how to get over sucidal thoughts

Its funny as there have been times when I have wanted to be taken away ,so all the responsibility of life would be taken out of my hands and I would be looked after and cared for Believe me ,its not that east to get locked up as you put it ,so dont worry about that.I dont think people will make fun of you because people are more aware nowadays.Carebear has some good advice regarding the self harm

nope ive got noone and I cant rven talk to me boyfriend about it as I feel he would just laugh

I know its helped but I fel self harming takes aeay the pain and forget about things but then its back to normal afterwards

Talking face to face is difficult but when you build up a relationship with your Dr that will get easier.My GP knows how I am feeling even if I dont reveal how bad things are.He knows when I am self harming even if I deny it.That trust will build with time.But as I said earlier write your feelings down and let him read them,then that will break the ice and your Dr can then take control of the conversation.When you make an appointment see if you can book a double appointment.

does that help thougj

Most definately and what have you got to lose

It helps Hun like Teresa said, take notes with you explains you find it difficult to talk. Then your gp will ask you questions based on what s/he needs to know to help you.

Try the techniques I've explained to you Hun when you feel the urge to self harm. You don't want to end up with bad scarring as people you know that you don't want them knowing will start asking you questions about how you've done it. Self harming is personal. I think it is to me but only the professionals know. They know because they can tell when we are unwell. And when they ask us that very question, they know when we are telling the truth because we are unwell but they are their to listen to us.

Make that appointment. Let us know how you get on.

I will try and reply to you tomorrow as soon as I can as I'm going to therapy at hospital as part as my treatment.

Stay safe. Xx

Before you do anything else give the Samaritans a call. Really that is the next step for you and then afterwards you can come back to us and we''ll be able to help.

thanks gor all the help iys helped alot a just feel alone all the time

Lauren could you catch me? I thought i was the only one who stockpiled.

Hi Lauren, Is it death or is it `please take my pain away'? I've been there so many times. I don't self harm so I can only go with you on death. It's an option, I guess, but I also guess you have a lot more strength than you think. You are, after all calling for help. You see a fat ugly thing but I see a slender young woman in a LOT of pain. You haven't mentioned your family, do you keep in touch, could you approach them? I'm guessing not but but that's OK. At 21 you're very young to be adrift in, at least to you, a rather hostile world. Right now the light at the end of the tunnel looks like the train's coming but is it? If you don't stick around you'll never know if itmight, just might, be the window to a new world. I don't know what's happened to you to get you to this place. I'm guessing it's bad, but hey, you're still here, so we know you're that much tough. I don't live in the UK so I don't know what's on the ground to help you, but others may be able to give you names and addresses. You are able to use the web so you can look around for yourself. as well. I realise that might be a bit hard as you're seeing everything as bad, bad, bad. Since you're able to write down your feelings and that's OK, another possibility is to sit down and write letters to all the people who have given you grief. These letters are not to be sent so you can be as nasty as you like, you can demand explanations, threaten them and basically punish them for what they did to you. (I'm guessing a bit here but I think that somewhere in your life you've been through a rough time). Doing this can enable you to get your rage out with dying. Yes, I think you're very angry and rage is a major element of suicide. Its also a major source of strength of character. With that you can go past the bad stuff and have your own life, no more a victim. But see if you can find a counsellor, they should have other techniques to help you, too. And if your fella tells you you're fat tell him to make an appointment with the optometrist, he needs glasses.

Good luck Lauren - All your options are still there, but I've met lots of people with huge problems who've made it, I believe you could be one of them.

You are never alone, Lauren. Everywhere you go you make contact with other people. Just try a little chat if only a few words. Most people will respond when you smile and afterwards you'll feel inspired to keep trying. When going for a coffee look for a table with one person sitting there and ask if you can join them. They may not want to talk but just try again next time. It can be easier than you think.

Just a couple of things. Take long walks, Spring is coming. AND buy some yellow flowers every day, or even just one. It's amazing how one yellow flower can light the darkness in your mind.

i dont know how to tell my fmily a they would worry and i dont want tthem to be worred so i like to keep it all bottled in side or self harm i feel easier then talking to family or gps

at the minute am paranoid and scared to socialise with other people as i feel like the world is judgeung me and wuld laugh at me plus im scared of my own shadow