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cazjaz16
cazjaz16

Hi I'm 52 and been suffering years now with the menopause thought I was just going round the bend but after reading these posts I don't feel like that now, My periods just stopped 3 years ago and never seen or spotted again so in that way I have been lucky but mental health wise anxiety and depression hot sweats vomiting without warning have blighted my life. I've only just bothered going to see a doctor as I just thought I couldn't cope any longer but didn't really get anywhere I take Paroxetine and diazepam and trying to control such negativity and weird thoughts in my mind. I worry about my health and dying and loosing my husband but assume that's the menopause after reading some posts I feel like I'm just waiting to die sad I have some agoraphobia and can't leave the house alone but will go to the shops in a car with my husband. Can I ask when you use the term peri or pari what does that mean ? Also how long do you think menopause symptoms carry on for ?

Hello btw xxxx

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  • caroleUJ62
    caroleUJ62 cazjaz16

    Posted

    Hi Cazjaz,

    I have been suffering terrible anxiety, which has escalated alot since I had a fall in the garden bringing in firewood for our log burning stove one night about 2 months ago. I thought nothing of it at first, but then developed symptons which have now been confirmed as whiplash. I go to an osteopath every week or 2 weeks, and take naproxen - anti-inflammatory tablets.

    I also am very agraphobic, and the depression and anxiety have been terrible.

    I have also been put on prozac by my GP which I think is actualy starting to work a bit, and have in the past couple of days cut out all caffiene from my diet, and am trying to do the same with sugar - quite difficult with some foods if they are processed, but I'm doing my best.  Last night I had the first decent nights sleep I have had in many weeks.   

    I also have TMJ which I had a bit before my fall, but has now got worse. I have a mouth guard which I wear at nights.  I want to ask my Dr about going on HRT, and also phsyiotherapy.  My joints also seem to be cracking alot more in the past 2 weeks. I take all the recommended vitamins for someone in perimenopause.

    I just get so depressed and panicky because I was pretty fit and pain free and everyone thought I was quite a bit younger than I am.  I am really worried that my pains wont go away, and how to cope with them if they dont.  

    I am going to see a hypnotherapist to see if they have any calming techniques I can use.

    I do recommend cutting out caffeine and sugar if you can.

    I also have been taking diazepam, but recently its had no effect, so now I have to also come off that!!!!

     

    • cazjaz16
      cazjaz16 caroleUJ62

      Posted

      Omgggggggg is that when your jaw locks cause I am under the hospital for that as at one time my jaw locked shut had acupuncture and exercises it's quite a bit better now but have to be so careful with it the dentist won't treat me but says th he hospital will have to deal with me sad think I've seen every consultant at the hospital have chronic IBS heart problems as with bad palpitations lol but didn't want to say everything in my first post otherwise you will all think I'm a hypercondract but I do like to drink wine as it helps me feel normal 😇
    • marlene21102
      marlene21102 cazjaz16

      Posted

      Think it's a good thing for women to be open and up front with all health issues regardless as to what they are ,I was so healthy prior to that virus ,turned my health up side down .

        So I say this ,say what's on your mind ,what's worrying you about your health concerns ,there maybe just that one person feeling exactly as you are looking in .Were all finding illness challenging ,and meno is just one problem ,we face .Never believed Id be facing what I have these past 9 years .

         IVe now gone Gluten and lactose free ,in the hope that might just help,with this autoimmune that's gone pear shaped .I know I've learnt a fair bit since chatting to the ladies here ,plus all Jay has placed on her findings ,a good soul I call her ,in doing what she has ,and not feeling good herself in the prosses .Need someone in our corner ,drs ain't doing so great in that regard ,sad to say .xx

    • caroleUJ62
      caroleUJ62 cazjaz16

      Posted

      Hi,

      well my jaw hasnt locked. I can still eat without pain and I dont generally get pain with it. I try not to chew too much on the side which is affected. I did see a specialist about it, and he said he gets about 100 people a month coming with the same problem.  I suppose I was hoping for maybe some miracle cure, but will probably have to face up to it as lifelong.  I wear a mouthguard at night, but if I have phlegm or something I find I cant.  Its when I move the jaw from side to side that it crunches, which just upsets me.  My husband is a very pragmatic sort, and says it just wouldnt bother him.

