wheres my glasses

Lol brilliant one Alan! 

thanx georgia.you have to have a wee laugh now and then..hope your days a cheery one..

yes its scary isent it 

my grandparents are gone my parents are gone 

i am next in line

.and we though we had forever !

I know what you mean..I'm lucky I still have my wee mum but when you lose both parents you find out how an orphan must feel like.I'm sure there's a lot of years left in you and me yet..I was speaking to my brother the other day and he said"did you see the paper..a woman that was 116 years".WOW..I told him"the way medicine is progessing in 10 years we'll all live to 150"...keep the chin up tiswas..

iv still got my mum ,but we dont have any contact ,

she is a very selfish person ,who dosent care about anyone except her self .as along as shes all alrigth thats all shes bothered about .

I lost my grandparents years ago, and my mother and father in the last decade. I only have one brother left, and the way he treats us is just unreal. My wife and I, got him partly though his divorce, but played the "double-sword" trick so he would not lose his boy, and would come out off better than his wife. We done all the letters and paperwork for him, and by January 2015 he would have had full custody of his boy. But he made one big mistake, which myself and my wife said he would probably for, for it and that was his wife turned up in December last year, saying she had no money, and could they try again! My brother stopped phoning me for about 2-3 weeks, which was strange. Then out of the blue he rang, said he took her back in and I wouldn't understand why, all I said was "It's your life, if you cannot see what shes doing then thats up to you!". She stayed nearly a month and then left him again! Then he phoned and said she left me, I said "and I bet you dropped the case for custody?" he said "How did you know?" I said "She's playing mind games with you, you dropped the court case which cost you money" and now you have nothing on her, basically your in a no-win situation!" - he said you knew when I said she moved back "I said yes, from an outside point-of-view it was obvious!"... so now hes back to square one. He had her right were he wanted her, but then took her back, she dropped everything and so did he... And now he's asking me what to do again! The trouble is with him he is very vulnerable, if you said pig's fly he'd believe you, well perhaps not that far, but you get my drift!

His lifestyle, well that is so weird - I have tried many times to change his ways, it's like he lives in a distant world, nevern has the TV on, or reads Newspapers. It's no good asking him did you watch a certain movie on the TV....

His typical day is:

5:00am Breakfast = Banana and Porridge and coffee

12:00pm Lunch = a plain salad sandwich

5:00pm Teatime = Salad with meat

That is it! 24/7/365 a year!!

Then he wonders why hes bored with life! Nothing changes, we've suggested loads of pastimes, but nope doesn't want it.

 

Don't you find the thought of forever in a human body more scary? 

certainly strange is he suffering from any kind of disorder 

like Aspergers /or ahd compulsive behavoiur 

certainly sounds like it to me .

like he needs to be in a permenant routine 

to be honest its not surprizing his wife left although doing what she did was unspeakable .

iv know excatly the same thing happen . you try to warn people but they wont listen ,then they blame you . 

with out fibro i would like to live for ever .like tom hanks in the green mile .

wonderful .

That is one movie that we watch over and over! It's a pity Michael Clarke Duncan died at such an early age though... seemed a really nice guy!

He played John Coffey in The Green Mile and won awards for his part.

Hi Tis,

She even tried to use their son against his dad, but failed. Her son now sides with my brother, and recorded an arguement over Xmas last year, that she didn't know about. He recorded her aggravating him, to make him angry, but it failed then she phoned the Police and told them a load of lies that he hit her. The fact is her son watched and recorded what she did.... And, now she's hoping to get out of the divorce on an abuse charge.

Her son said he will go as a witness against her!

There is more about my brother I didn't even know about, he only recently told me, and said he's never told anyone else. What he told me, actually shocked me... He did phone an advice line, but it placed him in an awkward position, especially at the moment.

 well georgia.would we still age like we do now forever..if so,no,because right now I look like a prune.If,say,we looked the way we were when we were 20.......still no...I looked like a prune then..

it would be great if they found away to reverse age to about 35 and for you to stay that way . or a way to to keep having new parts like in bicentinal man film . brill .if only . 

did he marry a husband beater it does happen more than you think .

i am glad your son is being supportive although it cant be a good thing for him .to deal with .

that would be great but I think we would end up being high mantainance.

yes an ace film well scrpted well cast ,and such a hopeful story of good over evil . it kind of reminded me of  to kill a mocking bird with out the spiritul side .dont know if you agree. 

i know better then dead . i am terrified of dying and even more so that i am next in line .generation wise . 

That'd be my idea of hell, eternal life in the same body. Heck no! 

Well I'd get bored. 

no i did say earlier no fibro ,body ,then i can do anything i want and keep fit eat the right foods and lots of them like fruit and nuts etc .travel make up for lost time .learn languages hear all differant types of music i often wonder what music will be in the future . 

its hard to imagine a whole load of old foggies clapping there hands to

ozzy ozborn or the clash .hehehehe

I'm an old foggie and I still clep my hands to Ozzie Osborne and the Clash but I don't want to still be doing it in a hundred years time. 

