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Why do most GP's find it difficult to empathise with women with peri/menopause problems

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MrsMerm
MrsMerm

and as I'm writing this  a stray tear has just  trickled down my cheek cry

I have had the most awful day after going to see my doctor, I came out feeling like I am a waste of time and my current problems are all related to depression, in fact I am considering changing my practice tommorrow. sad

For the past three or four days I have felt exhausted, aching and my folks even noticed when they visited yesterday. I constantly pass urine and have no energy.

I hate going to the doctors, but felt it was necessary to be seen and maybe try and get to the bottom of this.................................

Bigg mistake!!! rolleyes as both the nurse and the GP were just awful..........

I really don't feel the medical profession have any real understanding or compassion for women like me (well us). 

Enough said, I will try to get some much needed sleep and hopefully I will feel a bit better tommorrow.

A little compassion would have helped,

                   Nite All XXX  

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  • ImagineOneDay
    ImagineOneDay MrsMerm

    Posted

    I am SO SORRY to hear about the dreadfull treatment you have received at your GP.  I share smilar experinces with you. I now try to avoid certain Dr in my GP since I know they will be horrible.  You are right it is their job. Their job is not just to priscribe a medication but to understand human physchology!  I hope you find a kinder GP. Remember you are not alone. Best of luck
    • MrsMerm
      MrsMerm ImagineOneDay

      Posted

      The problem is it's not just one GP at my current practice, the female GP's are abrupt, unsympathetic and judgemental, the new nurse is haughty and more interested in chatting with other staff than doing her job......

      it's dreadful

                               thanks for repl ycheesygrining

  • dianna20043
    dianna20043 MrsMerm

    Posted

    Mrs Merm 

    Ring the doctors surgery and make a complaint you maybe surprised with the outcome, sometimes we dont say how we really feel about treatment because we are either embarrassed or its not in our nature... Never give up hope..as there is light at the end of all our journeys.  Sleep well and keep us posted.  

    Goodnight ladies.

     

    • MrsMerm
      MrsMerm dianna20043

      Posted

      Thanks for that Dianna wink

                           Mrs M x

  • Sochima822
    Sochima822 MrsMerm

    Posted

    MrsMerm, may I ask why are you seeing a GP for your HRT? Shouldn't you be seeing your gynecologist? I worked in this field before, rarely have I ever heard of GP's prescribing HRT usually they leave that to the gyne's.

    It's awful to be mistreated and feeling like you're the problem. But if you would have gone to see your gynecologist, I doubt you would be treated this way. Gynecologist deal with these types of situations all the time, and is not out of the ordinary for them to go through the symptoms and find a solution to your specific issue. Moreso, when you're going through peri/menopause and taking HRT. Taking HRT is always a concern with all doctors who prescribe them. Find yourself a gynecologist and stop playing around with a GP, who has no experience with these types of issues.

    • bobbysgirl
      bobbysgirl Sochima822

      Posted

      The Gynecologist I saw was far from helpful when it came to HRT. My GP sent me to HIM regarding an ultrasound scan that showed a 'large' cyst. That's how I found out about the others cysts and fibroids. Another scan showed they were shrinking as the menopause took hold. I asked him about HRT for the 'miseries'. He said 'I don't deal with that, ask your GP'. In other words, I can't be axxxd!

       

    • Sochima822
      Sochima822 bobbysgirl

      Posted

      What country do you live in? HRT is given by gyne's here in USA.
    • Sochima822
      Sochima822 bobbysgirl

      Posted

      Definitely different type of medical care with different standards. Sorry to hear that.
    • MrsMerm
      MrsMerm Sochima822

      Posted

      Excellent answer Pat,

      However, when I asked to be referred to a gynaecologist, my GP wouldn't hear of it advising me that it was not their job to prescribe HRT, he thought that this kind of stuff should be dealt with at general practice level. I completely agree with you and may even go private for a consultation

                             thank you

                                               Mrs M wink xxx

    • MrsMerm
      MrsMerm Sochima822

      Posted

      Quite often I have felt patronised by GP's and don't think that they are as knowledgeable as they should be UK rolleyes

      These people command a high salary and should be better than this eek

  • trayham
    trayham MrsMerm

    Posted

    I know how you feel. I went to my docs last year, it was a female doctor so thought I would get understanding. Went because feeling dizzy a lot and hot flushes at night were keeping me a wake. Told because of family history of heart problems could not have hrt. Told I would just have to put up with it ans sent away, I havent been back and dont know what to do, the dizzy spells worry me as never know when they are going to hit. The last time as was in town shopping, luckly sister was with me. Think the female doctor are worse for this then the men
    • Sochima822
      Sochima822 trayham

      Posted

      I've had the best of both. Nonetheless, my female doctors have been more understanding. My males doctors offer lots of suggestions to help combat the symptoms. So maybe because I look for the best in medical care I get the best attitudes. Just saying.
    • MrsMerm
      MrsMerm Sochima822

      Posted

      Hi Pat,

                 I can't help but look for the best in medical care because I work within the healthcare profession, I know when it's good and when it's bad............

      I give excellent care and expect the same back, there really is no excuse for making someone feel worse than they did when they arrived for the appointment.

      GP's need to wake up and start holistically treating patients rather than addressing the computers in their office frown

    • MrsMerm
      MrsMerm trayham

      Posted

      Find another GP, please don't ignore this dizzyness, I know they can be abrupt and unsympathetic but there must be some good ones? rolleyes

      I'm changing practice wink 

    • Sochima822
      Sochima822 MrsMerm

      Posted

      I completely agree with you. Luckily, doctors here are doing both and I've had both types of treatments. Yes, go to a gyne private practice and get the treatment and medical care you deserve. Holistic pills are out there for all the symptoms we're suffering here. So if you tell me what are you suffering with maybe I can stear you into recommending what's available to you? I also worked in the medical field, but also took a more holistic approach with some of my symptoms.
    • MrsMerm
      MrsMerm Sochima822

      Posted

      Thanks Pat,

      are you ready for this, I mean symptoms that is lol

      there are a myriad including, dry itchy skin, strange surreal feelings like "I imagine being high on drugs", dizzyness, muddled disorganisation not valuable in a work situation, complete exhaustion, leave it with me as there are many more hun,

      sat here slurping a large glass of wine and relaxing right now

                          Nite Pat wink

                                        Mrs M XXX

    • Sochima822
      Sochima822 MrsMerm

      Posted

      Okay well, I can certainly sympathize with you, been there done that. However, the head thing got better with gingko biloba, I also, took a multi-vitamin, and st. john's worts. My favorite was St. John's worts to calm my head and my stress. Calcium and vitamin c also helped. Don qaui helped some of my friends, but not me. My multi-vitamin helped with just about everything like low energy,  and skin issues. It was a vegetarian one. Basically, our bodies will use up whatever is needed to balance it out and dump the rest. So whatever I was lacking the vitamin took care of it.

      As for red wine, not too much, studies have shown that women who consume more than 5 glasses of red wine in a week have a higher incidence of breast cancer. Mostly, from the pesticides in the wine but there are organic ones that don't have pesticides. Hope you have a nice day. Pat XXX

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