      I am seeing my dentist on Friday, - maybe get an X-ray, see whats going on and if anything else can be done.

      I have had bad IBS since I was 25. Its not too bad at the moment, (Thank God).  I have found that at certain times through my life it has gone away totally, and I could eat anything I wanted with no ill effects whatsoever.  Then it just came back again.

      I do like to have the odd drink, but with my strict no stimulants diet at present sadly I cant.....

    • jayneejay
      jayneejay marlene21102

      Posted

      Hi Marlene

      How are you lovely lady 😃

      i am still feeling weird ... post shingles ... Nuisance..

      but trying to stay positive .. ' trying' 

      this natural progesterone cream ... wish them luck with that ay ... 

      sells it - it seems, stick the word natural in it and its confusing some, thinking its not HRT .. And it is .. Hay ho.. Sticking to my Gynos opinion on that one, and our two's personal experiences using it.... Didnt do us any good did it .. 

      chilly here today, but have sent you some warm weather over that we had last week.. 

      take care

      good luck with the gluten free etc 

      jay x 

    • marlene21102
      marlene21102 jayneejay

      Posted

      Hiya Jay ,you still crook then ,that shingles virus is nasty to get as you age ,no joke at all to it ,and it's affects .my husband just getting shingles jab ,he had shingles ,then I came down with that virus few weeks after ,Hsp think that was the kicker to the virus I then went and picked up.Hey and look how I've been .

         Id say no to progesterone ,never again ,I binned what I had ,good luck to those who try it .I say .I thought that would have helped me ,as I couldn't have HRT due to BP .Na no go .Live and learn .

        I've started that gluten and lactose free dairy ,won't know for at least 3/4 weeks ,but I've spoken to a nutritionist ,and talking my diet over since illness ,and decided to go this way ,she did mention adrenal glands go into overload if you've got immune issue and meno at same time ,so today I've looked it up ,interesting read all round ,the glands regulate hormones etc .can that be why we get bad anxiety ,most females say that's there worst daily symptom in meno ,next to hot flushes and giddy spells ,can recall my mum having giddy spells quite bad ,plus as me she had bad rhinitis/ sinuses ,whilst in post meno .

         Hope your taking things easy Jay ? And yes thank you for today's first full sunny day ,put washing out for the first time to .

        Husband just got me some Ginger Beer ,as I've been bit gastric of late ,think that's why I've got Candida always around ,told this GB is good at easing that ,my cousins have leaky gut as well as candida ,so will tell them to get some ginger beer ,if it helps me at all .

         I did agree with Sharcy the other day talking about the Queen and meno ,she's still female the Queen end of the day .All in one pot regardless where meno concerned .Status has no boundaries .bet the Queens had her bad days like all females on here .

         Well Jay that's my input today on that weekend matter .

         You takecare gal    Marlene xxxx

    • jayneejay
      jayneejay marlene21102

      Posted

      Hi Marlene 

      enjoy the sunshine, 😃

      stiff as a board this morning .. Going to have a dippy egg and soldiers for breakfast hehehehe

      i have only just heard about the shingles jabs ' zostervax ' and i will be getting one for sure .. sooner the better ..

      have a great day hope your  feeling okay today

      jayx

       

    • marlene21102
      marlene21102 jayneejay

      Posted

      Hi Eggy soldiers ,love them ,all good protein to start day off ,when they said that shingles had been the start of that bug I had ,my husband did ask if it would be worth having that jab ,but consultant said ,it wouldn't help ,as to much time had elapsed Jay for me .

         You can get it again ,as it's still dormant even after you've had it ,things one learns,one I know has had it 3 times ,so Dr was right you can get it several times .

