Have herpes, unprotected sex

reading you comment made me feel a little better. I have been dealing with this for 5 years.I got it from my son dad, or at least I think I did. I wanted to know are you still with your husband and did he ever get it? I recently had unprotected sex with my partner and now I'm afrid I at gave it to him.even though I don't have many outbreaks

I just recently started a new relationship with a guy i have been friends with for years. He found out about a year ago that he has herpes. We are generally very cautious when being intimate. However we had sex the other night without any protection. He was not having an outbreak or any symtoms. He constantly assures me that he will not give it to me but i am very nervous. How high of a risk is it that i could have caught it that one time without him having any symtoms? My doctor says the testing for herpes is not very accurate in distinguishing between HSV-1 and HSV-2. But i would rather get some kind of clarification instead of just waiting to find out. Or maybe im just over thinking the whole situation. I am very confused.

I had the misfortune of falling prey to an ignoramous' sexual assult (To this day, I still can't bring myself to say the "R" word, or call myself a victim or survivor.) At 17, I was diagnosed and felt alone and disgusted with myself and him. I suffered in silence for 2 years because I knew after watching Law and Order have "R" sufferers are mistreated, objectified and targeted as "at fault victims", therefore, I didnt report it to authorities or family, nor did I educate myself or seek treatment, post-trauma because I was in so much denial. Anyways, fast forward into the future, I had a best friend that was a guy and we ended up falling in love. He knew everything. I told him and he was okay with it. Sadly, he contracted it after 2 years (I honestly think it was due to the fact I was on birth control and it was till "fresh") but never resented me for it, the love was still there. We stayed together for another 3, then split. Post boyfriend breakup, I decided to do a few things different. I switched up my eating habits, stopped birth control (hormones), and started juicing, taking supplements and the whole healthy gamut. Now 11 years later I have practiced safe and had unprotected sex. Never took any Rx meds. To my kowledge, I have not passed it on to anyone. In my opinion, I think the media pushes an agenda. Im at the point where....I've had it for 11 years, and am practically asymptomiatic. I fall into the fear trap of "shedding" sometimes but think thats just a ploy for profilactic companies to push their agendas for sales (I could be wrong though). If there's no symtoms present, I think you're fine. It's said that its harder for women to pass to men as opposed to the opposite. I  prefer to use condoms mainly for the "what if" factor but I know my body. If ever I get a feeling something may not be right, I don't engage in any activity at all. I've only had the disclosure talk once and he didnt reject me either and think it's silly to put yourself out there in such a vulnerable manner if youre not planning on getting seriously involved with your partner. They say you can still contract it with protection but the likelihood of it it super slim. Also, I'm convinced the longer you have this ailment, the less severe it is....why is that? Honelty, I think that with time, the anibodies decrease. Ive never taken supressive therapy. I think taking natural antivirals and preventative care measurements, and food choices made all the difference. Also, lessesing meat consumtion or anything with hormones, I try to avoid or keep to a minimum. Sometimes I still feel like a penny with a whole in it because of the circumstances and the cards I've been dealth were beyond unfair. I was overpowered and objectified. Anyway....hopefully you can find some peace and resolve in my two cents.

Thank you everyone for sharing your experiences! This has been a great uplift to me. I got hsv2 when I was 22 (never knew from who) and am 28 now. As far as I know I have never given it to anyone. I just got out of a 2.5 year relationship where she had hsv1 and I hsv2, neither of us took any antivirals other than good health, and we never used condoms after the first month or so. We both got tested after we split and still, no change. Her just 1, me just 2. I can't vouch for the viral shedding notion, in my experience, we just played it safe, any tingly, anything, we quaranteen the area until it's gone. This system has worked so far.

I have to admit, I am worried about something with a new partner of mine, we got together and that night everything seemed fine, but the next day, I started feeling the come on of something and it is an OB. I'm scared I wasn't careful enough. We had the talk before hand, play by the rules right?.. but, still, I am worried. I've never had to go through giving it to someone....I pray for luck to be on our side.

I think i have had herpes 20 years without knowing. I have never had a visible outbreak although i have had some discomfort that may have been internal lesions, i thought it was a vaginal infection. Durring the 20 years i had several partners unprotected. To my knowledge i have not transmitted to anyone.

Female to male is transmitted less

I have read 4% chance if unprotected

2% chance with daily suppressive antiviral

And 1% if you add condoms

Sorry i cant cite my source, if you really want to be certain you could do a google search for the research, im just going from memomry

Rates are a bit higher for male to female transmission