i feel like im dying
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how can peri make me feel this sick
it started jan 2016 but past 3 months have beem horrible. i wake up at 5am feeling so sick. i am beyond tired everyday all day ( prob cause i dont sleep much ) and my body doesnt feel good. i feel like i am slowly dying and even tho all my tests come back normal ( and i havr had a lot ) that they are missing something thats gonna kill me. my constant upset stomach/trapped air burping/ feeling unsteady when i walk is the worst one, amxiety, feel like i have ongoing flu.
please ease my mind and tell me im not alone. this seriously needs to stop. its putting me into depression
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carlycat kim74983
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Yes that is so true. I guess some of us are just more unlucky than others. It is very hot where I live. ..I went to move a few dressers outside with my daughter and by the time I was done, only 10 minutes but my heart was racing and I felt sick and out of breath. I'm not overweight but not in shape either I suppose but I used to be able to easily move around and do things. It's like I have no stamina now, no strength, my legs feel on fire if I climb one flight of stairs and I'm panting. It's not at all how I was. I don't believe it is all just getting older but who knows? There's got to be some explanation. I see 80 year olds more active than me!
Or am I just a big baby?
See this is the apex at which you start to go bonkers. .. you dont always know how much is really your body vs your (over) reaction to your symptoms which could be low blood pressure, hormones or any damn thing. I could feel like crap one minute and feel panic coming on, then several hours later I'm feeling pretty good and can go out to shop or clean or whatever. I would not say that I'm feeling like running a marathon. ..not since all the heavy bleeding. I have not felt normal since then. I was bleeding 25 days straight (that's not counting the 2 weeks of spotting and light before that) and then the last one was like 14 days long. I want to write a book called Betrayed by My Body because that's how I feel. But then I've been dealing with wacky symptoms (including miscarriages) for many years. I had 2 kids at a young age thank God I didn't wait because it wouldn't have happened I'm sure). And that's when the symptoms started. Just all kinds of crap. I've never tolerated medications well so I just try not to get sick. I can barely eat much. .. very limited diet although I'm doing alot better. I know alot of people with Dysautonomia have that issue too. The late Brittany Murphy (my fav actress! !) was said to have had Dysautonomia and anemia (heavy periods) wick contributed to her death (of course she had pneumonia and the day she died had taken over 7 different prescription and over the counter pills). People with dysautonomia have hyper sensitive nervous systems and blood pressure so anything. ..meds, stress, hormones, even foods can mess us up BAD. If course most doctors are zero help in this regard. That's why I'm going to a Holistic doctor. Maybe there are things that can help. I want to start exercising again. .. and eating full meals instead of tiny bites all day.I see very active people and I'm jealous! I was running 3 miles a day back in 2014. Then I just quit and my life became full of stress and despair. I guess that and perimenopause finally did me in. Ugh.
carlycat kim74983
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But I had to laugh thinking that if we were in Victorian times we would have been just fine. Ladies were allowed to be weak and they even had actual fainting couches. How perfect!
Of course now you are expected to pretend you are fine. I was at the post office one day and the clerk next to my clerk was down on her knees behind the counter. My clerk asked her what she was doing and she said she was just taking a moment and getting some water. Haha. I bet she was having a hot flash or some other miserable symptom! I would rather just not work (I'm not working currently but need to desparately). I can't tell how I'm going to feel from moment to hour (although I always feel like crap the first few hours of the day). One lady says she goes in the restroom and lies down on the floor. I guess that works but ewww...dirty. it is a pity that ladies have to work during this. My daughters are trying to help me through this, it isn't fun for them. I think having a husband must be so nice!
Well unless you are married to an ass. In that case you are better off alone. But I sure would love the support and not need to burden my kids so much. Understatement! It is really an all consuming problem.
lori93950 carlycat
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I swear never been through anything sooooo weird in all my life . Unable to fully wake up dizziness that kept me at home ready for bed at 4.30pm . I’ll never EVER forget this .... it’s a CRIME that we have to go through this and when many women on here have to give up work ( I don’t work) it’s SERIOUS issue !!!
Why oh why is this condition not publicized ??? I don’t see ads on tv of women crying holding onto shopping trolleys for fear they are going to keel over ... why aren’t meno solutions advertised on tv when every other bloody medication is ??? And don’t even mention the panic anxiety agoraphobia intrusive thoughts ! I swear we are living in the dark ages!!!
