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I can't take it anymore!! Perimenopause horrible..HELP!

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jennifer85396
jennifer85396

I am 48 years old, stay at home mom with two children.  They are in school, I try to keep myself very busy.  I have had OCD and anxiety, I have been fighting it for years. But, now the Perimenopause is really terrible..depressed, mood swings, tension headaches, dry and itchy skin.

I have spoken to my sisters who are all past Menopause, they tell me their stories but I just cannot believe that hormones can cause all this havock.  I do not feel myself at all, my PMS is worse and the week of my period I actually feel like I have a disease and I am dying.  Feel like I am going crazy!! Please tell me if this is normal to feel this way at this time, because I am obsessing and cannot get my mind off of it.  Need Help!!!!

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  • shelby64599
    shelby64599 jennifer85396

    Posted

    Hi Jennifer ive been in menopause for over 12 months but gp failed to pick up on it finally at my wits end i saw a lovely gp who did all the correct test having been left so long untreated i was low in vit b12 (WHICH AFTER 5TH JAB BECAME ALLERGIC) my moods were all over the place i was an emotional wreck i couldn't sleep my anxiety was worse im on patches now im on my 1st patch second day but everything you mentioned was exactly what was going on with me so you are not going crazy or losing your mind i had to fight tooth and nail to get hrt i really feel like i may just get my life back i hope you feel better real soon dont give up

  • shelby64599
    shelby64599 jennifer85396

    Posted

    Sorry i forgot to mention im 46 in may i also have ocd which i must admit cleaning did sort of take the edge off my anxiety i hope this helps
  • kay33409
    kay33409 jennifer85396

    Posted

    Thank God I found this thread. I have been suffering for a few months.  (anxiety, horrible fear, depression, intrusive thoughts, head aches and cramps, heavy periods) But I went through this 3 years ago and now I am back in it.

    3 years ago I tapered off of klonopin and it was hell, it was just like this excpet more physical symptoms, but the mental symptoms was exactly like this. Waking up panicking, the dread, the gloom and doom, the intrusive thoughts. Lost 60 percent of my hair (dang it my hair has just grown back) It was everyday for many months straight no break no let up at all. 

    After I got out of that I was so happy and grateful and now it feels so cruel that I am thrown back in this existing hell. So far about a week each month. 

    I am going to the doctor tomorrow I hope he will fit me in but I have no hope for any help. I will not go on an antidepressant or benzos like klonopin, ativan or xanax because that is too dangerious, it already damaged my brain. As far as hormones I don't think ican do it because of family history. 

    I am sooooo screwed. 

    I am going to go into hiding when this hits like this. It will be hard my Mother had a stroke and I am responcible for her care. She is doing so good though, so my care is not around the clock. And I help with my Mother in Law, but she is very active, So I decided to hide out when I feel bad and no feel guilt about it. 

    Gosh I feel liek I am in trouble or soemthign bad is about to happen.

    I been through hell with the klonopin taper and withdrawal I can't believe this is happening again, I feel like I am in a horror movie and I got away to find out I'm not out of the woods.

    Kay

    • kay33409
      kay33409

      Posted

      Forgot to mention I am 51 and have had early perimenopause with the light periods and some pms for a few years. Now they turned on me and my periods are horrible.

      Kay

    • becky53379
      becky53379 kay33409

      Posted

      Hi Kay, I am glad that you found this site too! We are all in the same boat. Im so sorry that you are feeling so bad. Just know that you are hormonal normal. Keep posting and reading on here. There are so many wonderful ladies that are here to support each other through this roller coaster ride. Are you taking any vitamins?
    • julie39600
      julie39600 kay33409

      Posted

      Do try some of the herbal options, this did help with a lot symptoms. Meds have their place if you can tolerate them.
    • kay33409
      kay33409 becky53379

      Posted

      I take vitamins

      Magneisium

      Potasium

      CQ10

      Vitamin D3

      Vitamin K

      Fish Oil

      rose hips

      Vitamin e

      Vitamin C

      kelp

      probiotic

      I just purchased Evening primrose oil tonight

      Whey powder

       

    • kay33409
      kay33409 julie39600

      Posted

      I purchased Prim Rose oil this evening. I will not do ADs or any anxiey medications since they caused damamge to my brian and I suffered for th elast three years and I think that dammage is making this even worse. 
    • becky53379
      becky53379 kay33409

      Posted

      Wow Kay....that is alot of vitamins. My list consist of Raw vitamin d3 lol
    • kay33409
      kay33409 becky53379

      Posted

      Well as I was going through klonopin withdrawal which is almost exactly like this but with no breaks and more physcial nerve pain and muscle pain I tried my best to keep up my immune system. That withdrawal does a horrible number on hormones both men and woman but the women suffer the most. Which is why my list is the way it is.
    • nic1976
      nic1976 becky53379

      Posted

      Hi all

      I went for the supplements too as I went to see a nutritionist and she was brilliant. She put me on (all natural and organic with no nasties) probiotic, intenzyme, estroprime, dim, multivitamin and thyrostim. One year on my symptoms have reduced massively so she has now said I can reduce them or started withdrawing some. I'm very happy!

    • lisa71368
      lisa71368 kay33409

      Posted

      Not familiar with klonopin, but you seem to take on a lot of vitamins and supplements. If you don't want to take AD, then check into to a psychologist. She might help give tips on how to help with anxiety and stress. It might take awhile to find the perfect fit but it could be a positive experience. Remember to breathe and take some down time. You are allowed to love yourself. Sometimes, our time, is what we need just to keep ourselves sane.

  • pam34236
    pam34236 jennifer85396

    Posted

    HI All come back after some weeks. Been through hell basically with anxiety and depression. Cannot sleep at night then followed by anxiety. Perimenopause is a horrible thing and doctors keep trying different things but no answers. Mental health has really scared me and feel completely lost. thanks for the forum to share thoughts. I am taking AD but of not much help yet. I wish for a crystal ball to see what will happen in future. Going through for past 4 years and still no light in the end of tunnel. Is there any taking AD which helped them. I am taking pristiq but not big change. Along with it is loss of apeptite and losing weight. Sorry to go on.
    • lisa71368
      lisa71368 pam34236

      Posted

      I'm taking Zoloft 75mg, which is fairly low, but just takes the edge off the anxiety. Perimenopause is horrible! Isn't it enough that women get their periods so young, carry our children, go through pregnancy issues, some of us have c-sections and to top it all off with a "grand" finally of petimenopause? Feels like I'm going crazy at times too, especially around my periods. The mental health piece is very important, so if you think your meds are not working, there are several out there your doctor can prescribe. Good luck.

  • kay33409
    kay33409 jennifer85396

    Posted

    Just got back from the doctors, not much help at all, thankfully I read this thread and knew this might happen. He is ordering some tests, the internal ultrasound, did blood tests, my iron is very good. 

    But said this is the change, I will cry and I will yell and that is that. That it is natural. He is a very good surgeon and for regular stuff, but not much else will come from him. 

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