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Hailea
Hailea

Hi fellow hippies

Sorry I have not been about for a while. I have been very busy getting the house puppy proofed. 2 new furballs will be arriving soon..

Just a little update. I go back for more hydrotherapy in a couple of weeks I still can not put my right foot flat on the floor. I am still using 2 crutches when out and about. I am so unfit that I am struggling to walk more than  500 meters and have to sit down to get my breath back but I am working on excersizes at home to help with this too. Celabrated 25th wedding aniversary a couple of weeks back. Lost my dad 14th March never got to see him.All I was looking for was some remorse from him for the abuse he put me through as a child. Wont get that now will I?

Other than the above I am doing pretty well. I can walk in the house without my sticks but can't stand straight I guess that will come with time.

Started doing a little gardening like pruning the hedges and trees that havn't been done for over 4 year wow what a mess the garden is in. Got myself some fruit bushes. A cherry tree some strawbeerry plants and a rasberry and blackcurrant bushes and some Fusha plants that also produce edible fruit. Any fruit I don't need will be frozen till the winter and fed to the birds. I make them fruit cake instead of just feeding bread. There is no nutrition for them in bread. Fruit cake is the best.

Renee I hope you are well

Hailea x

 

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  • annie.conway
    annie.conway Hailea

    Posted

    There is very little nourishment in bread, period.

    Sorry to hear about your dad. Best to just close that chapter and move on.

    Enjoy the gardening! It will go some ways to seeing you progress to fitter again.

    • Hailea
      Hailea annie.conway

      Posted

      Hi Annie

      Yes your right. I am trying to get folk to feed fruit cake to birds not bread. It may help bring some back from the brink of being rare. I always enjoy the garden. It is going to take all summer to put it right now though.eek

    • annie.conway
      annie.conway Hailea

      Posted

      Same applies to ducks and other water birds. Pigeons come to mind. Feed them species appropriate food.
  • Lorna020247
    Lorna020247 Hailea

    Posted

    Enjoy your pups bet you can't wait.

    hope you continue to progress x

    lorna

    • Hailea
      Hailea Lorna020247

      Posted

      Hi Lorna

      Thanks I can't wait houser looks empty with only 3 dogs in it. lol

  • renee01952
    renee01952 Hailea

    Posted

    Hello darling - 

    I have been thinking of you .... you sound great !  puppy prrofing the house, getting the garden ready and trees to bear fruit - phew .... 

    I remember how you wanted to get to your dad before he passed away and how sick you were - Sometimes things happen for a reason and usually, on hindsight it is for the best - 

    I know how hard it is to don't have closure on something like this - 

    In my case, I started to forgive --- little by little - inching closing the wound

    big warm hug

    renee

    • Hailea
      Hailea renee01952

      Posted

      Hello Renee. I thought you might be. cheesygrin

      I have all my plants in huge pots at the moment. Dont want to move house and leave them here.

      I am a lot better than I was even if I am not 100% right yet only time will sort that out. To be perfectly honest I was fit enough to go to my dads funeral. But I didn't go. I have decided I won't get what I wanted I only found out he had died through an obitury ad in the newspapers so I didn't even go to the funeral. I never felt part of that family any way so I didn't get upset over it and I am just getting on with life.

      I will never forgive for what I went through. But I won't let it affect my life any more he can't do anything to me now any way. I am moving house soon and once I do no one from that family will know where I am.That will be my closure.

      Warm Hug to you. Glad your ok Renee x

  • CelsB
    CelsB Hailea

    Posted

    Hi Hailea,

    Lovely to hear from you biggrin

    Congratulations on your 25th wedding anniversary.

    Sorry about your dad but as Annie says, time to move forward now. Some things just aren't meant to be but it would have been good to get some closure.

    Good luck with your recovery.  Mine hasn't been too straightforward - I am my second course of antibiotics for infection.  We just have to do the best we can and accept the setbacks, disappointing as they are.

