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I can't take it anymore!! Perimenopause horrible..HELP!

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jennifer85396
jennifer85396

I am 48 years old, stay at home mom with two children.  They are in school, I try to keep myself very busy.  I have had OCD and anxiety, I have been fighting it for years. But, now the Perimenopause is really terrible..depressed, mood swings, tension headaches, dry and itchy skin.

I have spoken to my sisters who are all past Menopause, they tell me their stories but I just cannot believe that hormones can cause all this havock.  I do not feel myself at all, my PMS is worse and the week of my period I actually feel like I have a disease and I am dying.  Feel like I am going crazy!! Please tell me if this is normal to feel this way at this time, because I am obsessing and cannot get my mind off of it.  Need Help!!!!

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  • julesmsw
    julesmsw jennifer85396

    Posted

    Hi Jennifer,

    I am new to this forum and want to thank you.

    I am 46, and have a 16 yr old son.

    I have been in peri menopause for about 9 yrs. I feel anxious quite alot. I have been taking Passionflower daily for 4 or so years and it has been very helpful.

    I am a f/t social worker and am grateful for my career. I am so looking forward for menopause to start.

    I do meditation, exercise very regularly and always have.

    However, it's great to see that this forum exists.

    I am open and interested in solutions that others have found to deal with the anxiety, crying jags, sleeplessness.

    Best,

    Jules

    • jackieuk
      jackieuk julesmsw

      Posted

      Hi have you actually had perimenopause diagnosed. I only ask as I am struggling in my marriage as

      My periods stopped 10months ago but I feel so depressed. I am on citalopram but have been for 3

      Years so not been to drs my husband just doesn't get it and I don't know what to do x

    • julesmsw
      julesmsw jackieuk

      Posted

      Oh yah i have. Sorry he is not understanding. You have us on here. We get it
  • natalie86625
    natalie86625 jennifer85396

    Posted

    Hi Jennifer,

    I am going through exactly the same emotions and feelings.

    I have suffered with anxiety on and off for a few years now.

    The past year i've had hot sweats, night sweats, tender breaststroke etc etc. Didn't realise it was perimenopause until anxiety hit out of blue for no reason and depressed feeling , even though i've had anxiety i've never been depressed with it. How ever I worry whether it's perimenopause or just bad anxiety. I did go to the GP on and off the past 6 months and told them it was a different form of anxiety. They told me my bloods were fine however I do know many women who have had bloods done come back ok even if they are suffering with perimenopause.

    The overwhelming feeling of doom is horrible and my thoughts are racing thinking I can't take this. Yet on a good day i'm fine.

    I start HRT in 2 weeks. Hopefully it will help.

    Any advice would be welcome x x x

    • julesmsw
      julesmsw natalie86625

      Posted

      My anxiety has been really bad in recent yrs due to my peri to. So grateful for my toolbox of helpful tools. So helpful and i have had sone rough days. Woo
    • natalie86625
      natalie86625 julesmsw

      Posted

      Hi,

      I feel sometimes as though i'm on verge of nervous breakdown, then next minute i'm fine. It's awful.

      Still we must go on

    • michelle46271
      michelle46271 natalie86625

      Posted

      Hi natalie

      I've got the same situation. I've suffered anxiety on and off for 7 years. It started when me and my ex husband separated. There was never depression. I was always anxious and having panic attacks. The last 7 months has been a different story. It started with a sudden surge of panic. Then there was depression,frightened feelings,not being able to go places for a month,overwhelming feeling,palpitations etc. I'm on HRT but this hasn't eased the anxiety. I also go through about 200 different thoughts in one day. It's horrible.

    • michelle46271
      michelle46271

      Posted

      I also feel like I've been on the verge of a breakdown even though I don't know what it feels like.

    • natalie86625
      natalie86625 michelle46271

      Posted

      Hi Michelle,

      Oh my goodness exactly the same symtons. At least we aren't alone! You always feel like you are though.

      I am single mum my ex husband moved away for 6 years and i've raised my daughter on my own. Before when I had anxiety I was able to cope but now with perimenopause I can't face anything at all. The GP have put me on antidepressants and i'm waiting to start HRT . I am exhausted and those troublesome thoughts are terrible. You are right it's totally overwhelming emotions. I've tried loads of CBT but right now nothing seems to work at moment.

      Also crying loads which I didn't before.

      Natalie x

    • michelle46271
      michelle46271 natalie86625

      Posted

      Yes I'm trying cbt at the end of the week. I did have hypnotherapy years ago but stopped after 10 sessions. How old are you? I am 46.

    • natalie86625
      natalie86625 michelle46271

      Posted

      No way I am 46 too. I have tried loads of different forms of CBT . The one thing feel works is trying not to give yourself a hard time. Easier said than done! As that's all we ever do! I am beating myself up for having peri menopause.

      I get headaches too now and feel rather nervous.

      I've had to ring into work to let them know I won't be in for rest of week. Which I didn't want to do.

      Natalie x

    • julie45644
      julie45644 natalie86625

      Posted

      Hi Natalie

      Had all the same problems with anxiety. I felt better almost immediately when I started hrt.

      Although hrt has not been plain sailing by any means the initial side effects where much easier to cope with than the anxiety and depression. I hope hrt works for you also but don't expect a miracle cure. I am not the same as I was prior to all of this but beginning to accept the new me and learning to start to live again

    • natalie86625
      natalie86625 julie45644

      Posted

      Hi Julie,

      That is such good news. So happy it is working.

      I'd try just about anything to stop these awful emotions.

      I never thought i'd hear myself saying "can't wait to start HRT"

      Natalie x

    • michelle46271
      michelle46271 natalie86625

      Posted

      I've had severe tension headaches every day as well. I've been feeling so nervous and jumpy especially when trying to drop to sleep. My body feels revved up if that's how you describe it ??

    • natalie86625
      natalie86625 michelle46271

      Posted

      Yes the headaches are terrible.

      Revved up is definitely the best way to describe it.

      I just want to stay on sofa and not do anything at all.

      I have had all the physical symtons over the last year but never realised, occasionally I had more anxiety then it went, but slowly ,each time it got more and more intense I was unable to breath my way out of it.

      Now the impending doom feeling is awful.

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