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I can't take it anymore!! Perimenopause horrible..HELP!

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jennifer85396
jennifer85396

I am 48 years old, stay at home mom with two children.  They are in school, I try to keep myself very busy.  I have had OCD and anxiety, I have been fighting it for years. But, now the Perimenopause is really terrible..depressed, mood swings, tension headaches, dry and itchy skin.

I have spoken to my sisters who are all past Menopause, they tell me their stories but I just cannot believe that hormones can cause all this havock.  I do not feel myself at all, my PMS is worse and the week of my period I actually feel like I have a disease and I am dying.  Feel like I am going crazy!! Please tell me if this is normal to feel this way at this time, because I am obsessing and cannot get my mind off of it.  Need Help!!!!

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  • jane63977
    jane63977 jennifer85396

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    I have been on this forum for a few months now but for a different problem in regards of starting citalopram , an anti depressant and its side effects . Now I wonder if some of my problems stem from being peri menopausal . Basically I started stomach issues last year sometimes constipated other times upset , churning stomach , nausea , loss of appetite , increased migraines that go on for days , mood swings , sometimes 3 weeks between periods then more or less on time causing me to get anaemic . The list goes on . At the time it was all put down the loss of my mum last summer , but now I am wondering if a lot could stem from peri as well . I also get this inner heat that travels up my body and then goes as quick as it comes . This doesn't happen too often yet . I also get a low abdominal pain . I recently had an internal scan to see if I had fibroids but that was clear some cysts but normal and healthy ovaries . Sometimes I feel like I'm losing it and dont want to keep feeling poorly . I forgot tightness in chest and feeling that I can't breath and heart flutters all checked put down to anxiety . I sound like a right case . Any thoughts ?
    • debbie75601
      debbie75601 jane63977

      Posted

      How are you feeling now Jane? Any better? I have your same symptoms and wonder what the he** is going on! Let me know your status?
    • jane63977
      jane63977 debbie75601

      Posted

      Not doing too bad thank you . Just getting over a bad period that came a week early . Still getting this full feeling , nauseous stomach sometimes and coming over extremely hot , but this only lasts an instant . What the hell is this all about ? Is this normal ? Still feeling anxious on and off but I am trying to sort out my mums estate at the moment as I am an executor , so I don't think that this is helping my stress and anxiety levels . I guess that a lot of my problems now are to do with the peri menopause , at least I hope that is all it is . Are these all normal symptoms ? I get a lot of gurgling in my stomach as well and often a dull ache low down and a clear discharge . Can anyone shed light on this please ?
    • jane63977
      jane63977 debbie75601

      Posted

      I forgot to say that I also get pains in my sides mainly the left , but sometimes both and my right wrist . My memory is getting worse as well . I'm a right crock ! I'm only 48 , but sometimes feel 80 ! I was so fit and healthy this time last year , but a lot has happened the worst being losing my mum at the end of June . I must say that this had been the worst year of my life .
    • debbie75601
      debbie75601 jane63977

      Posted

      Normal for menopause I guess. But nothing about it has been normal for me! Whether it is meno or not, it has completely wiped me out!
    • jenni70
      jenni70 jane63977

      Posted

      Hi Jane, I get pains and ache on my left side. Started under my ribs but transferred to my flank and sometimes my back. I've had a CT for it and they found nothing of concern (!). One ultrasound tech (the test before they did the CT on me), mentioned that where the transverse colon meets the descending colon, there is a sharp "corner" (splenic flexure). This is where gas can build up and if you're constipated, things can be a little difficult in that region. I can only assume that this is my issue. I can sometimes feel a pocket or *pop* when I push in that area just below my left ribs (like the centre of a popped up jar lid). This ache is fairly constant for me now, though maybe exacerbated by stress (which can affect bowels anyway). 

      Sorry to hear about your mum. It's got to be one of the hardest times in your life. My wish is that your life takes a calm and gentle turn soon. You'll need it to get through the emotions and also the physical toll from stress and this madness called perimenopause. Best wishes.

    • jennifer85396
      jennifer85396 jane63977

      Posted

      Hi Jane, My Gosh I feel like I'm reading about myself... I understand ecerything you are saying. Everyday is a new problem, palpitations, anxiety attacks, hot spells, constipation, heartburn, nausea, dizziness, I feel like I have a disease. My sister's period stopped at 50, I am 49. U are not alone as u can see. It's just really hard to get motivated to do anything , do u feel this way also?
  • jane63977
    jane63977 jennifer85396

    Posted

    I forgot to say that that I am 48 and will be 49 in August so I guess I am the right age for all this . When I was young I always had problems with very heavy periods , fainting spells , anaemia until I went on the pill . I also recently have bad problems with spots , painful almost acne type . What is happening to me ? I'm a mess . All this adds to my anxiety
    • jane63977
      jane63977 jennifer85396

      Posted

      My birthdays on the 17th . Sometimes I find it hard to get motivated , but then other times it takes my mind off things if I keep busy . I'm just fed up with all these days of feeling under the weather . I can cope with most things , but I do hate the strange stomach feelings , but I guess from reading on this forum that is just par for the course .
  • janice09397
    janice09397 jennifer85396

    Posted

    hi ladys please can someone help me i am at my wits end , i am going through the meno i have pain in my hips lower back feel sick well you name it and i feel it , i dont no what to do i keep going back and forth to my doctors , and i think i must be getting on there nerves but i am so scared of these horrid feelings , i carnt sleep , and now i have even started talking to myself sounds silly i no but thats how i seem to get my head round things please please i just need some support and no that i am not on my own thanku so much x
    • Guest
      Guest janice09397

      Posted

      You aren't in your own janice....I am in my 'bad week' again and I feel so crappy. I woke up yesterday after a normal few days (my new normal lol)...and felt hot sweats, anxious, tired, headache, indigestion, constipation and aching back and chest and arm muscles. Its unbelievable you can feel ok one day and then ill the next! With nothing showing at the docs. I have tracked my cycle for 6 months now so I can prepare myself and mentally tell myself its only the hormones...push through it. But its hard to do it when you just want to curl up in a ball and stay home. There are hundreds of thousands of us going through this so we have to support each other...through forums like this...because theres not much support in the medical field!
    • Guest
      Guest didi0613

      Posted

      Lol didi....seriously..if men experienced this there would have been a cure already! And mens support groups like 'men in meno' or 'the male peri group'. We just get 'oh i have never heard of that symptom in peri'...from educated doctors!!! I just walk out sometimes thinking they are just educated idiots smile
    • kim34388
      kim34388 janice09397

      Posted

      I just joined. I was sitting here go ogling why I feel so horrible. I just think I am going crazy. I am going through a divorce. Started a new job but have called in sick twice in a month. I get up in the mornings feeling like the world is coming to a end. My mind goes off on these crazy thoughts that I know aren't true and I am not sleeping well and yes my body does hurt more. I cry at everything. I feel paralyzed. I know I have to try and be strong but all I can say is I feel scared all the time. I can loose my job. I have no medical yet and I was also on depression meds but ran out so I'm sure that's part of it. I just lay in bed and stare at the ceiling and cry. I am scared of loosing everything.

      @

    • debbie75601
      debbie75601 kim34388

      Posted

      You are not alone Kim, we are all suffering. What are your symptoms? 
    • Guest
      Guest kim34388

      Posted

      Hi Kim....you are going through some pretty major stress at the moment. I think if you can get back on the antidepressants as soon as you can. I think if you stop them too quickly it can make you crash a bit which is probably why you feel do bad. What age are you? If you have hormonal issues going on that will make it worse. Try and keep positive....which is hard I know.....we are all just hanging on some days x
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