    Take care,  Cels xxx

    • Hailea
      Hailea CelsB

      Posted

      Hi CelsB

      Thanks cheesygrin

      Sorry you are having such a rough time. I have been on antibiotics. a couple of times but only minor reasons.

      I hope you get better soon and continue to make progress. I will be fine. I always am. Takes a lot to make me quit.

  • linda38528
    linda38528 Hailea

    Posted

    Hi Hailea,

    What a busy period it is! Two puppies (what breed?)

    Very glad that you are truly moving on from that bitter and hurtful situation. Even though we all want closure, sometimes it is just better to try to let it go.

    In any case, you have filled your world with life (your dogs, the new puppies and birds) that will not disappoint. Did I understand correctly that you are even moving house? You are intrepid - but then my family moved 11 times before I left home as as a teenager. So I have become rooted where I live now (since 1979) and the thought of moving simply does not appeal.

    And moving my parents from their most recent home of 20 years into a retirement home, then into a nursing home and then dealing with my Mom's death a week after my surgery did not help me get over this aversion. I have been very lucky though with my family and my one regret is the prolonged nature of Mom's death from Alzheimer's for the impact it had on my Dad. He has vascular dementia and Mom's inability to interact with or respond to him over the last two years has been hell for him after 65 years in a very close and loving life together. He is so lonely now that it hurts just thinking of it. However, I just found a lovely woman who has agreed to supplement my visits with him by a few extra hours a week, so things are looking up (esp as my second THR is likely in August). And I am recovering well now ... almost ready to leave my walker behind for all but long walks outdoors. I just started using walking poles and I am getting more comfortable with them. It feels good to get out more now that the snow is finally finished for the year (knock on wood)!

    I love your forward focus Hailey ... don't lose it.

    Borrowing a little from Renée (because I haven't found a lovelier expression), I am sending big warm hugs for you and your new pups.

    • Hailea
      Hailea linda38528

      Posted

      Hi Linda

      i will be getting Alaskan malamutes. Had one before so I know what to expect. I love the sled dog breeds. Having had Siberian huskies for 23 years. 

      I havnt moved on. Just come to the conclusion  that I won't get my answers or an apology and after what I went through including reporting it to the authorities nothing can be done now any way. 

      This is is why I love animals more than humans they love you no matter what you look like or what you do. 

      Yes I will be moving in a few weeks. Not very far away from where I am now. But the local council are moving a load of sirain refugees into the flats near.  my house and I can see big problems developing with the local youths causing issues over this and I really do not want to be part of the fallout with getting my windows smashed and fights breaking out in all hours when the locals try and move them on. They do not want them here. I totally understand why. The local people who were born and bred here want to stay here near there families. That is how it has always been but the council are secretly keeping these flats empty to give to these other people they won't give them to the locals so I see trouble brewing. 

      This will be my last move. I won't be moving any more. I have bought the new house outright so no mortgage either and money left to do it up too. 

      Sorry you went through a tough time with your mum. Mine died 20 years ago at only 65 of bowel cancer. I have always said it should have been my dad not her ( well he wasn't my real dad any way )  Funny how the ones that cause issues to there partner show remorse when it is too late to make things right. My marriage is a team. It has been like that for 25 years I tell him to do it. I don't nag. I give him a month then remind him if it hasn't been done he usually does it then. The dogs are my back. Up if we have an argument they back me up lol. 

      I will post photos once the dogs are home. I get the first one July 17 th. I get the second one hopefully in October if the breeding is successful 

      it is no good looking back on things. You have to look forward or you will end up frustrated and totally miserable. 

       

  • isabelle40781
    isabelle40781 Hailea

    Posted

    I am glad that you are able to garden. It's probably the most therapeutic that you can do. Nothing like watching your garden grow from your loving care and enjoying the fruits of your labor.

    Best of luck with your recovery.

    • Hailea
      Hailea isabelle40781

      Posted

      Hi Isabella

      I can't kneel down but I have the tools to be able to do the jobs I need to. If I can't reach I have tools with extending handles so I can do what I need to do as for weeding I use a hoe. Then grab the weed with a grabber put it in the bin simple 😊

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