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kim74983
kim74983

how can peri make me feel this sick

it started jan 2016 but past 3 months have beem horrible. i wake up at 5am feeling so sick. i am beyond tired everyday all day ( prob cause i dont sleep much ) and my body doesnt feel good. i feel like i am slowly dying and even tho all my tests come back normal ( and i havr had a lot ) that they are missing something thats gonna kill me. my constant upset stomach/trapped air burping/ feeling unsteady when i walk is the worst one, amxiety, feel like i have ongoing flu.

please ease my mind and tell me im not alone. this seriously needs to stop. its putting me into depression

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  • she63122
    she63122 kim74983

    Posted

    Thank you for all the posts here. I’m 45 next month and I’ve been also going through all this turmoil. I developed food allergies to almost everything (gluten, dairy, nuts, etc...) and been feeling like I’m dying a slow death for the past several month. My periods have been 53 days a part (which for me is very unusual since I’ve always been regular 28-31 days). Cry at the drop of a hat, anger, anxiety, digestive issues (lost 20 pounds), fatigue, headaches... I don’t feel like me. I know it’s my hormones as I’ve had so many tests but everything looks good. There is nothing to prepare you for this sad

    I can’t take anything cause I’m allergic to most medicines.

    Bless all of you who are dealing with this. Praying God gives us supernatural grace and strength to overcome. It’s not an easy road. 

  • carlycat
    carlycat kim74983

    Posted

    I can't take meds either. Not even ibuprofen or any of that stuff. I had a tooth pulled and zero meds! Lol

    Yes we are survivors and yes it is hell. I'm on day 61 now with no period which for me is HEAVEN! I don't give a damn how bad I feel as long as I'm not bleeding. .. I guess you might have to lose the equivalent of 4 blood donations in 2 months to get to that point like I did but I'm serious. .. there is little I'm the way of symptoms that can rival severe bleeding and the subsequent serious anemia. I wouldn't wish that on the devil! Well.... I would! Lol. But it was horrible. I'm tired of chicken livers and fortified cereal and kale. I'm doing better finally. I live in fear of my stupid uterus and stupid ovaries which I have come to despise now! But. ... it's all just part of this horrible aging process that I guess the good lord didn't think out real well when He designed us! Lol

  • Guest
    Guest kim74983

    Edited

    You are not alone. For awhile I kept these horrible symptoms to myself. I thought I was secretly dying.

    Hot/Cold, upset stomach, dizzy, breast pain,joint pain,Moody,eyelids feeling heavy, gas, burping, indigestion problem.

    I got some what relief when I stumbled onto this site. I was happy that I wasn't actually dying. Oh yeah, shortness of breath. Panting like a dog. Waking out of your sleep gasping for air. The list goes on.

  • martine00689
    martine00689 kim74983

    Edited

    I have developed a strong faith but I am sad to say that now I am challenged in my faith because of how horrible I feel.  It just seems like the more I pray and try to be positive the more I question why God would make me feel so horrible to the point where I don’t even feel like doing anything but cry.  I know God has his plan for me and I am supposed to trust that but I how can I trust it now?   I have never felt this bad in my life and I have always gotten through tough times but I just don’t feel like I’m going to make it past this.  I made the mistake of eating some vegan ice cream last night, it had so much sugar in it that I felt horrible all night and still feel horrible.  Really?  I can’t even eat a little sugar now?  I ache all over, stomach feels awful, anxiety through the roof.  I just can’t take it anymore.  I want to be normal again and feel good again.  Blood tests are not showing anything, heart is fine, have never had diabetes or blood sugar problems.  Enough is enough already.   I am sick of this.
    • mary27278
      mary27278 martine00689

      Posted

      Martine...You have put everything that im feeling in words..I could have written this myself. I feel your pain and I share your tears. I know how you are feeling..As I sit here in bed so afraid to get up because of how I will feel. My body feels do weak , aches hitting me , no energy, and achy chest,, hot flashes and heart palps coming and going especially if I move. I judt dont understand how I was doung well at one point and everything just BAM hit again like from the beginning of peri.

      Yes! I understand exactly how you feel..I look at my body and it depresses me..I have lost so much weight and cant seem.to put any back on. Like you, I am so afraid to eat because of what it may do....Ive cried also out to God and asked "are you listening" I once was a person who had so much faith and prayed with others and encouraged them but now I don't know what happened to that person.

      Somehow, Martine we will get through this. We just have to draw strenght from each other.

      Im so glad that I have this forum to come to because no one in my house, family or friends understand. Just try to continue to be strong..remember God only gives the difficult assignments to the strongest people.

