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I can't take it anymore!! Perimenopause horrible..HELP!

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jennifer85396
jennifer85396

I am 48 years old, stay at home mom with two children.  They are in school, I try to keep myself very busy.  I have had OCD and anxiety, I have been fighting it for years. But, now the Perimenopause is really terrible..depressed, mood swings, tension headaches, dry and itchy skin.

I have spoken to my sisters who are all past Menopause, they tell me their stories but I just cannot believe that hormones can cause all this havock.  I do not feel myself at all, my PMS is worse and the week of my period I actually feel like I have a disease and I am dying.  Feel like I am going crazy!! Please tell me if this is normal to feel this way at this time, because I am obsessing and cannot get my mind off of it.  Need Help!!!!

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  • maerca123
    maerca123 jennifer85396

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    I am so happy to find this group as I feel if I'm losing my mind with all of my symptoms over the past 8 months.  I'm 51 years old, and Gyno tells me I'm no where near menopause based on bloodwork, but my body is going crazy.  I have been to so many doctors, and nobody is finding anything wrong.  I have severe burning inside my body going through my back and abdomen>  upper endoscopy, ct scan of abdomen & pelvis, ultrasound of abdomen, all negative.  Transvaginal ultrasound reveals thickening of uterus gyno suggested D&C.  Im exhausted from stress and my body hurting all of the time.  Has anyone felt this burning internal pain?  I feel like the doctors are missing something big.  All I do is worry, google things, and stress.  Please share with me any advice or similar experiences...I feel so alone because anyone I've asked has never had this burning feeling.  Also gyno telling me I'm no where near menopause is making me think it's something else.
  • TropicalVon69
    TropicalVon69 jennifer85396

    Posted

    Yeah, I have internal burning too, anxiety, depression, head pains, hope this helps, feeling better than I did but not one of my better days, period just finished and head feels a bit mashed....period has been every 3 weks....my what a ride #understatemeny
  • janice09397
    janice09397 jennifer85396

    Posted

    hello jennifer , i got up this morning and felt ok , and then after 2 hours i am a total mess shaking crying a vibrating feeling in my chest , i really do feel for you darl and anyone else that is going through this ,, i just want to scream an say someone help me,, i spend more time at the doctors then i do at home ,, it helps me knowing that there is someone that understands me and the fears that we have to go through ,, thank goodness for this sight 
    • caroline25937
      caroline25937 janice09397

      Posted

      Hello Janice and all you ladies suffering...

      I too am in the same boat. I'm 44 and have been literally housebound since January when I became very unwell. Have been admitted to hospital twice and have a laparoscopy next week.

      I get the burning in my right side and stabbing pains in my pelvis and round my back.  Its horrendous and currently seems to be worse right now as my period started Saturday rolleyes

      I was recently told by the gyne that he feels I'm hitting the change... but the pain I'm experiencing isn't just hitting the change... no way !!

  • Jennymc
    Jennymc jennifer85396

    Posted

    Hi there, stumbled upon this thread searching for answers tonight and your description sounds exactly like how I feel. I'm scared and feeling so not myself! How are you now if I may ask? I hope you have improved.
    • jennifer85396
      jennifer85396 Jennymc

      Posted

      Hi Jennymc, I am due for my period on Monday. I woke up this morning in a state of panic. Racing heartbeat, terrible anxiety and felt like I wanted to cry. Felt shakey and it was if I couldn't control my body or my feelings. I have headache and nausea too. I can feel my harmones going crazy. This is truly a difficult time of life. We will get through it and some day we'll look back and say thank God thats over. Be well
  • fiona69095
    fiona69095 jennifer85396

    Posted

    Thanks for posting this. I thought I was going crazy.

    I've never had anxiety or depression and have always been the robust person that people turn to.

    Suddenly, I started getting woken at night with heart palpitations and I felt like I was going to die. I would have good and bad weeks. Get dizzy and unable to concentrate at work. Insomnia set in. Had all the tests done and nothing wrong. Now I just feel bad all the time, try my hardest every day to keep my body under control.

    The hardest thing is work. I have a job that requires my brain to function and I am now not pulling my weight at work. I feel like I need to quit until this stuff passes. But at 46 I feel that I will never get another job, if I quit.

  • sam14305
    sam14305 jennifer85396

    Posted

     I actually have menapause and have had it for 7 years now, but lately it has been getting worse have found flax seed works great for the hot flashes  it takes them away for me I do 2 tablespoons a day though I read you can do 4.

     My Doc said to experiment with different supplements like Black Kohash , Milk Thistle see what works what does not work also a good probiotic helps with the bloating  though  had to go to prilosec for a few weeks as my stomach got real bad. I found also removing gluten from my diet helped also. Everyone is different so some for one may not work for others.

  • Kate4611
    Kate4611 jennifer85396

    Posted

    I agree.  I sympathise.  Two weeks ago I had the worst PMT and had grinding anxiety, very tired, insomnia which I have had for years and night sweats.  I have not felt this before and am 43.  I have fibroids and a mirena coil which has helped and initially helped with insomnia, mood, night sweats.

    I have been having symptoms for a while but two weeks ago it was terrible.  You wonder what's happening.

