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Worst part of Day 2 is live in partner

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Misssy2
Misssy2

Telling me I'm always sick! Yes I am an alcoholic... You can't handle it..that's what doors are for...can't stand someone walking around cleaning around me making me feel more guily as I'm just struggling to make broth. And he did his thing last night...drugs. Has a good pattern of that and just got up..but that's OK...and is to him cause he functions. However this is first 2 weeks he's buys his own...and think he's dealing the financial stress and harm it causes. Trying to make me feel bad by saying he's going out with a buddy tonight..he NEVER does. .and I doubt he can stay away from HIS problem... Needed to vent

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  • jacqueline85124
    jacqueline85124 Misssy2

    Posted

    Yes, it is definitely a problem when your partner is also an alcoholic or addict.  I am an alcoholic who is married to another alcoholic, but the problem is he hasn't admitted to his addiction.  Instead, he keeps throwing back at me that it's all my problem, especially since I've sought out help.  Is this what one gets for being honest with oneself and others??  This situation makes it very hard to stay on the straight and sober path, but I am determined.  I am hanging on by my fingernails because I have three kids at home and I don't want to leave them devastated. That said, life would be so much easier without him and his lifestyle, the very one I've chosen to give up.  If it weren't for the kids and the house they live in, I'd be out of this co-dependent rut.  I hope time will sort out this situation.

     

    • Misssy2
      Misssy2 jacqueline85124

      Posted

      Sounds like your in a rut.....too.

      ​God help us to hold on until we are feeling better.

      Than we will feel better about us and our choices...and show them how it is done!

      ​Although that doesn't work for me...but it does make ME stronger, healthier and able to at least get out of the house! 

      ​Your children are a great thing to keep in the front of your mind while you hang on....smile

  • vickylou
    vickylou Misssy2

    Posted

    Vent all you like misssy, that's what we're here for. Sounds a bit like double standards. You're admitting your problem but he's not. Try and just concentrate on getting yourself back on track although it must be hard without support from those nearest and dearest. Thinking of you, take care xx
    • Misssy2
      Misssy2 vickylou

      Posted

      I'm really SO...sick..that I could care less about anyone...I'm just trying to hang on....till these clouds clear in my head ...LOL.

      ​Just saying...I don't need people putting me down...when I am already WAY..WAY down.

       

  • RHGB
    RHGB Misssy2

    Posted

    Might be a case that you are jealous, that he has a problem, but is able to function, where you cannot. Are you trying to shift blame on to him?

    Now, I know that that comment is going to bring a load of comments out, saying shame on me, but I'm trying to get to the root cause of the problem.

    If he is bringing you down, lose him, if he is trying to help, use him.

    • Misssy2
      Misssy2 RHGB

      Posted

      Yea, I do think I am sort of jealous that HE can function....and use.

      But when I am sober...it turns to ANGER...and I did start the eviction process when I was sober.  Its not anger when I'm sober that he can use...its anger he goes thru OUR money....

      ​And I do feel like that is a reason I keep relapsing (among other of my own issues).

      ​When I'm sober it brings me down...When I'm hungover it makes me jealous

    • cazjaz16
      cazjaz16 Misssy2

      Posted

      Seriously hope you can sort it out Hun sounds a horrid situ. I hate myself also 😪
    • Misssy2
      Misssy2

      Posted

      Like...right now..I'm jealous that he took the car...and can go pick up his 87 year old Ma...and go to a casino...and he used and drank last night!

      ​I can NEVER do that...either hungover or drunk.  I feel right now worse than I did on my worst drunk day....but it will be worth it.

      ​And I'm jealous...that all the family does is talk about MY problem (because it debilitates me)...and doesn't care about the 60 bucks he blows everyday on drugs....jealous and angry yea....LOL.

      ​But sober...just angry and hurt.

    • Misssy2
      Misssy2 cazjaz16

      Posted

      Don't hate yourself! Hate the alcohol.  I REALLY hate it right now because I keep thinking I can drink...I'm back in this situation...not eating what I would LOVE to be ready to eat....B/F just asked me if I wanted so fried chicken while he was out (one of my favorites)....I said NOPE.

      ​I know from experience in a couple days...I will be eating the fried chicken...but today was just another wasted day and I felt like wasted space....but I didn't drink....and neither did you right?  So we're good...hard....determined people...with a really bad condtion at the moment...but "This too shall pass"

    • Misssy2
      Misssy2 RHGB

      Posted

      Another thing I'm angry about....is he will be up till 3am this morning trying to get at me in my room while I'm sleeping....just to "talk"!   THEN he will be up at 530am for work...and HE WILL GO.  And I will probably STILL feel like crap.

      ​And he has a hard job (does framing - buidling houses)...so I still will feel like a loser if I'm here on the couch after all that.  And I just noticed he took sheets off bed and they are in the washer...he washed bedroom floor and kitchen floor, put away dishes and their are clothes on the table to fold...and I can't do them. 

      ​He doesn't understand alcohol withdrawal at all...I'm not even at 48 hours yet, so medically I am at my worst.  I know I should have went to the hospital (and that is the only time he does get it)....but he begged me not to...bought me the Gatorade...the water....the small bags of chicken broth.  So yea...long story not to be made much longer...lol.  I'm jealous he is not hungover too.

      ​VERY. 

    • Misssy2
      Misssy2 cazjaz16

      Posted

      No...I'm dying...on Day 2 of not drinking.

      Never felt worse.

      ​Although things might be getting better because all I've eaten is chicken broth today and I just cooked myself about 5 fried potatoes (french fries)...and I'm eating them...forcefully...but eating...

    • cazjaz16
      cazjaz16 Misssy2

      Posted

      How much you detoxing from Hun do you think you need medical help if it's a major drop in alcohol ??
    • Misssy2
      Misssy2 cazjaz16

      Posted

      I know I needed medical help...but I will get thru it.

      ​I have the medication (benzo) and keeping fluids down...pee is clearing...have taken the vitamins I DO have here...zinc, vitamin C and praying for an easier day tommorow.

       

    • Misssy2
      Misssy2 cazjaz16

      Posted

      Sorry didn't answer your question...17-24 beers a day.

      ​Without food - that was 17-24 a day for 7 days.

      ​Last time I did 27 days of that...I was in hospital.  Last time I did 5 days of it...I felt similar to this and got thru it. 

    • RHGB
      RHGB Misssy2

      Posted

      Jesus wept, I'm a 6'2" bloke with a decent build and even if that 20 odd beers a day is 330ml bottles, I don't think I could hack that.
    • Misssy2
      Misssy2 RHGB

      Posted

      I appraently didn't hack it to well either!

      smile.

       

    • Misssy2
      Misssy2 Richardt

      Posted

      No..I'm the "rich" one...and not so much which is aggrivating..I am an enabler for everyone around me...and he gets the 60 from me.
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