Why is TKR so tough psychologically?
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I was somewhat prepared for the physical affects of this operation, but the psychological affect has been so much more difficult to deal with.
I am almost 15 weeks post op but, for the past few days, the nervous/anxious, unable to cope with the smallest things feeling has begun to creep up on me again.
Can anyone else relate or explain why this op gets to us like this? Just not the person I was, although others think I'm doing better than I am.
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jean95756 lynn08926
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although I'm only into my 4th week after TKR I also find like you I'm just not myself anymore.
i find myself letting people do things for me which I never would have done before simply because I can't be bothered
i seem to have become a different person from the independent character that I was before this awful Op
i looked forward to getting my life back but somehow it seems to have taken part of me away.
i have no idea what the solution is but if I come up with anything I'll let you know
take care and take each day as it comes this has been a traumatic experience.
Jean
lynn08926 jean95756
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I'm sensing my husband's patience is wearing thin and I can understand why, but there is nothing I can do to shake these feelings of loosing myself. Perhaps I need counselling? Something I would NEVER have contemplated before.
pam39536 lynn08926
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lynn08926 pam39536
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Over the past hour I've taken control and told myself to get a grip and the anxious feeling will pass and I feel better. The feeling comes out of nowhere and is awful. Didn't expect to feel like this 15 weeks down the line. So comforting to know that we are practically at the same stage and you still get the wobbles!
pam39536 lynn08926
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jennifer86104 lynn08926
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This is not like me at all, although it has its benefits I suppose in that I'm saving some money😊
I don't think these feeling will go away for me until I can stop thinking about my knee in everything I do. One day I hope to wake up and think "what shall I do today?" Instead of "I wonder how painful it'll be today?". I am getting better I know and feel I've stopped having days when I've gone backwards this week so maybe the anxiety will lessen soon too. (I'm 11 weeks post op tomorrow). Hopefully sharing our feelings here will help us all.
Jen x
lynn08926 jennifer86104
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So comforting to know that I'm not on the verge of a breakdown and that the feelings are 'normal'.
The sun is shining, we have our loved ones safe and sound. Let's be thankful of all our blessings in such a bad world.
pam39536 lynn08926
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jennifer86104 pam39536
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gillme1955_UK pam39536
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gillme1955_UK jennifer86104
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Tucks lynn08926
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lynn08926 Tucks
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I'm sure you'll understand when I say I just feel safer when I know my surroundings. Fine at home and when I visit our other daughter and grandchildren who live nearby.
I hated sitting in a wheelchair, but the distances to walk both at Heathrow and Denver International are huge, so needs must I'm afraid.
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lynn08926 Tucks
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Because of that, thought I would too. How wrong can you be?
jennifer86104 lynn08926
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deb88473 jennifer86104
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Long time since we chatted, no iPad, not good. Have missed chatting with everybody soooo much, no one understands like the folk on here do.Just wanted to say have a fabulous time at the wedding. I, like you, am having problems standing for even short periods of time and the anticipation of having to do it can take the enjoyment out of any event, don't let it. Hang on to your hubby with one arm and clutch a large glass of red in the other. If it all gets too much find a comfy armchair and kick back. I am now 15 weeks and am still anxious, not like me at all, not even sure I know who me is some days but I'm still here somewhere and the day will come when all this pain and worry and anxiety will be a thing of the past for all of us. Let it come soon
Debx
jennifer86104 deb88473
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Jen x