I can't take it anymore!! Perimenopause horrible..HELP!
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I am 48 years old, stay at home mom with two children. They are in school, I try to keep myself very busy. I have had OCD and anxiety, I have been fighting it for years. But, now the Perimenopause is really terrible..depressed, mood swings, tension headaches, dry and itchy skin.
I have spoken to my sisters who are all past Menopause, they tell me their stories but I just cannot believe that hormones can cause all this havock. I do not feel myself at all, my PMS is worse and the week of my period I actually feel like I have a disease and I am dying. Feel like I am going crazy!! Please tell me if this is normal to feel this way at this time, because I am obsessing and cannot get my mind off of it. Need Help!!!!
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csy03055 jennifer85396
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I am 48 and going through menopause. I am glad I found this site. I am feeling hopeless. I don't understand how I could have a good life but yet always feeling irritable especially with people I care about. I have a sense of doom, I have trouble sleeping and are constantly tired. I want to cry all the time and I feel like my husband do not understand this.
juanita93228 csy03055
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I get it. I didn't even go in to work today. I have no reason to feel like I do. I'm worried I have some dread disease. I hope this feeling doesn't last long.
pjcanada juanita93228
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I get that too.. the flashes, tiredness, I can take ... it's the damn panic attacks, insomnia (lucky if I get 5 hours a night) and the damn gloom and doom feelings that are getting to me also... I've tried everything... little pep talks to myself, essential oils... they do help... I just want to feel normal again... been talking to a few of my friends, some are going through it.. others nothing... it plays havoc on your life. I'm lucky my husband has been great about it... he makes jokes, which helps keep it on a lighter side... if I'm not feeling good, he helps out more. It's just hard trying to deal with hormones, work, and family while trying to keep it all together. I work retail, and the last week had such a bad hot flash I thought i was going to pass out... couldn't go anywhere to relieve it, was stuck on the floor... it was really embarrasing... I'm lucky I also have a great boss, who's a woman, and at least tries to understand (she's 10 years younger than me)... I just keep telling her at least you know what to expect... I stood outside in a snow storm at work last week just to get cooled down.. then I was fine... I keep trying to find the humor in it... some days it's just not that funny....
juanita93228 pjcanada
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You're right. Some days it's not. I just want me back. But at the same time I know I could be dealing with something much worse. So, I just take one day at a time.
pam34236 juanita93228
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juanita93228 pam34236
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I'm just taking it one day at a time. Some days I feel like my body is falling apart. Stomach issues, joint pain, my hemorrhoids bother me more now too. But, all in all I feel like soon it will get better. It has to,right?
pjcanada juanita93228
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It's the mucle aches with me... I do a lot of lifting a work.... by the end of our delivery day, I'm done... night time I basically wrap my shoulder in heat pads... I just ache.. Hot bath helps for a bit... but it doesn't last long. Also have been doing massage therpy... which is wonderful... but only last for a few days, and I'm back in misery... and just to add insult to injuy.. I got my period yesterday after not having one for 4 months... it's been hell for the last 24 hours. I'm in agony... PMS on steroids.. My poor family... I've just been nasty to everyone. Customers are really anoying at work.. this is not me... I'm easy going, roll off my back kind of person... the last few days I just want to rip everyones throats out.. My Dr has put me on a herbal supplement... hoping it kicks in soon... Anyone else having weird dreams???
HopeAgain csy03055
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Thankfully I have a husband that understands but if you don't I would find someone who does. It is really important to have that one person that gets it. I have a good life too but I felt literally insane. I almost became home bound because of the panic attacks.
pjcanada HopeAgain
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The panic attacks are the worst... I didn't want to leave the house for a couple of months.. they would come out of no where.. any time, any place... it is a horrible feeling... Mine are starting to back off now...I do still get them just not as often and not as bad.. I can talk myself down from them now at least...it's makes it easier knowing there are other women going through this and I'm not alone and going slowly insane....
sheela_11111 jennifer85396
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Hello Jennifer! Thanks for posting this. I am feeling the same way, like I have some kind of horrible disease & am dying, getting heatwaves, faint-headed, the whole gamit. Now I don't feel so crazy. Hope you feel better. Peace!
