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I can't take it anymore!! Perimenopause horrible..HELP!

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jennifer85396
jennifer85396

I am 48 years old, stay at home mom with two children.  They are in school, I try to keep myself very busy.  I have had OCD and anxiety, I have been fighting it for years. But, now the Perimenopause is really terrible..depressed, mood swings, tension headaches, dry and itchy skin.

I have spoken to my sisters who are all past Menopause, they tell me their stories but I just cannot believe that hormones can cause all this havock.  I do not feel myself at all, my PMS is worse and the week of my period I actually feel like I have a disease and I am dying.  Feel like I am going crazy!! Please tell me if this is normal to feel this way at this time, because I am obsessing and cannot get my mind off of it.  Need Help!!!!

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  • kim54781
    kim54781 jennifer85396

    Posted

    I also have been going through perimenopause for a cpl of yrs. Had a melt down 2 yrs ago found out through saliva testing my estrogen was through the roof..I have been on bio identical hormone progesterone and Lexapro. .did good for yr n half then cpl weeks ago it hit again plus 50 pounds I've gained n find out I'm now borderline diabetic on top of it all.. it's such a mental n physical horrid nightmare.. I'm 45 soon to be 46... wish u the best

  • catherine06626
    catherine06626 jennifer85396

    Posted

    Hello Jennifer,

    I don't know if you still read these, but I thought I would give it a shot.  I will be 48 soon and perimenopause has begun.  I can handle most of the symptoms except the severe chronic bloating which has expanded my waist five inches in one month.  What is so irritating is that I swim 50 laps 4 days a week and bike 30-40 miles a week, eat well, and it makes no difference.  My one question is:  Did your bloating ever resolve or improve?  If so, how long did it take and did you take anything for it?  I hope you are doing better.  Thank you.

    Sincerely,

    Catherine

  • Rg4673
    Rg4673 jennifer85396

    Posted

    I am glad I found this forum. It's comforting to know that I am not the only one that feels like this. I have anxiety and this past year it has been ten fold with other strange symptoms that I see a lot of women on here have as well. I hate it!!! My doctor wants me to go on BC pills but I am nervous to take. Any other women in here take a low dose BC and how is it working for you.

    • becky53379
      becky53379 Rg4673

      Posted

      Hi Reinee, I am supposed to take BCP too but have to wait to start my period. Im late right now ugh! I am back and forth with taking them too. I have heard both good and bad about taking them. Sorry I didnt answer your question but wanted you to know that I know how you feel.
  • colleen90305
    colleen90305 jennifer85396

    Posted

    I had to retire from the military because I didn't know I was going through this and was not able to hold a security clearance. You think the govt would understand this???

  • dana73589
    dana73589 jennifer85396

    Posted

    Oh wow! Can I relate to that! I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder and mental illness compared to my menopause was pleasant! I get so crazy the week before and during my period. I have dryness, but can't use estrogen cream because they cause me trush like insane. I had hysterectomy, so I have a patch...If I survive that, that will be my achievement in life!! I imagine scary scenarios during my PMS (still have my ovaries) and my heart goes crazy sometimes, I'm so anxious that I wake up at night with my chest all tight. I was given gabapentin but I was losing my memory, so I stopped. I have sadness, depression.....but hey, I can deal with that. But the back aches, neck aches, dry skin; if ETs designed us, well I'm glad that they thought of an hybrid. I hope they will improve that department! smile

    • kellys38
      kellys38 dana73589

      Posted

      Hi Dana, 

      It's been a year since this post, so i don't know if you will get this or not but if so, I'm wondering how you are feeling? Your symptoms sound a lot like mine. I get really anxious a week before and during my period. And also, horrible back pain. Where was your back pain and do you still struggle with it? 