    • martine00689
      martine00689 mary27278

      Posted

      It’s just so unfair that some women just sail right through it.  What are they doing that we are not doing?  You def cannot ignore these symptoms so it isn’t that.  I wish I knew the secret.
    • mary27278
      mary27278 martine00689

      Posted

      Martine I have no idea why some have it much easier than others. I look at my friends, classmates , and sisters and none of them are going through any of them. Many have qyestioned is it really perimenopause because they say they have never known peri does all of that. Yes,I've questioned God so much ..it's like my life has been one thing after another. My therapist tells me that I shouldn't compare but it is so hard not too. But her symptoms aren't even close to what im experiencing. I asked my acupuncture why some women are easier than others and she commented " it's the way you live your life. It could be some truth to it..i have had a stressful life in the past..this has truely taught me a valuable lesson though.

    • mary27278
      mary27278 martine00689

      Posted

      Martine my therapist is going through peri also but her symptoms arent nothing compared to mine. That is what I meant above.
    • martine00689
      martine00689 mary27278

      Posted

      Same with my therapist, she is in her mid 6os, she runs marathons and said she really just experienced hot flashes and some fatigue.  She explained she was on HRT and when she went off it her symptoms worsened but then she started exercising and they went away.  I can’t even dream about doing that at this point.
    • lori93950
      lori93950 martine00689

      Posted

      I’m kind of jealous ! Why do some people get this so easy .. the one thing I LOVED which is running I have had to stop due to mono ... why oh why God ... making us suffer so much . 
    • she63122
      she63122 martine00689

      Posted

      Hi Martine, I know and understand. As I wrote several days ago, I’m having all the terrible symptoms too. From an enormous amount of food allergies, anxiety, dizziness, crying, anger, hot flashes, headaches, crazies... you name it! 

      Don’t let how you feel interfere with your faith. I get it... but He never gives us more than we can handle (even though He allow us to be pushed to the brink). There is a reason and a purpose higher than you. Maybe even just that it’ll help you help someone else through their peri. Let it strengthen your faith, like Job... “though He slay me, yet I’ll serve Him”. Let everything melt away, don’t think, just worship Him. He’ll give you the ability to overcome!! 

      I know, cause He got me through the worst time of depression and anxiety where I felt like I was going crazy and my life was ending...but it didn’t and I’m so much stronger and  I know who I am in Him!

    • lori93950
      lori93950 she63122

      Posted

      That’s lovely she .... I have screamed at God and cried why oh why ... I’m going through meno CFS and mono . It’s all TOO MUCH. I am literally begging him to give me some relief as I’m at the end!  

      I always believed in Gods power my power of mind and it’s always worked for me but right now I’m so disillusioned .... 😖

    • she63122
      she63122 lori93950

      Posted

      Lori, I can tell you that I totally understand. I, too, went through that. It was the hardest time in my life... I didn’t even trust myself and what I would do. But I determined in my mind that I am who GOD says I am and not who my emotions say I am. I had to stop fighting it in my mind and just say... God, I’m not even going to entertain what I’m thinking or feeling, I’m giving it directly to you! It took a lot of prayer, declaring the word (out loud) and giving it to God. (I’ll add what I used to declare over myself). I will pray for you and Marjorie. 

      I’m still dealing with A LOT but it doesn’t consume my mind - it just makes quality of life not what I want it to, but that’ll pass. 

    • she63122
      she63122 lori93950

      Edited

      • I am a child of God.

      • I am a branch of the true vine, and a conduit of Christ’s life.

      • I am a friend of Jesus.

      • I have been justified and redeemed.

      • My old self was crucified with Christ, and I am no longer a slave to sin.

      • I will not be condemned by God.

      • I have been set free from the law of sin and death.

      • As a child of God, I am a fellow heir with Christ.

      • I have been accepted by Christ.

      • I have been called to be a saint.

      • In Christ Jesus, I have wisdom, righteousness, sanctification, and redemption.

      • My body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who dwells in me.

      • I am joined to the Lord and am one spirit with Him.

      • God leads me in the triumph and knowledge of Christ.

      • The hardening of my mind has been removed in Christ.

      • I am a new creature in Christ.

      • I have become the righteousness of God in Christ.

      • I have been made one with all who are in Christ Jesus.

      • I am no longer a slave, but a child

      • I have been set free in Christ.

      • I have been blessed with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly places.

      • I am chosen, holy, and blameless before God.

      • I am redeemed and forgiven by the grace of God.

      • I have been predestined by God to obtain an inheritance.

      • I have been sealed with the Holy Spirit of promise.

      • Because of God’s mercy and love, I have been made alive with Christ.

      • I am seated in the heavenly places with Christ.