I'm sure you didn't look like a prine when you were 20 and still don't. We're as beautiful as we think we are. It's just skin and stuff. I could go on, gristle, bone, blood, facial structures, body shapes, different diseases and problems.......

Oh but wait, we seem to have something inside. 

 

no i meant when our generation is in an old folks home in our 80s/90s 

couldnt imagine clapping our hands to ozzy /clash 

its not quite the same as sinagalong with max bygraves or des'oconner like now

Lol God forbid! HEhehe

I know what you mean..They say beauty is only skin deep so I think tomorrow I will turn myself inside out...

That'll be really pleasant for us all, thanks! 

whens the last time you heard someone say i know shes not much of a looker and she has a fat a--e but i just love her brain

Never thats when 

its totaly crude . i am fat middle aged and crippled with fibro no ones going to turn down someone fit, pain free, and slim for me just because i have a good brain .

Strangely enough, me saying something wise, I do have some life experience and it's the personality that means more.

You cannot change another person's ways, don't even try! People need encouragement and kindness. 

I'm not saying that you're not being encouraging and kind but don't force and be patient, let them have their own space to learn for themselves. It works in the end.

The Green Mile is one of my all time favourite films!.I am living forever, just the body has to go eventually for all of us.

Hi Tis, I'll try and explain this correctly from a different perspective.

My brother married a woman that was a lesbian (I know this sounds strange!), he met her on a Church Dating Agency. Anyway, once they were married, they went in for a child, whether they both agreed on this I do not know.

When the baby boy came along, she had a mental breakdown - at one point I phoned the Police and Social Services to make them aware of the abuse that she was inflicting on the baby.

1. Pushed him off the bed.

2. Put him in the the tumble drier

3. Was going to throw him down the stairs, luckily my brother caught him, but he did bang his face, which caused problems with his teeth when he was 13.

At this point she was admitted to a mental hospital up north. While she was in there she hit a nurse with a iron in the face. In the end they got her calmed down on tablets. Eventually, they did release her from hospital and allowed her home, on the condition that she carried on taking the medication.

This carried on fine until they moved. Then she stopped her medication and started to try and make my brother abuse her, so she could get the divorce done under abuse, therefore she wouldn't have to pay a penny. But it didn't work out like that, she tried balckmailing him, and numerous other things, but while she was doing all of that my brother was building a solid case against her known as a 'doubled-edged blade' she was falling for the first part, and would automatically lose her case.

But their Son was recording various things to back up my brother, so if anything went wrong there was fall-backs.

tom hanks did in the film id love to really but with out the fibro

that may be true with women ,but not so with most men they are atracted by visule things remember the lives and loves of a she devil  from the 80s with dennise waterman , thats men all over .well thats what iv found anyway

"You cannot change another person's ways, don't even try! People need encouragement and kindness."

You are right there Georgia! He is too far set in his ways, even though from an outside perspective, he's seems like he's stuck in a time-warp! And when they were a family of 3, then they all had to follow his rules, same times getting up, having meals and going to bed.

They had a TV like most families, but it was never allowed to be on - if it was then my brother "would turn it off, saying it was the work of the devil!".

His son one year received a XBOX 360 for Xmas, but because it was portraying violence, my brother smashed it up with a hammer and binned it, saying now no one can be caught be the devil from the XBOX 360!!!

Okay, people are religious, but personally I think he takes it to the extreme! I managed to talk him around to watching Noah last year at the cinema, the first time he had ever taken his son to the cinema! He got back and told me on the phone it was all wrong! TBH, I wouldn't know I have never read the bible, it is something that does not interest me whatsoever.

The ironic thing is we are supposed to be brothers, yet I am nothing like him, he is that laid back, his son has learning problems - whether this stems back to brother's childhood, or what happened to him in the past I don't really know, I am referring too my brother there, not his son. I only found out recently that my brother was abused sexually when he was 14 years old. Back then I was working and out most of the time, so I did not know what had gone on, and my brother was a shy, and behind in most subjects - never really had any hobbies or even friends. His first and only girlfriend was a lesbian, whom later in life he married.

From an outside point of view, people don't even see us brother's at all, I'm only 3 years older than him - Last year, he visited us 3 times with his son, not his wife though, she is very diificult to get along with. I noticed by the thrid visit, his son had learning issues, so I told my brother to get him referred to a Paediatrician to see if he had signs of Dyspraxia. Within 2 months, he was diagnosed with Dyspraxia - and I said put in a claim for PIP, which he got the lower rate for. Then I got 101 questions off my brother, how did I know there was something wrong with him. So I told him, I've met many people with various disorders and you can normally tell if there is a learning issue, sometimes if it is your own child you don't notice it, but an outsider would - I hardly ever see my brother from one year to the next, last year was only different because his wife had left him.

