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diane52221
diane52221

hi I am new to this site and feel I need to talk to other ladies who may have had similar experiences. I am 5 weeks post anterior and posterior prolapse  I still have slight discharge which makes me itchy and sore though I wonder if this is part of the healing process. I need to keep taking painkillers   I take two Senna at night and the next day (early evening) I know I need to open my bowels but it can hurt abit but sometimes I can be waiting an hour and a quarter for my bowels to be open I dearnt strain as scared of my stitches so have to wait  I find its what it all does to you mentally as well as the physical side. I am off work and miss driving and walking my dog, going to the gym and in the house a lot but can't clean up    My hubby works kids grown up and gave their life's   I just wondered if anyone else felt the same or having similar problems with any advice as you can feel isolated 

 

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  • KJ1234
    KJ1234 diane52221

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    I'm 2 weeks post op.  Thought I'd turned a corner yesterday as didn't need any pain killers - leg and buttock pain has totally gone.  Ive had a bladder infection and I've been on strong antibiotics for over a week now, but it still doesn't feel right and I'm not weeing normally and there is still a sharp pain every now and then.  I can really feel my stitches today!

    This recovery is just as hard mentally as it is physically.  I'm 37 years old, divorced with 2 children.  I spend all day at home by myself with nothing to do and I am sick of TV. Then when the kids come home I don't have any patience with them.  Its an incredibly lonely place and today I'm feeling very sad.  I'm putting on weight, my skin and hair looks terrible, even if I put makeup on I still look terrible and I'm totally out of the loop at work which I feel may have a detrimental affect on my career.  BUT depsite all of this, I know this is short term and things will be better in the long run.  Just hanging on to that thought!

    • diane52221
      diane52221 KJ1234

      Posted

      Hi KJ

      i like some tv but can't watch it all day either I have took up knitting and cross stitch again which I did when my twins were young so it occupies my mind but I am resting and have an end result I hear jigsaws are god too if anything like that interests you xx

  • tamara05459
    tamara05459 diane52221

    Posted

    I am in the same boat. It is hard when you don't have any obvious sign of injury. It is way harder than I thought it would be.I am 13 days post up and was sure I would be so much farther along.  I have been trying to go for a short walk (down my very sort street and back, about 5 houses) but today it is miserable out. I am terrified to fall.  I live in Canada so the weather can be depressing. it has been so great hearing that others feel just as frustrated. Before I found this site I thought I was just feelong sorry for myself and should be sucking it up. You all sound like tough positive people. This makes me feel so much better. It is so good to hear that I am not alone.
    • tilley49386
      tilley49386 tamara05459

      Posted

      Hi Tamara, the more of us that share these feelings the less fellow patients will feel like they have to suffer and suck it up as you so skilfully put it.You must have had your op around sma etime as me as I am 13 days post op today. I live in Australia and the whole prolapse subject is very taboo here, very little info available and like you finding this site has been such a blessing. I would recommend it to anyone, It is great to be able to have a liile moan, seek advise, tell your story , other fellow forum ladies advise. You can ask almost anything without being nervous, feeling stupid for asking or embarassed. It is like a great big support family. I agree it does make you feel so much better and that you are not alone. Sometimes it takes our dear Matron a while to answer as she is often snowed under with questions but if she misses your post just post again. She is marvellous. It is great isn't it knowing we are not the only ones going through this and more importantly that there are others who have come through it and are happy they had it done. Their quality of life is so much better now. Keep smiling
  • helen73p
    helen73p diane52221

    Posted

    Hi I got my cystocele repair 7 days ago have been doing fine , had to go to docs today as I now have an infection that is really smelly so got 2 lots if antibiotics to take I'm also getting sore but it's definetly from wearing a pad due to slight bleeding, can't wait till I'm healed so I can lift my baby again x
  • Resting123
    Resting123 diane52221

    Posted

    Hi ladies,

    I had a&p repair at the end of November. You all sound exactly like I was at that stage! I was so hard on myself, miserable, felt incredibly lazy and absolutely hated relying on other people (I'm 37 with 10 and 2 year old boys). By 5 weeks I think my husband was sick of me moaning too!! He's a self employed tradesman so he could only really take just over a week off work.

