Depression, can't go on much longer
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20 years old, struggling with depression for my whole childhood starting off from being bullied and has just totally ruined my life for 6 years. Depression runs in my family which you think would be good but it isn't when they are all in denial.
I now suffer from extreme anxiety, social phobias, severe depression and the list goes on..
I'm posting here as I'm past the point of trying and wanting to even deal with this anymore, nothing has helped me, I have a dysfunctional family which cause me more hurt every day and no friends or anybody who even begins to understand how I feel.
I deal with it by totally shutting off my emotions, to the point of where family members have died and I show absolutely no emotion towards their death and almost don't care? I have no absolutely no motivation towards anything and find myself just laying down all day..
The only thing that is keeping me alive is the fact I want a family of my own that I can do my absolute best for and give them the life I never had.. Without that idea in my head and doing well in college I think I would have totally given up by now and probably have been committed..
I have overwhelming thoughts of suicide everyday which is about the only thing I am able to control, it can ruin my life but I won't let it take it. My mood changes are becoming more extreme to the point of where something as simple as somebody looking at me in a smug way could put me into depression for weeks.
You know what's worse? I have travelled all the way to Australia in the hope I could snap my self out of this but now find myself stuck half way across the world more alone and depressed than I have ever felt in my entire life, I have a visa to stay here for a year and I've barely lasted a week.. I had to force myself to be able to fly out here and it has made my fear of talking even worse even though I thought it would help..
I just need any advice or hope of how I can deal with this, I lived with the idea that time is a healer but it is most certainly not in my case, sorry for the long post but thanks for reading if you made it this far but I needed to get it off my chest..
I plan on therapy when I get back but having another month of being alone and being as low as I feel is going to make things worse..
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louisthin jake12070
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jake12070 louisthin
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You know the hardest part of this? Wanting to change but not being able to because of how much Crap I have been through.
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jason31256 jake12070
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The problem with me is that it's still ongoing for me, i still have to live with my family who have caused me so much upset and rejection, I just can't forgive them for what they used to do to me and how little they made me feel.
louisthin jake12070
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My best time in Australia.. to throw in a story... Was when I had almost no money, I had a job there, and I was so hungry, I had to buy a tin of tomatoes for my lunch, couldn't afford a can opener, so had to be pull top, then steal a plastic fork from the Chinese shop to eat it. Then my boyfriend threw me out of the house in the middle of the night. But within a day, my friends who I had known only a week gave me a room in their house, patched me up etc. it's quite liberating to know that 1. strangers can be very kind and 2. you can deal with adversity rather more than you originally suspected! I didn't take any money from them obviously, just grateful of a place to stay, and they picked me up from work, took me to spend Christmas with their family. Friends for life those guys. One of my best everChristmases
louisthin jake12070
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jake12070 louisthin
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I can be fine one minute and then completely change over simple things and be utterly depressed with suicidal thoughts. It's not easy for me.
And that sounds awesome it's those types of moments that you will never forget
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I just mean one minute I can be fine... Well coping anyway and the next I can go back into depression.. This could be during a conversation or being with a friend and I just shut down again..
The majority of people don't deal or understand depression so I get worried people will judge me for it, plus most people just want a simple friendship and not a guy who gets really down
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I told my friend about my recent depression and he didnt know what to say you see im the guy people open up to about there problems and I try give good advice but when I needed advice all he did was get me a drink he didnt know what else to do people have always come to me for help and guidance been told id make a good counsellor so I guess being a chef might have been a wrong choice lol
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And how I speak on here is the real me and how I would be if I had any sort of confidence but sadly I don't and you probably wouldn't get a good impression if you met me. I'd be quiet until I felt comfortable being around you which can take a while
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And I'm hard on myself because I know how cruel people can be, I used to be made so little and to the point of despising everything about me and being told I'm useless.. You'd think after 5 years I would get over that but I still feel just as affected by their words after all this time.
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louisthin jake12070
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Parents and family members are all flawed too.
jake12070 louisthin
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My mums depression is worse than mine and she left me and my step dad on Christmas and didn't talk to me for a whole year, she's deeply in denial about everything and doesn't accept I suffer from depression and offers no help.
Apart from my step dad everyone else suffers from depression in my family and they all hate each other. My aunty has just been admitted with heart failure, I don't really know her but it's just caused more drama.
I know you can't choose you family but I dream of the day I can start my own and forget about mine
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The chance to love someone like I never was and the chance to raise a kid and give them the life i never had...
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I won't be rushing into anything and it certainly won't be until I am feeling better about myself, I don't think I could take being depressed and having my heart crushed at the same time.
At least you have your kid, someone you will love unconditionally until the day you die
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Thanks all of you for your help, means more than you think take care