Everytime we see them, we never get a "Please" or "Thank you!" - even though they are supposed to be reborn-again Christians! At least my children and my wife and I always know our P's & Q's...

Regards,

Les.

its not strange at all my first husband was married to someone who changed and went lesbian , she looks more man now than most men 

she was a bit of a cow ,started contacting people in those magazines was going to take the kids to live with this bloke and other women as a threesome .but steve wouldnt allow it .dont blame him  it turned out to be a sticky situation the couple were rather odd.sahll we say .

i hope your nephew has no lasting emotional damage iv carried so much emotional baggage  around with me .its so sad how it damages people 

To be honest Tis, I did not realize how much damage my brother went through not just from being 'raped' at 14 years old, but the abuse he went through with his wife was just as bad.

I knew nothing about him being raped up until a couple of weeks ago. He did tell me who did it, basically a friend of his - even after it he still was friends. I did run a check on the guy who is married, with his own children, and even got his address - at first my brother was going to pursue it, but it could jeopardize his own marriage or divorce depending on what happens.

I know his wife was sexually abused by her stepfather and her own brother, so as you can see it is quite a messed up situation.

 

certainly is hun

thats why he likes the routin of his food and what he does it enables him some security and control .

i hope he will come to a favourable conclusion ,

but i think he needs some counciling holding this in is not good .

i know that. luckly my problems have only been emotional

i would never got over being rapped . 

thats alot to deal with .

"thats why he likes the routin of his food and what he does it enables him some security and control ."

Perhaps, you're right there - different people see things from numerous perspectives, too me it was odd. But looking at what you just stated that could be the issue.

"i know that. luckly my problems have only been emotional"

Well, you're not alone there Tis, even I have had emotional breakdowns - I never used to be, whether its something thats come with age or medications I do not know. At the moment I seem relaxed, even though I have had a week from hell, even my wife broke down last week, and that is rare. It just seemed everything was collapsing around us, and there seemed no end! But after my wife phoned her sister last night and told us a few things, that we were unaware of - things seemed to be changing.

Anyway, seen my doctor this morning - my wife was telling her what we had been going through, my doctor said well you seem to be holding up well considering the circumstances.

I applied what my wife's sister told us last night to a company, and that was it, bang they said the account is on hold until further notice. I thought that is all we needed to do!

Going back to my brother I asked him did you not ever tell our mother or father? He said can you imagine me approaching them with something like that, I had no witnesses and you were eiher at work or out with friends, and back then people hardly spoke about things like that. To be honest, the first rape I ever heard of was when I was at school, my last year and a girl was raped in an alley way, mind you the alley way was dimly lit.

I'll ask him about counciling, got to start somewhere - it must be playing on his mind and keeping hidden all these years from anyone. He said the strange is they guy that did it tried adding him as a friend on Facebook about 5 years ago!

thats sick i feel really sorry for your brother .

he needs to get this out .

my sister in law was bullied by her ex army dad , you will eat everything on your plate or nothing ,so to gain control she chose nothing she died aged 27 needing dental records to identify her, her body was that wasted.

all she was objecting to eating was the meat.

I'm really going to belt you in a minute, and I mean Southern American Bible belting!

I told you I can't read long amounts of text online. Thank God for small mercies! 

Hi Georgia,

I just realized what you were referring to, sorry about that!

May I ask what the problem is with long amounts of text? All browsers support font or text changing, but unless you know the keyboard shortcuts, you don't really know they are there.

But before I say anything else, which browser do you use most? The shortcuts are different with each browser!

Regards,

Les.

It's ok, you didn't know. It's my eyes and also the tiredness of reading on screen. It's difficult and I know other people that find it hard too.

Due to previously being hacked, I'd rather not say which browser I use here

Hope you're having a good day Les?.

Me, having a good day! Not too bad... Going with two of my children to watch "The Hunger Games: Insurgent" later this evening. I booked an Admission box, basically they are above all the standard seats and on a Second Level, only accessed via key in the lift and cinema staff.

They only have 2 seats and a space for a wheelchair

Hacked on here? I would not think that was even possible. Perhaps, you have secret documents people want to see!

Hacking soon will be a thing of the past, when "Universal Apps" are released!

See, I did a short one just for you!

 

Oh Les you're so sweet for giving me a short one! 

As for hack don't know which website he came from but it wasn't this one so relax everyone. Although be a little bit afraid because Les is coming back. 

Me, and hacking!  No... I even despise people that do it, myself!  To be honest, I like doing graphic images, I have many on my PhotoBucket account. 

So, I'm the good guy!

No I meant you'd just be back throwing whipped cream or get really hard core and throwing clotted cream.