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Why do most GP's find it difficult to empathise with women with peri/menopause problems

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MrsMerm
MrsMerm

and as I'm writing this  a stray tear has just  trickled down my cheek cry

I have had the most awful day after going to see my doctor, I came out feeling like I am a waste of time and my current problems are all related to depression, in fact I am considering changing my practice tommorrow. sad

For the past three or four days I have felt exhausted, aching and my folks even noticed when they visited yesterday. I constantly pass urine and have no energy.

I hate going to the doctors, but felt it was necessary to be seen and maybe try and get to the bottom of this.................................

Bigg mistake!!! rolleyes as both the nurse and the GP were just awful..........

I really don't feel the medical profession have any real understanding or compassion for women like me (well us). 

Enough said, I will try to get some much needed sleep and hopefully I will feel a bit better tommorrow.

A little compassion would have helped,

                   Nite All XXX  

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  • sammeam
    sammeam MrsMerm

    Posted

    I totally understand. Since my practice diagnised me as menopausal, they put everything else down to that.
  • MrsMerm
    MrsMerm

    Posted

    Hi  Sam,

                         but the worst thing is the attitude

    go away and get on with it.........................sad

    they just don't think they can help (and don't want to)

    I felt like nuisance yesterday

    that can't be right rolleyes

                      thanks for your input xxx

     

  • jackie04837
    jackie04837 MrsMerm

    Posted

    You have probably just put in words how many of us feel and the experiences we have...It's appalling in this day and age what we go through at times trying to make ourselves understood. We often don't go to the doctor for months fearing how we will be treated-I'm so sorry you have had to go through this and can only hope you find a doctor who treats you with the respect you deserve.
  • Zigangie
    Zigangie MrsMerm

    Posted

    I have asked myself the same question MrsMerm. I went all through peri being sent to specialists for problems that since reading on this forum and others is all to do with my age.

    A total waste of valuable resources and mine and the specialists time!

    HRT (which I only sought after the menopause as I didn't know what peri was) has sorted out most of the problems in 8 weeks.

    I also had that constant trips to the loo and never ending feeling like I had just started coming down with flu lethargy.

    I have been told for the last few years that all my symptoms were down to depression which is lifting nicely now.

    Maybe you should change doctor or tell them about this site and how YOU feel it could be menopause related. As they seem almost reluctant to offer it unless you ask.

    Hope this helps.

    • MrsMerm
      MrsMerm Zigangie

      Posted

      Hi Zigga,

                     having had depression I do realise that this is different, Will be changing GP asap but I have lost all faith in general practice now.

                           Have a great weekend hun,

                                      Mrs M winkx 

  • NuttyNan
    NuttyNan MrsMerm

    Posted

    Hi MrsM, sorry to read you had such a horrid day...I know exactly how you feel, my last visit to my Dr wasn't a good one either, I left feeling frustrated & upset. Seems Drs might agree & say yes it's all hormonal but at the same time they make feel as though you're a bit "touched" & you're being a bloody nuisance expressing what/how you feel...sorry, it gets my goat! 😡 Besides male Drs not really understanding anything menopause, I've also had this attitude from female Drs! my annoyed comments about that I won't dare repeat LoL😳  But I do hope you're able to find another sympathetic Dr & get the care you deserve. We all deserve care & understanding....imagine men coping with hormones running rampant turning life upside down?! 

    Keep well, be kind to yourself. Hugs 

    • MrsMerm
      MrsMerm NuttyNan

      Posted

      Dear Nutty Nan,

                             thanks so much for your email, feeling a bit better than earlier (and last night). The whole experience made me feel so depressed. My friend has come round to cheer me up bringing cheese on toast and mars bars. I just didn't feel like going out.

      Oh well Nan these things are sent to try us,

                            Nite hun xxx wink

  • bobbysgirl
    bobbysgirl MrsMerm

    Posted

    Here's a thought - our GP's only have half the story. They just have the latest 'wonder pill' from Big Pharma.

    How many times have you said to a doctor 'I'm trying sage for the hot flushes' or 'I am taking Black Cohosh or specially formulated vits & mins', and he/she smiles and patronises with 'they are not proven to work, here take this pill instead'.

    Of course they are not proven - there is no money in it. You can't patent vitamins, minerals or old fashioned herbal remedies. If the pills aren't working, perhaps it's time we took a second look at our diet and nutrition? Just a thought.

     

    • MrsMerm
      MrsMerm bobbysgirl

      Posted

      Ok Bobby,

                        thanks, I do take Vitamin E, Vit D, Omega fih oil capsules, Magnesium (don't think this is the right type though), Vit B12 and Vit B6, 

      and others, I do feel that some of them have helped,

                                      Mrs M x

    • bobbysgirl
      bobbysgirl MrsMerm

      Posted

      Good, Vit D3 is very important, most of us are Vit D3 deficient. Same with Magnesium. Our soils are mineral deficient so that means our food is. There are several types of Magneseium, I take M. oxide (with B6). It comes from a reliable source so it must be OK.

      Hang in there, we can do it!

  • kc1982
    kc1982 MrsMerm

    Posted

    I learned years ago to only go to women doctors. I was in so much pain everytime I had my cycle and a Man GYN told me it would have to deal with these women things. Cramps are part of it. I was raise in a family where whinning got you no where I am pretty tough. I know about cramps, but for a "MAN" to have the nerve to tell me how it feels is unallowable. Well I went nuts; I threating, law suits well they sent me to a women and ended up I had some serious issues. I decided right then and there I would never see another man and I would be my own advicate
    • MrsMerm
      MrsMerm kc1982

      Posted

      thing is KC these people were women, and not good at their job either eek

      Going to ZZZZZZZ now as I think the past few days have been stressful and I need to rest,

                                      Nite KC wink

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