Why this, why now
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Today it has felt like my head is a whirlpool. I'm not edging towards the middle but everything is spinning in my head.
I've been on Fluoxetine for over 6 years and and weaning myself off very slowly with doc supervision. Am down to 30mg (from 40mg) since November last year.
Right now i really want to cry and feel so emotional but i don't know what about. Its such a horrible feeling. I last cried at my father's funeral last year but that anniversary has passed a few weeks ago now.
I want to cry but i can't. Help.
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lee34449
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deee
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Meganpooch
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I know the withdrawal symptoms are tough Deee. So far i've only dropped 10mg to 30mg. Maybe i won't give anything up for Lent but try to reduce my dose to 20mg for the 2nd time and hope i last more than the half life this time.
I lloked at so many websites at the start of my long journey. Maybe i should revisit some now but with different questions, thanks.
Best wishes to you both and thanks for caring.
sunset17
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Sorry to hear you haven't been feeling great recently. All I can say from my own experience is that if you feel sad then cry. Don't bottle up your emotions inside. I spent a long time keeping things to myself, keeping my emotions inside and not allowing myself to cry when I was sad. It isn't a good way to live.
You say that you just can't cry, I understand that, but maybe it is rather that you don't want to cry because you think that you are letting yourself down by crying, (this is what would stop me from crying), but you aren't letting yourself down, it's ok to cry if you are sad. I might be totally on the wrong page here, obviously only you can know how you feel.
Take care and hope you start feeling better soon.
Meganpooch
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I learnt a long time ago that bottling up one's feelings was a very dangerous thing to do.I now see my counsellor if i need to talkor come on this site. I'm ok now, back to flatlining which is good (for me).
I don't know what caused this sudden onset of extreme sadness and thankfully it had gone by the next day. It's just that i hadn't experienced feeling like that for about 4 years so it was a bit of a shock.
Ever since starting on Fluoxetine i have found that the drug supresses emotions especially crying. Sometimes i so want to cry and am frustrated that i can't physically do it, nearly but not quite.
Thanks for sharing and caring.
lee34449
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tracey15775 lee34449
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Meganpooch
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Found a bit of paper yesterday that said i started the Fluoxetine in Dec 2008 so my doc got it wrong. Have only been on the drugs for just over 5 years.....still a long time though and have been contributing for nearly 5 of those years.
We are all in the same unfortunate boat in general and it's so good that you feel you are not alone with such caring sufferers here online.
Best wishes.
deee
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I have had 87 shock treatments (and have serious brain damage as a result), I have been brought to a standstill with drugs, I have been on life support 4 times from suicide attempts, with a dozen admissions for ODs that only needed a respirator. Believe me I KNOW DEPRESSION. I have been a psych nurse and I have seen a lot of other people's depression, too. I have NEVER believed that depression is a LIFE SENTENCE. You CAN get better and move on. But you have to take some chances, you have to know it's not easy. Sometimes I wake up and think, I can't do this. I use a bit of CBT, say, this will pass and it does. Every time. The `quick fix' is a major problem in our society. `Give me a pill to make me happy. Woe is me, I'm depressed, I can't...' YOU CAN. In the long run it is your life, you only get one shot at it. Have a look at Professor Lucy Johnstone's work, read or video about `psychological formulation', an approach that aims to `help people to do something with their difficulties', `creating meaning out of chaos and despair'. NOT your `sickness' or `disease', your `difficulties'. The move from a `diagnosis' of an `illness' that has to be treated, to a recognition that you have difficulties and need to find ways to deal with them and move on. It and many other alternatives are more about learning than `treatment'. It's NOT A QUICK FIX, but it is, because a bit of time and pain now can free up your future, can give you a life, and I do realise that for some, it may be for the first time. A chance to be happy, or sad, or pleased, or disappointed, to be human and proud of it. Good luck everyone, you don't have to be a `patient'.
sunset17
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Yeah I know what you mean saying it came as a shock to you, I felt that way after feeling well for a few weeks and then feeling down again, I suddenly start thinking it's a disaster. I've learnt now though to expect a lot of ups and downs especially in the early days.
Keep well.
Meganpooch
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That was a powerful post. I now believe that this drug is hindering my recovery. Don't get me wrong, for short term help it is excellent and has put me in a better and far safer place than where i was at the beginning. This is why i'm weaning myself off it via the docs.
