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I’m so sorry..I feel the same way..currently very achy and exhausted like I’m getting sick but I’m not..just a series of unfortunate peri symptoms on rotation at this point in our lives.. all of this has come seemingly out of the blue for me… I feel great when I turn 40 and beyond and then all the sudden at 45 total misery, anxiety, aches and pains so many other things I never imagined I would have to deal with. At this moment I can just say that I am very grateful that you were all here and then if we must suffer at least we are suffering together… No one wants to hear about in my house as well so I’m so glad you’re all here. Take care.

Hi ladies

Your words and experiences are just like mine. My Peri kicked in big time around 47 (although I didn’t know this ta the time) and now at 53 I feel I’m well into this roller coaster ride.

I’m currently full of muscle , neck and shoulder stiffness that at times wears me down so much I just cry.

I am doing everything recommended. Vitamins, yoga/exercise, drinking lots of water, trying to think positive but I still struggle a lot of the time to keep a smile on my face.

My confidence is so low when I feel really bad and the flushes, dizziness and irritability that kicks in regularly are really difficult to deal with.

I struggle socially and most of the time I just can’t be bothered. So I keep myself to myself and use the time to paint, read and say a few small prayers to keep me sane.

I ache so much to have the old “me” back and grieve for the bounce and zest for life I used to have. I just feel so damn old at times!!! 

I know we should be grateful as there is so much sadness and suffering across the world at the moment but as long as we can chat on this forum it does help relieve the sense of struggling on alone.

I send hugs and prayers to all of us ladies going through this and thanks for this fab thread. It’s really captured just how I’m feeling at the moment.

Love xxxx

I was feeling exactly the same! My nightmare started a year ago at 41. After struggling a few months with insomnia, depression, body aches etc I took hrt and I felt like me again! Why we have to struggle with all these nonsense? I’d take everything to feel normal again! I find nothing normal at the menopause and I’m determined to stay on hrt the longer I can.

I feel alone in this and rarely say anything anymore to anyone because if you never experienced it there isn't a point in telling. Plus I don't like to be around people too much as Im so moody, I do well just being kind to my sons.

I don't understand why some woman get very little symptoms and some of us go through hell....I feel like Im being punished for something.

Hope you all have a peaceful day ?

Hi Samantha I feel just like you , I don't like going out when I'm haveing bad days , just had a bad week of hell with depression and axniaty so went doctor and they have put me on Hrt patches third day . Felt a bit better this morning , then just had anxiety bout . But I'm feeling the same . I started when I was 52 with bad anxiety and doc put me on sertaline which was great but this last 2years have been hell . I'm 58 the end of this month . Oh god I hope this year will be better . But we are all in the same boat I wish all the lady's on this forum all the love in the world , it so hard going though this .??

 

Hi Samantha, if your in perimenopause it's up to 10 years but I went through it up 5 years and had 6 months break until I reach the ending of my periods symptoms came back to bit since then I have been struggling with this damn Anxiety business but what else can you do but wait it out and hope that one morning it will be gone..I think everyone timing is different when my dr told me up to that time I said they same but I'm  still here breathing I had a lot scary things in Peri that now has subsided don't want to think about it..and yes still going through other crap I'm taking all in my stride..taking each day as it comes you will be ok, like people tell me all the time it just the way it makes you feel hang on there too.

Samantha I often feel like that, just want to jack everything n and walk away. I'm 45 and have had all these rubbish symptoms for 3 years and always just put it down to PMT but they have gradually got worse. I've been to see my Dr and have had the bloods done but everything came back normal, so now I'm in limbo once again. I'm going back to see the Dr because I still feel rubbish.

Hopefully my Dr will sort this out asap and I'm going to try doing some yoga. I listen to a piece of yoga music which I cried to when I first listened to it but now along with some breathing exercises, it does help.

If you want to take a peek, Google Ra Ma Da Sa by Snatum Kaur.

Take care ?

Thats what I am saying, it isnt fair, but we do have to weather through it. Keep thinking and working on positive changes.

Hi to you all,

?I just want to wish everyone well, I know exactly how Samantha and all of us are feeling; at mid fifties my life just seem to have come to a complete halt.  Only way I can describe it.

?I try to be upbeat but just lately, I can't.   I work in technical roles and brain fog is just gathering strength..I need to work, but confidence at all time low.

I read a report/study that some French Doctors felt that hormones were not responsible for PMT!  It's not just PMT though, from what I can tell and through experience doctors(ok Some) are not willing to admit or acknowledge that hormones affect well being, physical/mental health...

I despair, I really do.

I note that when I have mentioned certain things to GP (I have not been for almost 2 years now to see a gp), the emphasis appears to be on mental health, the menopause becomes quite irrelevant.

?It affects your teeth, your sight, your joints, your appetite, your sleep, your balance,spatial awareness...everything....we know it does... and yet...

it's all in the mind...

?Sorry this is turning into my own private rant..but today..sorry it's vent your spleen day....

I really feel for Samantha and anyone who feels they're permanently in a boxing ring and on a continual round of fending of punches that is part the menopause/peri.

I don't know...

rant over

?Just to wish every well!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

?highlands 51 (4 years post meno) and counting...