Can Depression/Anxiety make you think you don't love someone?

I think it could be the depression talking. Inside if you love the man, you will stay with him. Relationships are really good to have when they work. Yours seems to work, but only you can make things better. People tend to demonstrate feelings in the wrong way, which destroys the relationship. Talk to him about your issues and stay together if you want it to work.

i've experienced this feeling with my past two relationships and to see that its not just a me problem is so comforting. I'm in a relationship now with an incredible guy, the best ive ever had hands down. we have only been together for two months but these feels tend to occur early on for me. nothing has changed about him to make me feel this way, but i slowly fell into anxiety; my chest feels heavy like i cant take a deep breath and it feels like a mental block of feelings has slowly come over me. i know deep down im crazy about this guy, because even by our second date, before any of this anxiety, i felt so strongly for him i could already see myself marrying him in the future, the chemistry is there 100%. and i know i didnt just lose feelings for him because i have these breakthrough moments where i can think past the anxiety and i feel pure bliss with him. i just wish that it would feel like that all the time . i dont know how to overcome this, i did in the last relationship i was in but it took 6 months to get over, and it was so painful because i hurt the guy in the process. anyone know tips on how to ease this anxiety?

Hi Chantal,

I'm sorry to hear about your situation. My reply isn't really something to help you but more of a question. have things gotten better and how long has it been, because the exact thing is happening with me towards my boyfriend and I wanna know if it gets better.

hi!!

i experience this sometimes and ive gotten therapy for it because i know how horrible it feels because the random thoughts feel so real but they're just not!! they're intrusive

search up RELATIONSHIP OCD on youtube!! and there are personal stories on it and an account called 'awaken into love' which really helped me! remember its not your fault and it will pass with help!

Hey I understand how you feel I'm sixteen and I've had a rough past with all sorts of stuff such ass rape and abuse so I've had to depression and anxiety pretty much my whole life o have bad separation anxiety and abandoned issues (i am also a closeted trans girl not that it really matters) I have recently found a girl so caring and nice and loving and just fabulous I met her back in April last year (2020) and we quickly got close to each other and we started dating its been 9 months a great 9 months everything was going great we had a few arguments here and there and they were all about stupid stuff and we got over them very quickly but about a week or 2 ago I wake up and boom i feel the exact same way you do and its killing me idk why its happening bc ik i love her when we are talking on the phone and stuff I feel good and the feelings are suppressed and I can feel the love I have for her but when we are not talking I feel lost and broken with thoughts in my head like "what if I don't love her" it hurts so bad and idk what to do its miserable and it feels like it will never end I told her and she's doing her best to help as much as she can but the thing is we don't live near each other we live a few states away and so I cant be around her its only over the phone and I'm scared like what if I truly don't love her 😭😭 I know I do tho I know I do she use to bring me so much joy and happiness but then I just wake up and boom everything hurts I dont want to go on without her but I'm scared that I have to bc this stupid feeling won't leave its been a week and a halfish and its felt like months it hurts so bad idk what to do my mom is gonna get me into therapy soon so hopefully that will help im just glad that im not the only one who feels like this not that I wish this apon anyone im just glad there are people who know how I feel

Hellooo, if anyone sees this - i am going through the same thing. It is breaking me but I HAVE to remind myself that it is my anxiety/depression getting a hold of me. Please, if anyone is still going through this and sees, please drop me a message and we can get eachother on social media and talk about this and support our way through this TOGETHER. it is SO much better to talk to someone who gets it. i have spoken to someone who has overcome it and it has given me so much hope that talking about it further will help me. please reach out so we can get through it together x

hello, I recently have been struggling with these same thoughts/feelings if "i like him" thoughts. I got to the point where its now a gut feeling. I just wanted to know if you ever got past all these thoughts and if you did how...

Hey Chantal, are there any other things that helped you to get over these thoughts? Ive been experiencing the same thing and it's been killing me so any advice would be appreciated.

Sure can. Both are disturbed states of mind to some level and both make a person pre-occupied with oneself. Perception and thoughts are primarily disturbed and poorly represent objective reality. The overwhelming unpleasant emotional and physical feelings caused by anxiety and depression make a person unable to distinguish between true feelings of closeness, love and the imagined ones (also under or over estimated).

yes! anxiety is all about illusion. it can make you perceive your enviornment wrongly.

Hi! I really hope you are doing better. Maybe I can give you a glimpse of hope, because your story really resonated with me. Its quite similar to mine, and how I was a year ago. My thoughts were exactly the same as yours, and they were eating me alive. I couldn't function, I didn't understand it. And then I discovered it was not my fault. I had (and still have, but luckily doing much better now) something called relationship OCD (ROCD). Check it out, and also google Awaken into Love. I think it might be helpful.