becky01895 jennifer85396
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Hiya
I've been dealing with so many different things from hot flashes . Anxiety. Heartburn. Mograines. I've had a scope. Every blood test done. Hospital numerous times and ems at house thinking I was dying. Chest pains daily and left arm.as well. I was tested at drs for menopause and it showed I was in peri menopause so now. I'm guessing all this crap is menopause caused .. omg it's horrible!! Dizzy daily too!
cathy55794 becky01895
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Hi Becky...so sorry to hear that you're having such a hard time....it's terrible what we have to go through...hang in there....this too shall pass..God bless?
becky01895 cathy55794
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Ty! It's horrible!!! 🙃
HopeAgain jennifer85396
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Oh yes it is totally normal. I sound a lot like you! I went through perimenopause when I was about 46 and hit menopause around 49 years old. I tell you I thought I had lost my ever flipping mind! I didn't know what was wrong with me though. This is funny, but it isn't because I felt so deranged and crazy that I actually asked my pastor at church if I was possessed!!!!! Seriously I became phobic, shaky, angry, crying, severe panic, you name it. My skin itched so bad that I would itch until I bled. I got horrible blood sugar issues where every 2 hours I felt like I was gonna pass out. I couldn't sleep no matter what. I tried every sleep aid and even tried 6 Benadryl but couldn't get more than one hour of restless sleep a night. I looked and felt like a zombie. The most horrible part though is that from the ages of 46 to 48 I had zero idea what was wrong with me. I saw Dr's and they would just say, "Oh, it's anxiety!" I saw a neurologist, allergist, dermatologist, phyciatrist, regular Dr's and all said the same thing! Finallyyyy after seeing a counselor he said it sounds like hormones to me. It took me 2 GYN Docs and 3 endocronologists to get anywhere. Finally I am! I am still having issues though. The main thing is REFUSE to give up. If a Dr. tells you it is all in your head go to another and another until someone listens. There were months I thought I could do it no more and wanted to just quit. There is a light at the end of the tunnel. My heart breaks horrible for women going through menopause. It is horrid for some of us. I do know that in perimenopause you can go on birth control. For me, I would do it. I know some are against it but if your life is so crazy that you just can't handle it go on birth control. What it does is it stops those wild hormone shifts that make you fine one minute and crazy the next. It will keep your hormones even until you get to menopause. There are health risks with birth control but to me I would do it in a minute because there are health risks with depression too. I couldn't go on it because I smoke. I hope the best for you!
becky01895 HopeAgain
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Hi hope!
I.have had every symptom known to man. Anxiety bad. Itchy especially down below. Chest pains daily. Suicidal thoughts. Feat in was dying and having heart atracks. Hot flashes . Dizziness. So when I went to my reg dr they tested all my levels and it came.back saying I was in peri menopause. I went to gyno and told her and she did testing and she said.you are not in menopause. I was 2 points aqay. So I'm thinking the test from gyno is for menopause not present which is what I'm faxinf. I tried estrogen and it made my anxiety worse.I was told.to buy estrogen cream for arm. I talked.to a woman yesterday at work that has been through same thing as me and she now gets a.testosterone shot every few months and has a little patch on arm.for.esteogen. said she feels soo much better.
becky01895
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PeriBarbie becky01895
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Hi Hope
I think it's high estrogen that causes the worst symptoms. Some say taking wild yam cream or a progesterone cream is what we need to balance high estrogen. Putting it on inner thighs apparently means the progesterone goes to the same areas blood supply as when it's secreted from the ovaries.
Try a range of things, salmon and other oily fish in your diet can help too. Anti depressants can help some women with hot flushes and anxiety. Others can get relief from black cohosh, red clover and sage. Be good to yourself, take treats like footspas, with relaxing oils such as lavender. Listen to lovely meditations, there are loads of free meditations, chakra balancing and anxiety reducing on youtube. Get nice things; a lovely pen, a pretty notebook, write down something you'd like to do, or somewhere you'd like to see. Read poetry that inspires you. Walk and listen to podcasts, do yoga. Get through this time whatever way you can. I'm finding a bit of relief now with starflower oil.
I hope you start to feel better and find pockets of time in the day you get relief. God bless.x