  • leticia15716
    leticia15716 jennifer85396

    Posted

    Hi! Jennifer I know this is about a Year old, but hope you see this. My name is Lety and now I am 62 but when I was in my 40s I started this awful journey, sounds just like yours, and somebody said here that is sad that they Drs. have not done a lot of research on this, Only people like you and Me can understand because we have gone through this, others can think we are crazy cause thats how it feels, I hope since you posted this you found a better solution, me I keep telling my Drs. that is hormonal but they keep saying is Anxiety, but I tell them , So why is it only the times i get really sick is around my period I dont have it cause i had Hysterectomy at early age, but I get like you toward the end of each mont, cause thats when my period was and i get sick for 3 to 5 days,  feel sad, moody, very sickkkk , want to just sleep , i sweat a lot and i can still have 2 3 blankets cause i dont like being cold, than I dont like being with people when I am sick,,and I am very socialble, so thats hard for me.  benn in a lot of meds for anxiety but i wish they will invent a meds for our sickness nobody pays attention and it feels like you are dying.  sad but please let me know if things are better or if you got answers ok,  if this makes you feel better You are not alone ! I am with you and I understand you .  see ya
    • colleen90305
      colleen90305 leticia15716

      Posted

      Sorry Leticia, I thought menopause is the end of all of these horrible symtoms? I was looking forward to it, now I see it can be aweful too. When will this end?
  • tina39899
    tina39899 jennifer85396

    Posted

    I'm 48 and missed my last 2 periods. The last 3 months have felt like I'm losing the plot. Just don't feel like me. Crying, anxiety is dreadful, constant ringing in ears, lightheadedness all the time, acid reflux, mood swings, feeling really sad ....... Went to the docs and they put it down to anxiety. Can anxiety really cause the ringing in ears and lightheadedness. Bloods came back clear, had endoscopy for reflux which has found osophogitis and need another endoscopy in a month. My real concern is the ringing in ears and lightheadedness. Don't particularly want medication just want to know it's nothing serious.

    • michelle46271
      michelle46271 tina39899

      Posted

      Hi Tina

      I've had all the symptoms you have got over the last year and more. I've had the ringing/whooshing in my ears for 6 months continuously and still got it. I've tried different things but nothing has helped it. I think I've learnt to live with it now x

    • sharon_c
      sharon_c tina39899

      Posted

      Hi Tina 

      gosh thought I was reading about myself. I have had the ringing in my ears for about year now and the lightheadnes it's horrible. Like Michelle said I have learnt to live with it to xx

    • colleen90305
      colleen90305 sharon_c

      Posted

      It's horrible what we go through. What works for some works for others leaving some women helpless. With today's technology you would think there would be something which helps all without months of trial and error

    • tina39899
      tina39899 sharon_c

      Posted

      Reassuring it's not just me. Occassionaly I feel positive and think right I'm just gonna get on with it but some days it totally gets to me and can't believe I might be like this forever sad

    • becky53379
      becky53379 tina39899

      Posted

      Thats how I feel Tina....good days I think I got this! Bad days I think I cant do this anymore. It is rough but Im so thankful that everyone on here is so open to sharing their experiences and helping all of us realize that we are not alone. I hope that today is your good day smile

    • colleen90305
      colleen90305 tina39899

      Posted

      I'm afraid of that too Tina. First I thought women only get hot flushes at menopause because Thsts all my mom got. Then I began peri and suffer many symtoms and read the avg is 4 yrs, and menopause is much better. Now I'm reading menopause can be hell too and could go on for many many yrs! I feel I have no hope on the long road ahead! Isad

    • juanita93228
      juanita93228 becky53379

      Posted

      I think that sometimes too Becky. But today is not one of my good days. I called in to work today. First time I've done this because of menopause related issues. This worst is my sister who went through a horrible menopause is not sympathetic. She's like "why are you so down?, You should be over the worst of it by now". This is the same sister who told me I could talk to her whenever I started going through menopause. Of course now I'm anxious because of the work piling up while I'm out today. I wish I could win the lottery and retire, so I could work on my quality of life. At least I can talk to you ladies.

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