Help!!...is Mirtazapine ruining my marrage?

Same situation here. I find it difficult to believe the %s listed with sideaffects. The changes were almost instant and profound. Extremely snappy, defensive even towards general day to day kind of "just cos I'm interested" questions. Aggressive, lost ability to focus. Completely ignores me a lot of the time. Definitely little resemblance to the person I knew before. How can such a drug be available without advice or counselling ? I'm not a nurse and I don't really feel qualified to try to address the changes and potential impact that this complacency could be having on my partner

P.S. This was the only page I found which addressed this situation

Yes, mirtazapine can definitely be causing her behaviour. I know, because it caused very unusual behaviour in me.  I had to stop the drug suddenly, because I was becoming very violent and was preoccupied with murdering certain people.  I've been off of it for three weeks now and had to take it twice due to nausea and vomiting.  The two times I've taken it (half a dose) I can feel altered, like I'm changing into that monster I became on mirtazapine.

   Im a passive person who had no hatred toward anyone before taking mirtazapine.  As time went on my behaviour became more bizarre and violent.  Changes in my personality were profound.  I began smoking, taking drugs, swearing like a longshoreman and didn't care what effect my actions did to others.  Toward the end I felt my former self in my mind, observing myself doing strange, bizzare things, all the time asking "where did I go?  Will I ever be back?"  The sad thing is, I knew for a good year that mirtazapine had changed me, but still took it two to three times a week for insomnia.  I was unable to judge how poor my behaviour had become, but my family stepped in and begged me to get off of it.  In less than a week I became myself again and the difference was profound.  I am older and female, so I guess this reaction was very untypical.

   There were many changes in me that were not part of my personality.  For instance, sarcasm.  I don't know how I got so good at it.  There were times when I became delusional and times I did unusual, even criminal acts.  I had no fear of getting caught.  No fear in a lot of things, yet other times I would be incapacitated by fear.  I have so many regrets about how I treated people and I cry a lot.  Something I never did while on mirtazapine.  I'm really been depressed, but never want to use another antidepressant.

   Maybe someone else could ask your wife to taper off the mirtazapine if she is not open to you.  It really seems like the drug is at fault, since I experienced such a change it is very real to me.  When I came back, I was totally myself again.  Just kind of a beat up version, though. 

I've only just started mirtazapine as I couldn't get on with citalopram or sertraline. I've had the best 2 nights sleep I've had in months although I had really bad dreams last night. My appetite has returned after 9 months of acid and reflux I suddenly feel better.

Reading these post though. Makes me wonder if I should quit before my body gets used to it or continue until I feel well enough to be weaned off it.

I'm scared now.

Hi michael. Just wondering if you are still active on this forum...the description you have of your life is virtually identical to mine. Please get back to me. Pete.

Sounds difficult !

The effects of the drug to enduce these kinds of behaviour, but you can't say that it certainly is the cause. The doctor should certainly be able to suggest something which could aid re-adjustment (I imagine.. as they're always so helpful !), but also could perscribe something else which doesn't produce the same harmful symptoms.

Hi M1cha3l, 

I know this is an old post, just wondering what the outcome was? Did your relationship survive?

Michael, what was the outcome?

I take mirtazapine and I have changed so much for the worse

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I can relate to this. I am on mirtz, 30 mg plus 20 mg of citalopram for a bit over 8 weeks. Yesterday my wife and I had a big spat and I realized I had become emosionless and a bit zombie like. Very irritable. If one is not aware of these side effects it can wreck havoc on personal relationships. I dropped down to 15mg on my mirtz last night. A bit more general anxiety today but I feel a bit more clear. This drug very powerful.

my partner has started taking this ten weeks ago abd is ending our relationship. its alwats been a rollercoaster relationship but has meds caused it to end

Hi All

I don't know if anyone is still active in this discussion. But it's Christmas day and I find myself googling 'mirt , side effects, spouse'.

my husband takes our for insomnia as he had tried everything else. He had a break for about 3 years and it was the best years of a 17 year marriage. Now he is back to being shut down, rude, never asks me a question, never touches me or shows any interest in any way.... Enough to make me depressed 😃

I have no idea if he is aware or not. it's breaking my children's hearts as they think he is just being rude and mean....

eurgh, I'm sorry this isn't a post with all the solutions ...

hope you are all safe,

Annemette

Mirtazapine has changed my marriage too.. First when I was on it.. had no sex drive and were not paying attention to my wife and child. I was not working at all. Was prescribed for kinda depression and anxiety. I was debilitating on it. So decided to wean off it. Now when I am 8 weeks withdrawal of it it affected even more everyone around me and my self. Dizziness and anxiety kicked back and I became very very depressed, de-personalized and appatic to everyone.. Just make sure she tapers when she goes off it, otherwise it will be hell for her and for your family.. Believe me I would not wish to anyone things that I went through. Good luck