out of the blue with no explanation! Im never going to be the same again as i was a few years ago so i have to learn to become a new version of me... Its not easy but not impossible
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    Hi Sarah

    I was married to a wife beater for 20 years, then i was with my second partner who put me through a lot of mental abuse even though he knew what i had been through with the first husband. I spent 5 years on my own with my youngest son. I healed myself or so i thought. My husband now is such a gentle soul and there is no abuse of any type, but i am still not right in the head. I go through spells of depression and the first husband now lives only 5 miles from where i live. I know he will never ever again be a threat but i dont ever want to bump into him.  I get through these spells by spending time with my 4 grandkids. Getting into my crafts. I love to water colour paint, knit and sew.  Thank you sarah for your really good advice but on this occasion it wont put my head right. 

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      Aww Sandra, thats such a shame that you have been at the hands of two horrible people! It is unsuprising that it effects your mood. I have sad days thinking of things, and even though it really helps me to remind myself why this happens the sad feelinsg can still be crappy. Youre really welcome! I hope you find more peace xxx
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