ImagineOneDay lori93950
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mauiblue lori93950
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Its ridiculous. I even think with my menopause brain its almost deliberate..
keeping all of the women pretty much in the dark..
your on your own, figure it out..
disgusting.
mauiblue carlycat
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Working is daunting with this, especially when you have kids and are doing it alone.
Its literally a day to day "lets see if i can make it again" mindset. I fight the fear factor ever day.
And when i do get through it, im proud and i take the next step.
We are strong though, we all are.
xoxo
lori93950 mauiblue
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Kazjo lori93950
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Lori, I got divorced about 12 years ago and I remember the gamut of emotions I felt but one feeling I did not expect to feel was confusion. I think I lived in a haze of confusion for years afterwards. No one ever mentions that emotion. We know we're mad, sad, lonely, shocked, etc during and after a divorce but we also go thru confusion. That may be the dizziness you feel. I look back and think how did I not crash my car, lose my job, get one foot in front of the other back then! Divorce and menopause is a wretched combination and I'm sorry you are going through all this. I always think if I identify a feeling or emotion, I can deal with it better. I like to know what I'm up against. Figure out your feelings...you may be surprised at what you find out about yourself...and work through them. You can do it!! :-) Keep us posted. -K
lori93950 Kazjo
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You understand too well these feelings all at once boy is it tough !!! I never had depression I realize now ! Feeling a bit low is nothing like the black cloud of depression . God knows how I’ve been keeping it together . I’m a really strong person but even the strongest people get weak sometimes .
I’m alone most of the time and it’s tough. I try to pray and meditate that things will get better .... on a good note my skin looks fabulous with the patch nobody would ever guess I’m 52 !
I’m ready for a new adventure whether it be alone or with somebody I think this patch has definitely woke me up to what a real life is like . Not sitting at home like a hermit . Thank God for the B vitamins they’ve certainly given me energy and the will to go on !
maria76995 kim74983
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Hi Kim, i think I have answered a lot of your previous post I been there but it does get better it will stop it takes time...if you are in perimenopause that's the way it is when you reach post with time too it settles down..all of symptoms are terrible, I'm now feeling like my old self again still have bit hot flashes don't go cold no more appetite and sleep has return and more cheerful..it does make you feel down understand believe you me you will come back on here happy bunny soon take care xx
mary27278 maria76995
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lori93950 mary27278
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carlycat lori93950
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Maybe that's what I'm having every morning. I lost alot of weight within one year but I was having tons of anxiety and not eating much. .. go figure. I'm trying to eat more now but with my heart rate faster than it was I guess I'm just burning it all off fast ..
lori93950 carlycat
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mary27278 lori93950
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mauiblue lori93950
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I drink regular however, and do a 4 shot white white mocha with half and half. delilcious, i now only drink about a 1/4 of it and save it for the next day so as to not overdue.
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mauiblue mary27278
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It will come back, just have faith. Im still fighting it, and suffering but im turning a corner and you will too.
i swear to God that i never thought i would make it (even planning for a future for my kids without me) if i couldn't handle and had to just toss in the towel and go somewhere and rock in a chair..
and even im getting a wee bit better.
so you will too..just be patient
x0x00x
carlycat mauiblue
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That is encouraging 😀
lori93950 mauiblue
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ranjeet21027 maria76995
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lori93950 ranjeet21027
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ranjeet21027 lori93950
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carlycat ranjeet21027
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That is no fun! I have a sound of blood rushing in my left ear all the time now. I don't know what or why it is. It is my heartbeat but why I suddenly have a blood vessel near my eardrum I have no idea. I get dizzy too sometimes. Now just in case you should make sure you don't have anemia from blood loss or some other lack of nutrition because that can cause dizziness. But so can Dysautonomia. My daughter is only 20 and she is dizzy alot. It actually makes her cell sick bUT her tests are normal too. So the Dysautonomia really causes alot of symptoms. You should look it up. Alot of menopause symptoms are dizziness/vertigo which is just the fluctuation of hormones. I get dizzy a day before my period always. But I did not always have that! I used to get dizzy almost every day. And headaches. Now I have other symptoms. So I think it is just our hormones constantly "confused" and as it changes our blood pressure and blood sugar we get these feelings. Have you tried drinking EXTRA water and extra salt? My doctor says this helps if you have LOW blood pressure.
