I can't take it anymore!! Perimenopause horrible..HELP!

I'm sorry Juanita. I feel the same way. I want to call in to work EVERY morning but I just push myself to get out of bed. I have a 6 year old and a 16 year old that I just can't let down but I feel that doom and gloom every single day and its scary. I just pray pray pray. The scary thing for me is that I'm only 31. I dont know if I hit peri early because I had my first child at 14 but this sucks. My sleep is disrupted, I have mood swings, hair growth on my chin, night sweats, back pain, irregular periods, weight fluctuation hair loss, anxiety, depression and I forget what else

Oh yeah....memory loss 😔

I'm sorry you are going through this at such an early age Valarie. My cousin(who is also named Valerie) had no problems at all with menopause, just breezed through it. My oldest sister did okay too. But me and my middle sister(she's done at 66) haven't been as lucky. I already want to call in tomorrow. But I can't, I just have to go. I also pray, I feel so lost, scared and sad. I think part of it os women have so many responsibilities now. I'm single, no children, but I have a house, student loan debt, credit card debt, and a 13 year old car. I can't add a car payment to the mix. But folks just say "just go get a car". I'm trying to sell the house as my neighborhood is getting bad. I could go on an on. We women are under a lot of pressure. Stay blessed!

Hi all, I feel all your pain as I am going through the same.

I'm so glad I found this site because sometimes I feel like I'm

Going crazy and loosing my mind. But hearing I'm not the only one

Makes me know it's something we all go through. It's a struggle

And it's horrible. Sometimes I don't know how much more

I can take this. I just want to be happy and be me again but everyday

It's a struggle. The anxiety, panic attacks, mood swings, depression

Is out of control! ! It's like mother nature played a bad joke on us!!

I pray everyday and I'm praying for all of you too. I don't know how my

Fiance even stays with me because I have changed so much.

Thank you for listening. I'm sorry I don't have any encouraging words at

The moment but I'm just so mad at this menopause thing! I just want my life back.

Hugs to all and again thanks for listening to me rant.

Try some menopause formula vitamin with Vit B complex, isoflavanoids, calcium + lots vitamins & minerals, some have green tea or Co enzyme Q10. I'm taking a Well-managed one for 3 months, I feel so much better. I realise I'd gotten used to waking up miserable, now I wake up relaxed, happy, something akin to enthusiasm! Also take 1/4 spoon of Maca, morning and evening, this puts pep in ur step, gives you energy and brings libido back. And cod liver oil/ flax seed, krill oil. You just need to get right mix of vitamins and you'll sail through this. It took me ages, I started having symptoms at 40, now I'm 49, still having periods every 23 days. I've tried lots of medicines and hormone replacement. My fsh is low, 8, but I've had flooding horrible periods, faint feeling, utter fatigue, hot flashes, palpitations and night sweats in week before periods, line-y dry nails. A long peri- but I think the cure is in vitamins, minerals and herbs. I hope you feel better soon, it's panic inducing to have these symptoms going on and on. The medical profession needs a kick up the back side for not taking care of women leading up to menopause.

Hi traci78291, hang in there, it is rough, really rough sometimes. But thankfully the good still outweighs the bad! I have started taking a super b complex along with my multivitamin and I find it does help. My symptoms are not gone, but I haven't lost my mind yetc either! Praying for us all.

Hi Juanita! Just wondering how you've been...I've still just hanging in there. I'm dealing with a new symptom now. It's muscle twitching (spasms) mainly in my legs...so annoying. Hope to hear from you ?

Hey! I'm doing okay, it could be worse, lol! I'm on HRT for a little while. I can't stay on it long because of my fibroids. Male doc put me on Zoloft and it was awful! Got off that and went back to Trazadone for depression. But HRT doesn't stop the anxiety and the not so positive thoughts. I ran out of klonopin and they won't refill it early, so I'm taking Magnesium and doing meditation. It helps, but each day is a still a bit of a struggle. I pray a lot! I'm going to a new female doc next month. I want to get to a point where I don't have to take the Trazadone, HRT, or anxiety meds. I'm hanging in there! I hope to hear from you soon.

Hi Linda, I'm glad that you found this website too! It helps so much to know that we are not going through this alone. First thing if your bloodwork shows that your not in menopause dont get frazzled. Bloodwork will not show perimenopause. I am 48 and after 5 doctors the last one didnt even look at my bloodwork., she looked my age and symptoms and said it is peri. The things work for me is walking, vitamin d3, warm milk at night before bed, crying if I feel the need, napping, cutting out sugar and caffeine, and doing lots of praying and reading my devotional daily. I hope that you feel better and be kind to yourself. ...its a rough ride at times. Take care!

Hi Becky53379, sometimes bloodworm, showing high FSH levels can indicate menopause is at the door. But I'm 49, low FSH, 8.2 and 7.9 readings yet having appalling symptoms for almost 10 yrs. I had very bad hot flushes for 3 years around 2009, periods were been 21 days apart since all this started, palpitations and migraine before period. And I've never felt anything like the tiredness, just to stay awake makes you feel faint!!. Last yr periods have been stretching back out around 26-28 days and no hot flushes, but harder to keep fit and my shape is changing, skin changes too. Big pain in between shoulderblades started last yr. Surely there's someway to check bloods, to shorten duration of menopause. My kids will not have memories of me as who I really am.

Naturopathic? I've a good health shop, going there, trying Maca, flaxseed, vit b complex etc. It's making a difference. You just have to be careful, watch food, exercise, watch everything, don't get stressed. Nobody really understands, esp women who aren't having symptoms. The crushing tiredness that just arrives is worst. House doesn't matter, kids exams, you just try survive. But I've something akin to normality now. I think will get better. No junk food, no taking eye off the ball, positive thinking, no lying in bed, up very early and out. Only hope!