    I thought the end was never coming but honestly, it does get better. I spent weeks working myself into a panic that it had failed or if I had a twinge thought that I'd pulled something. The stitches are tight around 3-4 weeks and itchy but I found sudocreme worked well.

    I was taking senakot every night until maybe week 8.

    Around 5 weeks, it really felt tight and painful (I think I had a 'moaning post' on here about it, but that's normal.

    Just hang in there. I agree, it really does knock you for six, I was no way prepared for the recovery but I'm proof that it does get better.

    I'm by no means an expert and everyone is different but just thought I'd share with you all.

    Take care xx

    • tilley49386
      tilley49386 Resting123

      Posted

      Thanks for sharing, like you say it is great knowing you are not the only one feeling like this. You moan at home but they don't know what you are going through. makes you feel you are normal , everything is as expected , it will get better and somehow that all help you to cope. Only 2 weeks but struggling, like you my hubby slef employed too and he is doing my work work as I work for him too. I too was not prepared for the recovery , I had done research but just the length of it and how draining it is doing just nothing, really gets to me. Know there should be a light at the end of the tunnel so will keep hanging in there. You take good care and thanks again for sharing. 
  • Bunky
    Bunky diane52221

    Posted

    It's a long recovery but it does get easier each week that goes by. I think I started to feel more myself between 6-8 weeks. As we always say on here you take such a battering down there during this surgery that it takes a lot of patience from us !! I started driving at 6 weeks and that did help me feel less isolated and stuck in so for now - catch up on all those films and books and enjoy an excuse to do abosolutely nothing ! And remember you are never alone on this forum with any thought, feeling or symptom lol xx
  • diane52221
    diane52221

    Posted

    Hi everyone thank you for your advice and answers I feel a lot better now for knowing I am not alone.    I did try lanacane cream for my sore skin down there externally only of course 
  • diane52221
    diane52221

    Posted

    Hi ladies

    i tell you one thing that has helped me is a sitz bath I use it every morning and it saves running a bath every day and you can still soak 'the bits' that matter whilst you feel sore and itchy.  Just plain warm water don't fill it up too much as it can spill over and wet the floor, I put a towel down. It cost me less than £10 on Amazon 

    • Rosiepix
      Rosiepix diane52221

      Posted

      Hi Diane X I was told just to shower because of risk of infection. I'm only 8 days on so maybe will be different in a while x
    • tilley49386
      tilley49386 diane52221

      Posted

      Hi , how many days post op are you? how long have you been using bath and how many days post op did you start. That's the one that sits inside the tiolet right? did read about these and wonder? Did ask Matron why no bath? didn't get a reply. If because of infection , why is that any different than taking a long shower? 
    • Rosiepix
      Rosiepix tilley49386

      Posted

      Hi Tilley

      I guess it's because your not sitting in the water when you're having a shower. I called the hospital and was told no baths for 2 weeks x

    • diane52221
      diane52221 tilley49386

      Posted

      Hi Tilly and Rosiepix

      i was just showering at first say 10 days then got an infection anyway who knows why, a nurse told me I could aim the shower head where needed anyway I purchased the sitz bath after the infection my consultant was ok with it.  Where do u live I am in Nottingham England this forum seems to cover the world as one lady said she lived in Canada I was going to suggest to my consultants secetary some sort of chat or get together as you can feel isolated and I think your confidence can dip due to not working and getting out 

    • diane52221
      diane52221

      Posted

      Yes the sitz bath sits on the toilet Rosie x
    • tilley49386
      tilley49386 diane52221

      Posted

      I am in australia, , most famiily in Uk so do feel isolated at times. mentioned this site to hospital where i had awful experience and they were appauled I had turn to the internet!!  Made me feel like I had turned to the dark side LOL. They said it was full of horror stories and wrong non medically based advice. My reply well better than hospital which was no advice or help at all. They are now looking into putting together a booklet for these types of ops with both pre & post op advice and etc. Made me feel good to hear that my moaning ( I gave them such a serve - thy desrved it) has resulted in some good for others. I think your confidence dips because we are so used to be wonder women and doing everything. All of a sudden everyone manags without you and you have to sit around and do nothing.. made me feel uselss so catching up on this forum really helps
    • tilley49386
      tilley49386 Rosiepix

      Posted

      Thanks for that I am not a bath kind of girl anyway.Just curious about the sitz baths specailly with salt.
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