Wish you the best!

Good day to all, i write to you all not as a patient but as a person who loves someone who is, and i guess im feeling helpless in the sense that i really dont know what to do....I hear Chantals words and it resonated with mine, only that im on the other side of the fence...

weve know each other for more than 20 years and only 4 years ago we started dating. we moved in together and all was "perfect", until 2019, when she had a major "break-down" so she went to spend some time in Portugal for treatment and under "heavy" medication, to the point of id call her and she wouldnt make sense at all because of all the medication she was taken...It pressed to go and spend some time with her for support...After we returned home, covid hit, and i was un-imployed for a most of the year. Which obviously put a lot of stress on her, actually on both of us if im to be honest...so inconsequently i kind of acted out my own frustrations by keeping mostly to myself working on the computer, since she would come back from work and take her usual naps which sometimes lasted until the next day, i kind of started taking for granted the attention that she needed...in January this year was the first time she mention the "i think we should just be friends" thing, which for someone whos madly in love with another doesnt make much sense, since we always had this thing that "were soul mates and this is forever, we accept no refunds" kind of vibe going....we talked it out, made love like the Atlantic and Indian oceans on a summer day....and everything was ok again, because none of us wanted to break up after all....a few weeks go by and she comes with the same "lets just be friends" again....I mean, she wanted to be friends but live under the same roof, i admit, i lost it, and forgot that maybe, that was coming from an underlying problem and her illness...so i moved out...Though i realized my brash behaviour, pride spoke louder, for i left without a word, leaving only a note....After a couple of days i did apologize, but she no longer wanted us to live together, though she still wanted a relationship...two weeks ago, she drops another bomb on me...She still loves me, still cares, but she thinks i deserve someone better,( which shes done one it for most of our relationship, feelings of guilt and all)...i try to reach out and as soon as i try to talk about us, she breaks up in tears and just wants me to leave...shes been going through hell, and all i want is to be there to comfort her...I understand that she must be going through a hard spell...my problem is: do i "insist" on being there for her, showing her how much i love her or do i just do what she "wants" me to do, which is to leave her alone and "let time be in charge of it".....It breaks my heart to hear her telling me to leave...the rejection, as if im no longer her safe heaven, yet shes breaking apart as i leave....im truly confused....Though we had our disagreements as most couples, one thing that weighs heavily on me is that, arguments that i couldve taken lightly due to her illness, i didnt, acted as though she didnt have any problems .(and in my mind made sense to treat her like a "normal" person) Which clearly now she seems to remember all the bad and none of the good....

Ed

Anxiety and depression can cause doubts in relationships, although generally it can in more cases fears that you will loose someone you Love. You explain this by the sleeping together on the phone when He is away from you. These problems you explain may show up as an extreme action and other fears you may have. Fears worries and doubts can show similar things if we love someone especially if either one of you feel threatened and worried regards hypothetical unfaithfulness

Remember love in early days can be all consuming where lovers feel separated from all others that are friends or family. These relationships become very insular in other words. This will all get less and less as the relationship becomes more stable and the couple may find an inclusive way to live their lives with friends and family, Even been able to go out for the night with friends or family, or singular without their Partner friends. etc This of course will need trust and many prefer to both go out with Friends.

Ask yourself now, if either of you have any doubts about the other Have you any reason to consider a Lie as a fear ?. Remember we can easily fall out of love singular or plural. No-one can actually advise and in most cases feel the loss of falling out of Love as easily as falling in love single or plural.

I have been married for over forty years, the relationship between the two does change where relationships become more subtle, Some may call it a sort of Agreement where love still shows as a Partnership.

I remember an ex Partner and I were talking the girl began to cry. I was shocked and asked what I had said wrong, the girl said I am happy. and that brought about her tears.

Relationships are complicated. As we get older live together should be a Partnership

BOB

Am exactly facing the same thing since yesterday afternoon. Suddenly without any reason while talking to my bf I felt like I can't feel anything. And now for the whole day am depressed as hell. am scared if my feelings don't come back. But also at the same time my anxiety and depression is killing me. I lost interest in everything. I stopped eating. I loved him like crazy even the day before yesterday.I really don't want to loose him, I know I love him but I can't feel my emotions. Am soo scared that if I'll end up hurting him. Please someone help me. I don't want to break up with him. please someone suggest me what should I do to overcome this sudden depression and anxiety.