My sister was also on it quite long term due to a messy and stressful divorce. She still has the sympoms of the illness but deals with it in different ways, some successful and from my point of view, some not.
The reason i have been on it so long is due to life events - loss of both parents amongst other things and pain every day for 22 years (my own fault but never thought it would bite me on the bum for so long).
When it is out of my system i intend to try more self help methods of coping. I have already learnt (the hard way) to be a more selfish person. I used to take on everyone else's problems and listen to all their problems. I, however, had no outlet to offload these problems. I now only take on what i'm capable of dealing with. Those people were selfish themselves unburdening on me.
I have tried Hypnotherapy, reflexology, reiki, cranial and osteopath and chiropractor as various therapies as well as counselling. This has cost a fortune over the years as it has mostly been private. I've had mixed success. I'm open to trying anything (within reason) once and more times if i find it works.
I don't intend to spend the rest of my life on these drugs and being a stubborn git i will get my way eventually. I don't think it's sad to have been on this drug for just over 5 years. It was a means to an end and put me in a far better place in the beginning.
Best wishes.
MP
deee
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So, if they work for you, that's wonderful. You don't have to make excuses, we all do what we do. Nobody's wrong. You're obviously a sensible person, whatever helps in the roughest of times is where you go and I still believe that sometimes, in the short term, some drugs can be helpful. It's in the long term that there's often a problem. They can make you a `patient' with all the helplessness that can bring, and can sometimes even interfere with your ability to tackle the things that can overwhelm you. They can also be part of the reason for consumer's life spans being shortened by up to 25 years. (USA figures)
My sadness is, that in our society, when we turn to someone for help in our darkest places, we're given a pill. It's that that saddens me. BUT...we, and that includes a lot of doctors, are exploring the alternatives. They won't all work for all of us all the time, but hopefully these approaches will offer more and more options. Even the `madness' of `schizophrenia' is being really helped to recover without meds! It's wonderful.
Have a look around for ways to learn how to deal with the difficulties we face. If we're struggling it means the ways we've used in the past don't work. But maybe we can replace them with better ones, maybe we can find ways to overcome some of the terrible things thatmay have happened in our lives and move on. I feel proud of myself that I went to an `art therapy' group and didn't leave because it was too airy fairy for me. It ended up as such a great experience that I can hardly wait for the next one. OK, I was an artist, (I feel stripped of my creativity by `shock' - it's my millstone), but this group suggested that I could find it again. We'll see. Oh, the others weren't artists and enjoyed it, too. I'm REALLY FOR ART THERAPY & music and +++EXERCISE!
I think you should be proud too, that you've set out to help yourself. Even if it hasn't always helped much so far, you come across as someone who doesn't give up no matter how tired you get. With all that experience you should write an article, even a book. How about collaborating with some people and dig out ALL the alternatives even the really mad stuff. It could be very informative and it could also be very FUNNY. Aim for funny, the way to really send it up some of the more pompous `therapists' is to laugh at them (and a little bit at yourself). laughter is a very good therapy technique (include me amongst the pompous for that one). Sometimes when it gets a bit much I turn on Billy Connolly. Never mind his wife is a psychotherapist. You never know one day I might get a freebie therapy session on the side.
Take care - deee PS I do go, don't I?
QACab
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Anyway thats enough about me.
Hope you're feeling better today and keep strong.
QACab
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Anyway thats enough about me.
Hope you're feeling better today and keep strong.
Meganpooch
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Thanks for your post. By the way, i also sent you a PM. I wasn't having a go at you in my last post, just stating how it has helped me in the early years. Thanks for the character assessment. Think you are spot on there.
We are all entitled to our opinions and as you say no-one is wrong. Also humour is the 1 emotion this drug cannot suppress. Yesterday i tried listening to some classical music - something i've been unable to do since the sudden death of my mum 7 years ago but i felt myself welling up so turned it off. Still have some stumbling blocks there then!!
I don't watch much TV but prefer to listen to music depending on my mood. Its strange but the music my dad used to whistle i am fine with yet he only passed away last year. Some discussions with my counsellor coming up methinks.
I like your posts. They are very informative and you did make me laugh towards the end of it, so thanks for that.
Exercise would be lovely but unfortunately i can only walk for 5 mins before intense pain. Have nerve issues in 1 of my feet, being addressed at the moment. I hope next year to buy a dog as a companion and that will also give me no excuse not to exercise.
Thanks again for replying and best wishes to you.
MP