    I am having hormone tests in two weeks and daren't try any supplements to get a correct diagnosis.  The doctor thinks it's the perimenopause.  I can't work. 

    Any help gratefully considered.

    Thanks.

     

  • christine43871
    christine43871 jennifer85396

    Posted

    I am 48 and I dont know whats going on with me. I am on 3 monthly depo injections so I dont have my periods. Never had pms anyway but I dont know if im peri-menipausal or just depressed? I seem to be arguing with my husband constantly but I think I am in the right - he,says I have become opinionated and contrary. I think hes just being difficult. I have,a 10 year old daughter who has raging hormones and we are pretty much ok. I am holding down a full time job but I have no energy, no get up and go, foid shopping fills me with dread I am so bored of it after all these years. Sometimes we have nothing in because I cant be bothered. I feel like leaving but I habe nowhere to go. I dont really get on with mt 81-year old mother, I feel I habe no friends and some days I just dont want to go home. I think if I just dont speak then I cant argue with my husband but then I feel I am compromising my very being and personatilty. I am auto-immune suppresed,as I am on humira for psoriasis and pbc (liver condition). I just got over flu and on a different drug I had 'red mist' symptoms which made me flip and feel terrible. I think I habe anxierty as sometimes I am stressed and cannot breathe. I also think I habe ibs. At 18 I was prescribed anti- depressants and I had a breakdown (in my opinion in 2007 and had councillibg (not drugs). I really dont know whats going on with me now? I have night sweats and some days I feel like its nit worth carrying on. I woukdnt leave my daughter though so im not suicidal but I feel theres no point to life. I used to run my own business and my business partner was my best friend. 15 months,ago she took over as we didnt make enough money for the two of us and so I got a job and she carried on. Shes messed it up since and now caut me off so I lost my best friend too. I feel alone and hopeless except for my daughter who I try to hide it all from. Is this my hormones or something else. I need some advise.

    • michelle46271
      michelle46271 christine43871

      Posted

      Oh Christine. I would definitely say it is your hormones. I've been through all the horrible and depressing things and thoughts. I didn't know what was going on with me. My doctor was no help. I put 2 and 2 together after reading things online and this forum. This forum has and is so much help to me. The ladies on here really take the time to read your posts and reply. I hid everything from my 2 children. I think they wondered why I was in bed more and not going out places as much. For a month I felt like being in bed a lot and not wanting to see anyone really. I've got out of that rut now,it took a long time. I am trying to think that I must get on with my life and make the most of it. The anxiety is still there a lot of the time but I have really been trying to calm myself down and deal with it. You will speak to some lovely ladies on here xxx

    • christine43871
      christine43871 michelle46271

      Posted

      Thank you michelle ive been feeling terrible and like im going mad. I might go to see the nurse,at my doctors,as,she is,lovely and very understanding. I need to do something or I feel I will just fall apart. Thank you so much though for your reply I think I have come to the right place
    • michelle46271
      michelle46271 christine43871

      Posted

      Yes talking to someone who doesn't judge you is brilliant. I feel like this is the only place I get answers from. Talk as much as you want on here xx

    • louise44105
      louise44105 christine43871

      Posted

      Crikey Christine, you are having a tough time of it, aren't you? I can sense the anger and venom rushing through your fingertips as you typed! Your body has started to go through an enormous change, all of which is completely natural. I've said it many times on this site to lovely ladies just like yourself, you really need to just be kind to yourself. If you want to cry, go on and do it. Scream and shout? That's what empty rooms are for? Want to hit someone, very hard? Why do you think women feel the need to have plenty of cushions and pillows? You will find loads of support here, so remember that this isn't happening just to you. You have officially joined the Nut Job society. Wear your badge with pride! I've been assured that it all gets better in time, and I have to say that I'm not as bad as I was. I am 48 too. We're all in it together hun. Now, make sure you take plenty of time for yourself. You deserve it. All the very best x

    • christine43871
      christine43871 louise44105

      Posted

      Hi Louise, i didn't realise the anger and venon was so obvious lol. That worries me slightly but i guess its good to recognise its there as now i need to try to deal with it. I would say i feel more sad and helpless than angry but perhaps i am just not recognising exactly how i do feel. I woke up in the early hours with a pounding headache, took some paracetamol and went back to sleep and then woke up hours later still with the same headache, took more and finally got up about 11.45. I have sat here reading and Im feeling better just that someone out there cares at all about how all of us are feeling. I think sympton wise for me the worst thing is the lack of motivation. I have so much now on my list of (very boring) things to do this weekend and I really can't be bothered to do any of them. I dont know how to get this enthusiasm for life back? I have so many other physical issues which are related to my immune system that I have just had to get on with them. I think I thought that if I could cope with them I could cope with anything but now with this on top it seems like the straw that broke the camels back. I have been very teary and yet I can hear myself snapping particularly at my OH. He's never been a very understanding person when it comes to illness or if someone is feeling anyhting but 'normal' but I do know he loves me and I think I must be driving him mad with my general attitude. I dont want to argue but I can't seem to help myself.

      I will try to think of my Nut Job Society Badge when I feel myself going and that did make me smile alot so hopefully I can reighn it in a bit.

      Thank you so much for your comments and I hope your journey continues to improve slowly xx

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