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I can't take it anymore!! Perimenopause horrible..HELP!

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jennifer85396
jennifer85396

I am 48 years old, stay at home mom with two children.  They are in school, I try to keep myself very busy.  I have had OCD and anxiety, I have been fighting it for years. But, now the Perimenopause is really terrible..depressed, mood swings, tension headaches, dry and itchy skin.

I have spoken to my sisters who are all past Menopause, they tell me their stories but I just cannot believe that hormones can cause all this havock.  I do not feel myself at all, my PMS is worse and the week of my period I actually feel like I have a disease and I am dying.  Feel like I am going crazy!! Please tell me if this is normal to feel this way at this time, because I am obsessing and cannot get my mind off of it.  Need Help!!!!

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  • tracey10756
    tracey10756 jennifer85396

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    I have posted here before recently. Does anyone have drenching night sweats? I get them mainly leading up to my period and a little during. I have to change my night clothes! Sometimes twice during the night! Help!! I am 48 and started this 5 years ago. xx
    • tammy45904
      tammy45904 tracey10756

      Posted

      Hi Tracey~  Yes, I get the night sweats too. I'm 46 and been going through perimenopause for what I figure, about 4-5 years. The past few months have really been bad with cycle changes, worsening mood, HORRIBLE cramps, etc...blah! The night sweats are odd because I'll wake up like WTH!! At times when I take prednisone for a cold some of these symptoms are worse-including the night sweats-I'll get them every night while taking the med. I'm hoping things are getting worse as I get closer to the end but I haven't found anything the states that. Seems anything & everything goes with perimenopause-the hormones have taken over! 

    • julie39600
      julie39600 tammy45904

      Posted

      Yes night sweats awful get very hot in the day also. Can't wear socks most of time as if feet hot seem to make rest of me burn up. Either that or my face bright red and burning and body shivering. Was using fan to cool face but this now causes nerve pains. Only 2 years in to my personal hell so not looking forward to more long term issues. When people say 10 years can't even think about it. My migraines have got worse and more frequent, at 46 this year feel like I'm old before my time.

    • lisa71368
      lisa71368 tracey10756

      Posted

      48 years old and have some night sweats for about a year. Maybe once or twice a month, randomly. The only thing I make sure of is that every night I wear something light and keeps me cooler. Also, try not to bundle up on the blankets. Drink lots of water. Think this is just part of the lovely process!
  • lisa71368
    lisa71368 jennifer85396

    Posted

    I am 48 and have OCD and anxiety. Does anyone have upper stomach pain such as heartburn or reflux? Been to the Gastro doctor who asked if I had this with my pregnancies, which I did, so she was led to believe it's hormones causing the stomach flare ups during periods. The pain is awful! Had been taking Nexium and Zantac regularly for six months prior to September 2016, not realizing it blocks iron absorption. Because I was so tired and worn out, I started taking B12 daily.

    Last September 2016, I was so tired and worn out. Doctor diagnosed me as anemic and my B12 very high. Stopped the B12, put on D3 and had been taking iron daily up until January. Went for physical last week and my complete blood work, including iron, thyroid panel, B12 were all in normal range. Even went for a CT heart scan for my own peace of mind, which turned out a 0 for no calcium deposits and all looks normal.

    Now that I know it's not my heart and very certain it's my stomach. I don't want to start on the antacids again for fear that I will start the whole roller coaster again. Feel like I am going crazy and have some disease. Can anyone give a suggestion on hormonal stomach pain? I'm so mentally and physically over these stupid periods!

    • april14450
      april14450 lisa71368

      Posted

      It's totally your hormones I have gerd /acid reflux bad too !

    • lisa71368
      lisa71368 april14450

      Posted

      Thanks for your comment.  It helps to know I am not the only one.
  • kay33409
    kay33409 jennifer85396

    Posted

    I have tried s supliment that helped my anxiety and insomina somewhat, I was ont he tail end of a horrible period. So I am waiting to try it for the next cycle. Theanine. I tried one 100mg capsule and in an hour my anxiety stopped and I slept for 8 hours when I went to bed, all my intrusive worries stopped and I felt calm.

    I did go through klonopin withdrawal and it did injure my brain, I don't have the gaba to calm down and with perimenopause the dropping of hormones is causing havic. So this might help that time of the month.  I do not want to use it everyday but save it for times I really need relief. 

     

    • liz77186
      liz77186 kay33409

      Posted

      My OB just put me on gabitrol.  I am slowly stopping my klonopin. That stuff I believe is half the reason I am so irritated.  gabatrol is a supplement by pure life and works well for anxiety and calmness.   I just hate everything right now. Sometimes I feel like running away from life.  Doctors are useless.  They always want to push meds when I just want off them.  This forum is helping reading I'm not alone.  I just don't understand why they with all the technology can't figure out how to help!

  • Victoria2369
    Victoria2369 jennifer85396

    Posted

    OMG Im so glad I finally looked for a discussion site on menopause!

    I tick every box.

    Thought i was going mad. 

    Now reading through all the posts.

    I feel normal!

    • julie39600
      julie39600 Victoria2369

      Posted

      It doesn't help that doctors know little about it as they are poor at helping. There are days when I worry still that I assume everything is due to menopause and will miss something. Get things checked out but may just have to cope with it as best you can.

  • donna41668
    donna41668 jennifer85396

    Posted

    I realize the original post is from two years ago, but I feel the same way. I can't take it anymore. I teach at the college level and for the past two weeks I can safely say I am a bitch, especially in my morning classes. The harder I try to overcome the feelings, the worse they become. I feel bad for my students and I'm sure they are completely bewildered. Help!

  • tammy45904
    tammy45904 jennifer85396

    Posted

    And now after 4yrs of ALL the other crap of perimenopause my face is beginning have break-outs!! I've never had acne but as a teenager I'd get hormonal break-outs and now, after about 33yrs, I'm having break-outs again! Mainly along my jaw line and a little under it-which apparantly is typical for peri. I'm using my teen daughters acne face wash which helps and I've had to adjust my face cream. I'm soooo over this but who the hell knows when it'll end! One thing I never realized was how much of an impact hormones have on a woman's body-EVERY part of our being is effected by these nasty little molecules!!

  • lisa72030
    lisa72030 jennifer85396

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    This is me...sad I have only had one period since January. Today was scary, I woke up and I feel so sick, dizzy, blood pressure drop, cold hands and feet but hot face, like I am dying. I made another dr apt today to check if I have anything serious. My adrenals are struggling, I stopped work and study but I feel like I am falling apart 😔

    • julie39600
      julie39600 lisa72030

      Posted

      Do try some herbal meds, I had hormones checked and loads of tests but were all ok. Kept telling me nothing was wrong so didn't explain why felt bloody terrible.

      Angus castus and black cohosh been the most helpful to me with vitamin e and evening primrose. I also take anxiety med from GP to stop impending doom. Now feel almost human most weeks. I guess my week when would've had period if no iud I get very funny but nowhere near as bad as it was.

      Need to try and find what works for you as can apparently last for years.

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