Can anxiety go away on it's own??

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I finally had the courage to go to see my doctor today...until I got outside the building. I sat outside for half an hour before giving up and walking away.

I see now that I am not going to be able to do it, I have tried.

How am I supposed to get the help that I need if I can't even force myself through the door?

I'm too scared to sit there in front of my GP. And to anyone thinking that I am just being negative..yes, I am. That's the problem I guess.

I have spent the rest of the day either crying, or staring blankly at nothing. I feel like I am just going to have to deal with it and be like this forever.

My partner tells me that going to the doctors is stupid anyway, because I am just very shy. I am pretty sure that it's more than that, but if he's not concerned then should I be??

Can anxiety go away on it's own? Because the thought of feeling like this forever is just too much.

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    Hey girl i was reading you post i have anxiety and panic attacks its so hard and scary because your mind is every where it feels like your heart is coming out your chess you feel like you can't breath you can sleep you then that's when the fears kick in.i've had it for .... four years i had to deal with this i had no choice to get on medication
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    tiffy

    what exactly are you symotoms? What made you wait 30 mins and then go back? just trying to understand the trigger / issue?

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    You can self learn cbt, many online courses. You do need to readjust how your body responds to stress. People go to the doctors to get a clear bill of health so that they can focus on the anxiety issues. Medication for anxiety is a choice. A doctor can write up a script for it but that doesn't mean you have to use it.its the full exam with bloodwork you want. That should be done  yearly by way with or without anxiety. If ignoring it all worked wed all be in tip,top shape. You noted this is a year already. Id say learn the cbt. I also believe in the uk theres a waiting for cbt with a soecialist so you can at least get your physical and get in the waiting list too. A good back up plan right?
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    I am quite concerned that most of these comments tell u not to bother with docs or medication :-/ doctors are there to help u! I've got two young children and I suffer with social anxiety and ocd paranoia, it started when I was under a lot of stress at work 2 years ago, ive tried therapy but then got pregnant so decided to stop, but since having my baby I'm on waiting list to go back, ive also tried quite a few medications that I've had to stop as they made to unwell to look after my children, I fear the doctors ect but I have to get this sorted I refuse to live like this for the rest of my life, I haven't found anything that has helped yet, but I'm hopeful I will :-) and u will too!! U just need to make that first step n go to docs! (I too have an unsupportive bf who don't understand) do u not have a friend, sister close relative that could go with u? I also find a morning app would be more easier as it's less quite and there's not much waiting around to scare u off!! Please go to the doctor, don't suffer on ur own, they are there to help!!!

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    Hi i have anxiety as well to be honest i didnt know i had anxiety i thought it was just stress and my bodh reacting that way. So i went to the doctors its hard to hear that you have anxiety. So they are two routes therapy or medication right away. I was very skeptical about anxiety medication but since therapy wasnt working what did i have to loose. The doctor explained when i asked exactly how does the medication work and how does it affect my brain. Its not has bad you think i had to try just one to get to the right one although it can take more. Basically what anxiety medication does is it blocks certain endorphins your brain may over produce like serotonin dopamine etx. Dont be afraid youll be fine just think postive surround yourself with good thoughts no matter how bad it gets. You arent alone explore all the options there is i was skeptical at first and in denial.

    Wish you the best!

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    Hi Tiffy,

    I hope you got better by now. But i used to be a self proclaimed "expert" on anxiety as i had it so bad. I had it so bad that i wake up every 3am with a panic attack nearly everyday for over a year, ,bedridden on my back for over a year, gritting my teeth, as i cannot breath but also immense physical pain like my brain is all swelled up, with immense headache like my brain was going to explode, my intestine stomach muscles hurt really bad too all tensed up nearly 24/7 for a year that's why i grit my teeth mainly because of that pain and my brain swelling feeling pain like my brain is trying to explode, also mentally i had horror nightmares running through my head awake and even when im asleep. Really i have been through a lot it literally was like torture and hurt really really really bad mentally and physically. I seen like 7 doctors(1 local gp, 2 private doctors, 2 of them A and E hospital doctors and 2 chinese medicine doctors). Most people's comments here are correct, I personally think doctors do not help in terms of the medication they give you, they gave me valium(happy drug) and wanted me on some type of tranquilisers, I tried it but it does not work well, it only slightly tries to ease the symptoms(not effective in my case) and not going after the main cause. The only good thing about the doctors is them actually telling me i have anxiety, I did deny it vigorously saying no it must be something more serious like cancer! The pain i feel! But after i came to my senses I eventually believed them and accepted it is 100% anxiety and panic attacks(a really bad case of it). You 100% have anxiety and it is NOT NOT NOT just shyness, i once thought i couldn’t talk to people because of that but no it was because of panic attacks i couldn’t not shyness.

    The Good news is it is absolutely curable. I am testament to that. The bad news is(in my case anyways) is it will take time. Not a day, not a month but more like 1 year if you have it bad. After 1 year i was 75% better, after 2 years I was 95% better. I really do believe that no one has had it as bad as me(yes this is a self claim too but it’s just to emphasise how bad i was!). To answer your question whether it will go away by itself, the answer would be no unless you are actively doing something about it. Now for the fun part, how i got rid of it - I used mind diversion techniques. When bad thoughts come into your mind, immediately think of something else, something happy. Like going to the beach or for my case playing football with my friends, or playing some funky music i heard of in my head to divert my attention to something else. Reason for this is you are trying to unlearn your anxiety, and by diverting your attention when you get those bad feels your brain will learn to try and “forget” anxiety. This is what worked for me. Btw I am thinking of starting an anxiety blog maybe called anxiety away or something to share my knowledge of what i have. As i feel this condition is torture and worse that all other conditions combined. Hope I have helped you.

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      Hi leanJisoo,

      We can talk here or I could give you my email. But I'm not someone that's a medical expert but just someone that has gone through it and fixed it in my own way. Anxiety could be possibly different for every person but my personal case is I think i had it bad for 2 years

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      Thanks for your reply everyday i feel like im going to die when i feel something bad or aching on my body my heart starting to beat so fast and i feel weak everyday i feel that 😞 im doing your advice to think something happy but im still worrying

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      Ive been struggling with anxiety and panic attacks for about 2 years and I am 43. I can understand the first year cause I was withdrawing from marijuana, I smoked so much that I started have anxiety here and there. Till I finally quit smoking cold turkey but it was so difficult. Everyday I had anxiety and panic attacks I mean everyday. I suffer from PTSD I had a very bad childhood and lets just say I finally decided to not be numb anymore and live and that is the most difficult thing ever I'm not use to normal all I know is chaos. The normality of life is the scariest to me because I'm so use to bad I'm just waiting because it. I do go to therapy every week I am on the lowest dosage of an antidepressant, I am on a very low dosage of buspar which is for anxiety but because I'm finally dealing with indepth pain from childhood that I still a have them. When I have them I feel like i'm going to die, get light headed, vision is off a little, chest is tight, feel like i'm going to die. Just please tell that there is hope that one day I'll go back to normal

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      I also would like your contact information. I've had anxiety for 3 months now but it came with depression and no matter what I try it won't go away. I also went to therapy to figure out why it came and I'm still in knots. 

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      I would defiantly love your help with in learning anxiety.. it comes unexpectedly a lot less then before but still pops up and I get scared because I think what if I am mental or really crazy and I do something stupid and then my thoughts go crazy and I feel like I can’t breathe and start shaking and work myself up soooooo much 
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