        My husbands book in to get his week after next ,the booster ,he had shingles bad ,nearly 10 yrs ago ,that's where I got the virus from ,that was the kicker.consultant said to us at hospital .so never take shingles lightly .

         Now look where it's left me ,nightmare .

        Sunny here today but cold still ,husband mowing grass .im on a boat again today ,this balance drives me nuts .tinnitus going like crazy to .

        Happy days Think not .You go easy out there .xxxx

  • marlene21102
    marlene21102 cazjaz16

    Posted

    Hi Im 67 ,and I'm still having post meno symptoms ,anxiety  flushes  odd palps just hit me out of nowhere  Im to on a BP med just over 2 years with Losartan .i started meno at 48 ,was like that for 4/5 years then all seemed okay. Then got an illness(virus) ,it set all the meno back off for a second time  same symptoms all over again I was then told that an illness will do this .Ive got a low immune system ,ended up with IBS ,you name it it came along .Thought the first time was bad. But this is a whole new ball game entirely .i e got tinnitus bad. Plus balance along with that in past 4yrs .

      I wish you better days. No female warrants this daily .

  • annieschaefer
    annieschaefer cazjaz16

    Posted

    Oh Cazjaz,

    So sorry you are feeling this way. I'm still in perimenopause and have odd feeling days. I don't care to leave my house and visit with friends or shop like I used to. I know from being on here and speaking with a few friends, this does occur yet each of us have different experiences on the length of time. Honestly there are days I feel like trying HRTs to see if that would just take the edge off as I didn't start to feel unstable really until last year when the periods because unpredicable.  Now I've gone 4 months without one and this is like PMS on steroids.

    I grit my teeth on days like these and oddly enough make it to work, where for a little bit, my mind is focused on my work and not me. I've tried numerous things and the latest is working with a Naturopath and also will see an Integrative MD, as I found out, like many women in our group, my thyroid finally fizzle to hypothyroidism and that can actually cause some of these feelings as well. We'll see if getting that addressed, helps. Not an overnight fix as the Naturopath has put me on a diet to restrict some foods known to aggravate the situation. Just started a week or so, so I can't say I'm sold on this. I do drink way too much coffee and wonder if I gave that up would it help. I quit smoking 2 yrs ago thinking that would help and I swear that's when (coincidentally I am sure) all hell started to break loose a few months later! haha! Haven't started smoking again-no interest. No if I could lose my interest for coffee that would be great.

    WIsh I could tell you how long-only thing I can say is that I am noticing things getting less crazy and the bouts of depression and anxiety wanes a little less, like it's lightening up.

    Sending you hugs of comfort and hoping the best for you-this will pass. Just have to find the right combo that's for you, be it a different AD, HRT, supplements and vitamins, whatever......exhaust all means to find what helps you and stay with us here in the meantime!

    Annie Xxxx

  • marlene21102
    marlene21102 cazjaz16

    Posted

    Might be worth looking up Adrenal glands and menopause ,think Dr Christine Northrup has done a good write up ,I've just had a read ,went down into the write up post ,hey and one lady said she'd gone gluten and dairy free .Stress anxiety will take its toll on both these glands .Maybe Jay would know where more info is .
    • jayneejay
      jayneejay marlene21102

      Posted

      Hi marlene 

      funny you mentioned about adrenals as myself i am wondering about my own..

      its a good read .. Tried to put abit on about it but got moderatored 😭

      jay x 

    • annieschaefer
      annieschaefer marlene21102

      Posted

      Hi Marlene,

      Glad you mentioned it. My naturopath just put me on strict diet and supplements to support the adrenals which she said will help with my newly diagnosed hypothyroidism. I was already gluten free, now I'm also dairy free and doing the elimination diet for 2 weeks as well. 

      Quite frankly when I first left her office of this news, I thought she was off her rocker. They also did some hair test which showed I was way too high in copper and we don't drink water from our faucet so now there's that supplementation and trying to adjust those levels. Claims it could be behind some of my ill feelings. You are the first person on here that I've seen mention it. I am going along with her recommendations, she claims I'll feel somewhat better in a few weeks (I still have to kick coffee, have decreased but has to completely go, ugh.....) and with a visit to a specialist for the thyroid, maybe I'll be like new woman.  I don't pin much high hopes on all this, going along with it for now, but we'll see I guess.

