What else am i supposed to do to get help?

That's is shocking the way you have been treated, you should have been seen by the crisis team ( I assume your uk based )

The ladyy i saw was from the mental health team, i don't know if that means she was from the crisis team? Yes i live in the uk. I didn't understand how they could just say to me that i was ok to leave agter i had told them all this. Today i went out in my car and i constantly thought about just driiving off the side of the road. I don't know what else i can do to get help.

itssofluffy,

I can empathize with you ( as can many people ). What area in the UK are you based. You should have an out of hours crisis number o talk to someone. I can imagine your not keen to go back o a&E if you have been treated like that. At my local trust you can call someone http://www.dwmh.nhs.uk/ (note crisis Team on menu ). Do you know if they is a website for your local mental health trust ?

Jimbo

I'm sorry to hear you are feeling like this! It's hard to assess as these teams deal with so many people who make claims and are really not suffering. Sometimes they overlook the real cases. Like yours. You always have options. Remember that! Sometimes it's hard to know what they are or how to access them, remember you have places to turn.

It seems to me that currently, you could use a listening ear. If you are religious, or even if you aren't, churches and other places of worship have an amazing support network.

If you don't want to affiliate yourself with a religious organisation, speak to other crisis teams such as the Samaritans.

This site is amazing to vent your worries and helping with aides and tools.

If you feel like a real danger to yourself and others around you then there are units in which you can be placed under supervision. I do not recommend these lightly! They rarely do you any good in the long run.

Xx

I felt a danger to myself yesterday, i walked 50 mins to A and E. I wanted them to help me, i just wanted them to do something, anything to help me, they said there was nothing more they could really do. I didn't feel safe.

Hi have you tried mind or do you have a crisis team to call on.i dont if you hav.oge a mental health team or not you should get to your locall doctor if you can tomoz. I relly feel for you and the mental anguish you feel .your not alone ok .we on this discussion are hete to help you where we can .keep me posted thanx mark

I had my first appointment with a nurse from the mental health team on monday. My doctor has referred me for counselling aswell and she was going to try to get me seen sooner amd i have another appointment with her in march. My feelings of suicide weren't as strong as they were yesterday, i have told my doctor before and told the mental health nurse i saw on monday that i have thoughts of suicide but don't think that i would ever act on them and they know i have hurt myself before although i don't now. But yesterday i felt like i would act on them and i had plans as to what i would do. I was desperate for some sort of help, it was too late to get an appointment at the doctors so i walked 50 minutes to A and E. I don't know what to do to get help when i am suicidal.

Have you tried calling the Samaritans?

My friend told me to call them before when i was harming myself but i haven't ever phoned them for being suicidal.

Okay, it would be worth giving them a call when you feel suicidal thoughts. From experience, they have been really helpful in maintaining the logical thought processes, they are volunteers for the most part and (again in my experience) they can honestly relate to how you feel in that moment (whether that moment is an hour or more). They have also been a great help to those who call them because of a friend or relative who is trying to commit harmful actions to themselves.

Your friends are sometimes a good shoulder too. Don't underestimate how willing a friend is to help out in your time of need! It's amazing the lengths they will go to for you.

A lot me my friends have given up on me now. I don't feel i really have any friends now other than one but she lives a couple of hours away and i can't really talk to her anymore about how i feel because she has a problem with a member of her own family to deal with and she works full time in a hospital. I feel like i have lost everyone. It upsets people when i talk to them about how i feel so i can't talk to anyone about it now. I'm already scared that i am by myself all day tomorrow.

Okay well reach out to them when you feel you can. Usually people get upset because they don't understand it, or they fear it. You are experiencing it so you can educate them. That's a good step.

I had issues from a young age but I never told my mum, because I was petrified she would think of me as stupid, or reject depression as a real problem or think I was attention seeking. But when we finally spoke about it last year (this is ten years after my first diagnosis), I was surprised. She understood, accepted it and we spoke for hours about things she didn't have any concept of before that talk. Now it's not something we discuss all the time but it's good to have someone looking out for you. To know what your symptoms are, to recognise when you are slipping, when you need support, when you need space.

I think my point here is:

Use Samaritans.. They are there for you when you need that distraction.

But also that even when we aren't in a low, we still overlook bonds with family or friends.. You may think they are all withered but life has a funny way of keeping them strong enough to pull on, even if we think they aren't.

As for tomorrow... Make yourself busy. Go for a walk, or listen to music, write, sing, dance, play games, google something, google everything. Take the day bit by bit. Make a cup of tea. Make the best cup of tea! Experiment with ingredients, or colours. Try on everything in your wardrobe. Throw out everything you don't use anymore. Spring clean!

Have faith.

You need to change your daily routine. Set yourself a task to do by the end of the day, make it outdoors, do you have a garden you can dig and clear up and set it to rights. It is known that physical activity increases your good spirits as while you are immersed in doing something you do not find the time to think about your mental state. Your mind has got you into this mess and you have to learn to reset it. Physical activity allows you to step away from it so you have a clearer perception.

Do you have an allotment or gardening society near you where you can go to just chill and talk to people? Get out, as sunshine gives you Vitamin K and D which are a great boost. These winter months and early nights are not good for people with mental health problems.

I suffered terrible depression after being made redundant at 58 and knowing i could not get a job again. I got an allotment and I dug and dug and dug and felt better for it. Increasing your physical strength also increases your mental strength.

you don;t have to get a a garden or allotment just get out there and do something physical.

Take up running, jogging, anything physical.

When people see you are going form strength to strength they ail come back!

It feels like such a struggle to get better. I do all these things to try and make a difference, it's tough to deal with.

It is tough, m'love, but you have support here.

When you undertake any activities write down what you have done and reward yourself.

Either with a cake or something nice to drink, or give yourself a credit to reap the rewards of having a new hairstyle, or item of clothing. this way you will have something positive to reaffirm your strength.

Please stay in touch and let up know how you go on, use this s akin of diary and try to concentrate on the positive things you have done. As well as supporting your self you might find you inspire others to do the same.

Perhaps start up a new thread about your daily activities - people get better when they know there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Keep tunnelling and you will find it.

Make your first post a positive one!