If you have had all the tests and they are ok and you are not having heavy menstrual bleeding then probably you may have to try different things like diet changes to see if that helps you.
maria_03422 ranjeet21027
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I had all that you are describing..i had all kind of tests done as well..my dr put me on Omaprazole for my stomach and that lump in my throat was gone!!! I think everything is do to the constant anxiety...
Feel better!!
Xxxxx
maria_03422 ranjeet21027
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I was so tired of being scared all the time!!! I take a walk every morning even if its for 20 minutes it helps so much!!! No coffee, no sugar, no alcohol it helped with anxiety..and i read, i read all the time to keep my mind occupied!! And i drink a cup of chamomile tea at night helps me to sleep...i use to be up 3 am and couldnt sleep, i was so tired!!!
It will a bit better, i still have bad days, but nothing like the first 6 or so years..
Xxxxx
monique_93857 maria_03422
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maria_03422 monique_93857
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Glad to have you all and be able to share. I stopped talking to my husband about it, i think after all these years he is done to listen to my complains☺ My period is to come any day now and all kind of crazy symptoms popping up..im tired!!
monique_93857 mary27278
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I to drink coffee it does affect me but i keep it going my appetite is horrible i actually forget to ear at times but i can't live without my coffee anxiety and all i just keep busy not thinking about it heck I've been through so much with thos menopause dry eyes nose mouth anxiety panic attacks flopping bellie crawling skin aching joints sensitive teeth earaches jaw aches you name it nausea feeling doomed at one point i wouldn't leave the house but i broke myself away from that i hated the sleepless nights racing heart waking me up lord i can go on but ladies hang in there in time it gets better there is a light at the end of the tunnel god bless you all
maria_03422 monique_93857
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carlycat monique_93857
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My heart races waking me up too. Every morning and sometimes at night too. Horrible. So far that is my worst symptom besides the long and heavy periods. What I hate is the doctors who act like it's so strange that we have the long heavy periods when really it is very common. What did ladies do all throughout the ages? They did not have uterine biopsies, D&C, ablation, hormone replacements or any of this stuff. So what did they do? Just hysterectomy?
I think most ladies survive this and can keep their uterus. Why does the medical community treat us like we have a terrible disease and have to have all these invasive treatments? Chances of cancer are small even with the endometrial excess that comes from estrogen dominance. (This too shall pass and usually does and then becomes lack of estrogen without ever causing cancer)! So why the instant knee jerk reaction and why call it "abnormal uterine bleeding" when usually it is very normal bleeding for older ladies going thru hormone changes? I bet half of us at least could live without any of these treatments! I will see what perspective my new holistic gynecologist has (she is also a certified regular gynecologist so she CAN do the invasive stuff but holistic means she would not be quick to jump to that until examining the whole body and history of a person first and trying the LEAST invasive ways. The regular gynecologist just instantly say "cancer"! "Abnormal"! And make you feel like they've never seen a perimenopausal woman in their office before! Jeez.... so stupid. I tried 3 of them and then I said that's it. Not one of them listened to my concerns. They all had this look on their face that said "you most likely have a terminal disease. Now submit to my invasive tests and therapies or I won't help you. And by the way, I've never seen anyone who has what you have".
I was like, forget that!
Anyone else have this experience at the gyno?
Guest carlycat
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Definitely. Along with abnormal/irregular bleeding, I found this to be true with all the different symptoms. I went off long term birth control last year, then I started up with all weird symptoms. When I spoke to my dr at the time (who as all of 30 yrs old) she said there was no way coming off bcp would cause all my issues. Really? I was told I needed to be tested for MS along with 50 other tests head to toe. I spent 3 days in the hospital for heart palps, the bill came to the price of a luxury car. I went to a integrative dr, who tried to sell me on the idea that I had Lyme disease, tried to sell me all kinds of crap....even after all the blood results came back normal.
It all comes down to money. More testing equals more money. But, of course you always want to rule out the bad stuff too. Ok, my rant is over! 😂
maria_03422 carlycat
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I have 10 heads!! Im sorry for your bad experience, i had those with specialists and i was told couple times that im bored and i need to go get a life!!some if them are discusting!!!
carlycat maria_03422
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Yes that is so true. Very insensitive. In medical school they teach them to be "protocol nazis" and never treat you as an individual.