       

      I'm just glad to see you mention this as maybe there is something to it.

      Hope you are well.

      Annie xx

    • annieschaefer
      annieschaefer jayneejay

      Posted

      Hi Jay,

      Just got a second to say hello to you and tell you I am thinking of you and hoping that you will be feeling better soon. No telling how long the shingles will last, but I do hope they pass soon for you. On top of the back issues, oh dear, some days it just really stinks to be a lady, doesn't it?

      Take good care and I hope the sun is shining for you in Spain today!smile

      Off to work now!

      Annie xxx

    • marlene21102
      marlene21102 jayneejay

      Posted

      You got to wonder Jay is the adrenals part of it all ,or the majority of the hormones out of whack ,they said they rule the hormones ,why we have anxiety all the time ,or it's always there in background ,never understood why 9 yrs on I've still got this as on going issue ,see now what Annie's just placed.Got to wonder ? They test by saliva ,and I've not long had the right side gland removed ,again ? Wondered why that just appeared,out of nowhere has that had some part to all my troubles .Its knowing the right questions to getting answers .xxx
    • jayneejay
      jayneejay marlene21102

      Posted

      Hi Marlene

      i will ask about it, gotta get some more indepth liver functions done soon, when i had a break off all vit etc.. 

      my thryroid was fine, well, high end of low, but classed as okay for now, just looking at all the test results i got back in Feb, 

      also had a proteina C Reactiva done too, that was a little low too ..have what you want when you pay 😃 

      laughing 😃

      jay xx

    • jayneejay
      jayneejay

      Posted

      Better lower .. Which i find amazing when i had 3 back disks gone and shingles .. But thats a good thing ..

      thought it may be through the roof 😃

      jay x

    • marlene21102
      marlene21102 jayneejay

      Posted

      That shingles bring on heck of a lot of problems ,more than people realise ,the ones who had virus I had ,we'd all been in contact with shingles .

         Let them check you out again Jay ,once Vits are out of system ,they may have thrown up a false reading ,like meds would .

        What a pair we are ? Either laugh or cry at all that's going on .Poor souls on these sites .

        As you say those lesions are shingles and nothing sinister ,but look what that's done to you .ive had one spot ,same place as you ,never ever gone Jay ,how weird is that feels and looks like a chicken pox mark .xxx

    • cazjaz16
      cazjaz16 jayneejay

      Posted

      I had shingles where you given the anti viral drug to stop it in its tracks hun ? I feel pregnant after a attack and my new baby contracted it as never had any antibodies against it I was 40 btw x I'm a fulltime carer for my mum now as she broke her back they say it's osteoporosis so does anyone take any vitamins ?
    • jayneejay
      jayneejay cazjaz16

      Posted

      Hi cazjaz

      Oh sorry you had the shingles too, and passes it on to your baby.

      no i didnt get any treatment, i had 3 slipped disks in my back and as shingles lays dormant in all of us in our nerves after chicken pox, the back injury and stress triggered it off.

      i only had treatment for the disks ..

      the shingles blisters was on my butt check, i had it at xmas and didnt know, it went and returned a few weeks later then i mentioned it to the doc when i was having pain injections for the back and he confirmed my suspicions and said oh yes... Thats shingles, no wonder yoj ache all over with the back, he couldnt understand why my whole body ached and not just the disk areas, then we knew why..

      so sorry to hear about your poor mum... Sounds awful and what a lovely daughter you are to care for her full time .. 

      As for supplements for meno yes i take loads 😃

      B6 x 150mg

      B1 x 150mg

      Chelated Magnesium 

      Vit E 400iu

      Kelp 1000mg 

      Maca 2500mg 

      Acidophilus probiotic

      Natecal ( Calcium and Vit D) 

      jay x

       

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