      • I am God’s workmanship created to produce good works. (Love this one especially)

      • I have been brought near to God by the blood of Christ.

      • I am a member of Christ’s body and a partaker of His promise.

      • I have boldness and confident access to God through faith in Christ.

      • My new self is righteous and holy.

      • I was formerly darkness, but now I am light in the Lord.

      • I am a citizen of heaven.

      • The peace of God guards my heart and mind.

      • God supplies all my needs.

      • I have been made complete in Christ.

      • I have been raised up with Christ.

      • My life is hidden with Christ in God.

      • Christ is my life, and I will be revealed with Him in glory.

      • I have been chosen of God, and I am holy and beloved.

      • God loves me and has chosen me

      God is always with me and I am always with Him.

      I will seek Him and I'm free 

    • debra52169
      debra52169 she63122

      Posted

      And i thought this forum was for women who suffer with menopause. Lets leave religion and politics for that type of forum.
    • she63122
      she63122 debra52169

      Edited

      Hi Debra, sometimes God is the only thing that helps get past the toughest times in life. He’s a part of everything... including menopause.

      As for politics - I’m 100% with you!

    • pam90720
      pam90720 debra52169

      Posted

      Several months ago I mentioned the same thing ( about leaving politics out of the menopause forum). You told me “to bad, stress is stress” and “that you would not reply to me again” ..  

      why the change of heart, regarding not talking about things that add to stress?

    • lori93950
      lori93950 she63122

      Posted

      Thank you She ! We tend to forget the power of God angels and spirits ! 

      I have tried to keep the faith but feeling so ill weird and depressed . The worst time in my life .  I will read this over and over today .

      Blesssings to you ! 

    • mary27278
      mary27278 she63122

      Posted

      Hi She63122 I just got back from church and so happen the message was about Job. No..i wouldn t say it so happened but it was all God's plan. I was asking God why the other day? There is always a purpose for our suffering even if it means to bring us closer to Christ. It was a message that came right on time.

      You are so right, there is no way in this world that I could have made it this far through menopause without God. No way that my strength along is taking me through this..it has to be a higher power thats helping me. Thank you for posting that beautiful confirmation prayer . He speaks in mysterious ways..we have to yield to his voice.?

    • carlycat
      carlycat mary27278

      Posted

      Mary, I had the same thing, where I would barely eat from fear of reactions to food. What I did was eat alot of high fat/low sugar foods like croissants and cakes with little sugar. This helped me keep weight on. I still get scared of some foods but I force myself to eat them at least a little. I know how hard it is. Fortified cereal is the best! I get the plain bran flakes from walmart which gives you 100% daily amount of many nutrients! And I get fortified corn flakes which I snack on all day long. I've actually gained 6 pounds in the last few months from 112 lbs. Trying to rest alot and stay calm really helps! Not easy I know!

    • debra52169
      debra52169 she63122

      Posted

      Yes God is a part of everything. Believe me. I wouldn't have made it to know what menapause is like without him. God has always been my Father. And his son, Jesus is my main man. The only man i have ever been able to count on. 24/7.

      Awhile back i mentioned the stress of politics. PTSD.

      President Trump Stress Disorder.

      Pam quickly informed me that this forum is about menopause. Not politics. Well religion and politics go together.

      God does not cause me stress like having a lying criminal sitting in the White House does.

      My point Pam. It was about stressors in life.

      You shot me down in a rude manner. My stress didn't matter.

    • mary27278
      mary27278 carlycat

      Posted

      Carlycat it has been so hard for me to eat because my nauturopath is treating me for candida and parasites and when I eat sugar the candida / peri cause hot flash, heart palps or some kind of discomfort. If it doesn't feed the candida then it feeds the parasites..so i feel just doomed. Did you lose weight from peri? Because most people gain weight.

    • she63122
      she63122 carlycat

      Posted

      Wow! I appreciate you sharing this about weight loss. I lost 18 pounds and I’m scared to eat a lot of things... I react to gluten, dairy, corn, nuts, tofu, some fruits & I’ve been vegetarian for 25+ years so my diet has become potatoes, rice, beans and vegetables. 

      My husband thinks I’ll be better after all these hormones settle down, but how will we know? I don’t want to attempt it and have an allergic reaction. So crazy. Oh well... I’m thankful for you ladies sharing ??

    • sherricl
      sherricl she63122

      Posted

      I love this and its so true! God loves each of us. I know that we are facing awful symptoms but maybe the plan is to help others in the same boat. Maybe it is a way for us to take care of our bodies, Gods temple.

      thank you she63122

    • shelley85069
      shelley85069 martine00689

      Posted

      i hope you have found some relief since this post! i feel all of the above today, its awful!

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