Ahem... sex

At times i do miss be close and cuddling but for the past 10 years nothing plus he really was never in the mood. It a shame bc it was good way back when and it made me feel good!also it seems that hubby and i have really grow apart and he cant understand what is going on with me right now. dosent want to talk about it with me he rather just lay on the couch and say nothing-i guess after 30 years of marriage there is nothing to say or he just dosent really care what is going on me!! was kinds hoping to enjoy these "golden years" with somone but guess thats not happening!! thanks for letting me vent ladies somedays are just lonely and need to vent thanks!!

Er no, no and no!

The last time we had sex was a week before my hysterectomy, that was nearly 3 years ago.

Two months after my op, the weight started to go on and I felt less and less inclined to have sex. 

Then all the other symptoms hit me like a ton of bricks.

I had the hysterectomy (at 51) as I had been bleeding very heavily for a year and a half, had had fibroids removed - several times - and felt it was the best option.

My partner is very understanding, I and he have other health problems too.

We still have cuddles every day and I know he wants more but I just can't summon up the energy or enthusiasm. 

I started to take more care of what I eat and try to get some exercise (difficult as my balance is non existant due to MD) about 6 months ago.

I have been taking vitamins and minerals if I have a bad MD day (when I can't eat anything due to vertigo and vomitting) or if I feel I'm lacking in anything.

Take care

Oh, for anyone who has a partner who isn't very sympathetic, show him some of the posts on here, I showed my partner anyway, even though he understands, and he was amazed how much we have to cope with.

Keep strong

Sex? What's that?!! ha ha

At times I want to have sex and yes it makes me feel goiod, but I rarely have it because there are times I'm not feeling good or he is not doing good 

Ooo yes ! I remember sex.....! Wild gay abandon in a Ford Cortina in 1976...!!! Those memories of a far distant time keep me smiling.....'Cos I sure as heck don't feel like doing that now !!😄

My poor partner is a very patient man....,and much as I am no " Mata Hari"  we've had our moments...but post menopause...which really IS Gods little joke on us girls !! Thinking about it, rather than doing it too much these days is as good as it gets. 

Theres a lot of kisses and cuddles which sometimes turns into more....but he also is a " man of a certain age"  so much as the spirit is willing............

hey ho ! 

As long as both are happy.......keep smiling. Xxx

 well in short auswinnie, NO and haven't for about 3 to 4yrs now, when i look back, the urge was dwindling before that too, don't miss it at all either.

AusWinnie

Can I just give you a big Thank You Hug from all the ladies on this forum. 

You really knew what would get us all talking with this thread!!!!

Great that so many of us seem to have been right off the boil for so long:  I'm sure we all thought it was just 'Me'!!!

Thanks Again.  Be prepared for this to go off the scale with replies!!

Sx

Thanks Shaz.  Yes I had a feeling there was a bit being left unsaid.  With all the other posts about being in such discomfort all the time I wondered if others were feeling that intimacy was taking a back seat as it is with me.  My other half is a lot older than me but he still acts like a bloody teenager!  I have never heard him say he's not up for it (pardon).  We sleep in separate rooms because I am a light sleeper so we made a deal to have an "assignation" once a week.  I couldn't care less and it's only for him but most of the time I just can't summon up the energy or enthusiasm so it tends to end up being once every 4 to 6 weeks if that, and then I am glad it's over till next time.  Wish it was different.