I can't take it anymore!! Perimenopause horrible..HELP!

Carole, I sympathise with you. It seems quite common that these feelings coincide with a major trauma or upheaval. Mine was a back injury which has forced me to have to give up excercise, and that was a huge part of my life. You don't say how old you are. I'm 48 and am peri menopausal. It's not a good place to be, but there are so many of us going through this. We need to be talking about it more, making other ladies aware. You'll find a lot of support from the girlies on this site. You're not alone. All the best to you x

Thanks Louise. Honestly feel like I'm falling apart. Thanks for the welcome. I'm just crawling through each day at the moment. X

That's ok. You wont be crawling forever. x

Welcome Carole....you are not alone. There is massive support here. We are all going through the wringer and believe it or not you are stronger than you think. I too am looking at hrt after i have a mammogram check. I am only 48 nearly 49....and the last year I have really struggled. Its one thing after another. Depression and anxiety are the worst thing....when you are feeling low or anxious come on here...there is always someone to talk to who is going through similar things and it really helps you to know you aren't alone. It makes me sad and angry there are so many of us around the globe (I am in Australia) crying out for help and desperate for advice. Take care x

Hi Janine. It's the emotional side of things and the anxiety that are hardest to bear. I wasnt too bad till I got made redundant and then the roof fell in. Had had other symptoms before that but thwy were manageable. Think it's just bad timing. I literally feel like i am changing and somehow for the first time, i have looked and I'm 51 and the children are no longer under 10!!!!!! I think reality has caught up with me and I'm literally mourning for the time that's gone!! Don't know if that makes any sense. Plus I raised them as a single parent and all of a sudden it's all too much. I cant explain it. It just feels like the enormity of the last few years has hit me. Soooooo tired and emotional and hot and weepy and cant sleep and feeling so sad.......

Hi Carole this is Jennifer, I read about how your emotional state is, and I have been very emotional and hypersensative. Crying over everything. At times I feel sad and depressed, and that makes me feel guilty because I am blessed in my life. I don't know how to feel better.. any advice?

Hi Jennifer

Do you jump out of your skin for the slightest thing ? Also when I try to drop off it's a feeling like I'm falling and I jolt up xx

Had all the same anxiety issues to the point where I jacked in two jobs in the space of 4 months. The feeling of sadness and doom was overwhelming. Just normal day to day responsibilities were overwhelming. Never felt so scared in my life thought I was going mad

Been on hrt now for 6 months. Don't like taking it but it stopped the alfulness straight away. I am back at work and although not perfect beginning to live again

You will get thought it just takes time

Hi Carole...its definitely being magnified by hormones....and I agree the anxiety/depression is hell. I know what you mean...I look in the mirror and think..i am 50 next year...where did the time go. I know i should be planning the next stage of my life but it takes all my energy working part time and still have three boy at home (14 16 and 20)

I do know the anxiety creates a lot of physical symptoms too so hoping if I can get a handle on that the other stuff may fade a bit. Keep your chin up and just take it day by day..take care x

Yes, that happens all the time. And parts of my body will twitch while I'm falling asleep. My body does what it wants.

Thanks Janine. It's the toughest thing I've gone through. For me, its emotionally and physically painful. I know what you mean about being overwhelmed by daily tasks. I used to power through stuff. The other day I was sobbing in my best friends arms because I had run out of dog waste bags!! But to me it was the end of the world. At some point I've turned into an emotional wreck....

At least we aren't alone.....we are all emotional and physical wrecks on here....but we are strong women and we will get through this.

Its funny how I can cope with big things most of the time but I go to pieces over something minor.

Hormones!!!

This post was 6 years ago but I stumbled upon this forum/discussion because I'm 46 and having an absolutely horrible perimenopause experience, but this is the first comment on this long thread that describes the weird "nostalgic feeling" I have been experiencing! It's like I woke up from a coma and am in my mid 40's instead of my late 30's all of the sudden! My kids are older, I'm older and really starting to see the signs of ageing on my body/face, I feel slower, more fatigued, more drained and I too remember things from about 5-6 years ago like they were very recent instead! There is a huge chunk of time just "missing" from my brain as far as being able to recall it vividly/recently. I have 5 children (ages 21 down to 12) but I think of them to be mid high school down to elementary school sometimes still. I'll pull out clothes I feel like I was recently wearing a lot and they don't fit or have dust on the shoulders from hanging in the closet untouched for years. I'm not delusional, I do know I lived the last 5-6 years doing life, taking care of things, rinse and repeat daily! Maybe I was just on such "autopilot" that it didn't get stored in my memory the same? I had a hysterectomy 2.5y ago (left the ovaries to avoid getting thrown into early full on menopause,) due to irregular and extremely heavy periods. They were solved with hysto but the crazy moods weren't taken care of by that and have gotten worse. I'm seeing a psychiatrist and on antidepressants that seem to help some but I have uncontrollable waves of sheer rage just wash over me sometimes. I almost divorced my husband, started self medicating with wine which opened a whole different can of worms, etc. I also spend too much time lying around not being productive, handling things and feeling drained/depressed/overwhelmed.

So glad to have heard validation in this entire thread, but especially the nostalgia feelings bc I've tried to explain it to someone and they look at me like I have 3 heads.

Carole, I am sorry for what you are going through also. Sounds like you have been through a lot.

Hi Jennifer. Going to see hrt specialist on Wednesday... Didnt want to down that route but cant carry on like this. I have no advice I am afraid......I just feel all over the place. Never cried so much, great big waves of it. Feel like i am permanently pre menstrual with tummy pains but no period since January. I just have this need for my own space. Feel like I'm going mad at times.

Did you pay private to see HRT specialist?

Hi Michelle. Yes i am having to pay but cant wait ten weeks on NHS. Redundancy pay will help with that. It's so bad I just can't wait. Have heard really good things about the consultant so I'm hoping it will help. Julie, thank you so much for your post too. I cant believe hormones can skew emotions so much. It gives me encouragement that i can get through this. To top it all, first period in four months started last night..........:-(

I'm thinking of paying. How much is it roughly? I'm in the UK x

Initial consultation is about 160 and 100 for follow up. Im reluctant to go private but needs must.