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kim74983
kim74983

how can peri make me feel this sick

it started jan 2016 but past 3 months have beem horrible. i wake up at 5am feeling so sick. i am beyond tired everyday all day ( prob cause i dont sleep much ) and my body doesnt feel good. i feel like i am slowly dying and even tho all my tests come back normal ( and i havr had a lot ) that they are missing something thats gonna kill me. my constant upset stomach/trapped air burping/ feeling unsteady when i walk is the worst one, amxiety, feel like i have ongoing flu.

please ease my mind and tell me im not alone. this seriously needs to stop. its putting me into depression

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  • 2chr2015
    2chr2015 kim74983

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    Hey Kim. I'm sorry you are going through this difficult time. You are definitely not alone. Even though my husband is awesome, he can't possibly understand how I feel. So this forum and the ladies on here have been a God send. All of my symptoms started about one year ago. Last month was the first month I actually was late for my period (12 days). I used to exercise on a regular basis, but not so much now...just walk. The only things that help are being on here and I just keep telling myself that this is all hormones and i pray. Take it one day at a time. I watch a lot of old tv shows and avoid any depressing media. I will keep you in my prayers. Please don't hesitate to get on here and vent whenever you need too. I feel like I'm always on here whining about one thing or another. These ladies are great

    • debra52169
      debra52169 2chr2015

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      It really is nice to know that I'm not crazy or alone. I can't believe how much women go through.

      Just started taking a new vitamin supplement. So anxious to see if it works.

  • brenda43955
    brenda43955 kim74983

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    I'm 43 and all the same symptoms you have I have as well. They all started toward the end of last year and have just progressed and worsen each month. Started with vaginal dryness, major hot flashes when i was getting dressed in the morning, extreme fatigue to where I couldn't workout. My ears started hurting, teeth and migraines, now my periods are all over the place. I am super tired when I get up. Mornings are the worst I have anxiety until mid morning with heart palpitations and lightheaded. I feel fluish all the time. I have seen every doctor from neuro to cardiologist and have had blood work, biopsy because of the period issues. EVERYONE says I am totaly normal. HUH? I certainly don't feel normal. According to everyone on this blog however, this is normal.  I haven't worked out in a year and I use to be able to run 12 miles and not feel crapy. I can run down the hall way after the dog without getting an anxiety attack and feel like I'm going to drop dead.

    • monique_93857
      monique_93857 brenda43955

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      Brenda i have a question when you feel off balance does your body feel really hot mainly in your back and you feel like when you stand your going to toply over ? Thats one of the worst feelings and if your out and about afraid your going to pass out while driving or talking to someone its a scary feeling and the heat you feel is awful this is one of my symptoms that has been lingering around i think this one is toe to toe with the health anxiety grrrrrrr
    • pam90720
      pam90720 brenda43955

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      Hi Brenda! Wow! Sounds like I wrote this post instead of you..: you described me perfectly... I'm in post menopause though... I told my doctor a year ago to check me for menopause and how fatigued I was... she told me she would Check my thyroid which came back normal... she offered no other help.. she said she was on hrt, but gave her breast cancer.... but, she told my mom that stress caused her breast cancer😔    I am changing doctors but I have such bad white coat syndrome it makes me panic just thinking about it... sometimes I do feel hopeless 💔

    • ava041474
      ava041474 brenda43955

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      Hi brenda43955

      I have been going through the same things and I just turned 44. My irregular periods started at 38 nut it wasn't until July2017 when I started with anxiety, insomnia, palpitations, dizziness, headaches, earaches, joint pain muscle aches and just feeling like I was losing it. It's very scary. I have been to Dr after doctor just trying to make sure that it's perimenopaus. I have tried different meds to help x anax, trazadone, lexapro which all made me feel worse. i was going to the gym nut that made the anxiety worse.. I did stop going for the moment and cut oit the caffeine and just teyinf to watch my diet and stay away from to much sugar and carbs. All of my test are normal besides my fsh that indicates borderline high. I have been without a period for four months. I just went to see a endocrinologist for closure. it's rough. I feel crazy!!!!! Right now I can't sleep up researching info. . i never imagined going through at 43. it really make u feel like your life is over. I've been trying to search methods to cope. So far the anxiety has been a little better because I found myself at the ER every week. I drink a glass of warm milk to help me fall off to sleep didn't believe it would work but tried and hooked. promise oil is good to take also. I will continue to read the experiences on this forum to help find a way to cope. His bless all of you ladies I pray for u and please pray for me.

    • shawna28048
      shawna28048 ava041474

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      Hi Ava

      I just joined this forum and I see that I’m not alone even though it does feel that way in my mind. I went to the ER a few days ago bcuz I thought I was having a heart attack. I am on the Depo shot so I do not have issues with the periods but the anxiety and nausea and hot flashes make me feel like I’m going crazy. I’ve been off work for 4 days now and I just want some relief and to be normal again.

    • phyl33647
      phyl33647 ava041474

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      OMG! I’m going through the same! I had my LMP in July 2017, was in the ER 4x, had all tests including CT scans of lungs, internal organs, and everything was normal! But here I am, still feeling unwell, with my shoulders already hurting for being tensed all the time. Every night before I go to sleep, I plead to God to give me at least 30 more years, because really, I feel like I’m dying. It’s very frustrating!
    • tinapas
      tinapas ava041474

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      Hi Brenda, I am basically going through the same thing as you I feel like I am at the end of the rope can’t take it anymore. Been to so many doctors and nothing wrong , my family thinks I’m nuts but they don’t know how I feel every day all these symptoms that come and go and stay. I have the unusual symptoms like dry mouth, burning of my tongue, heart palpitations, vertigo, muscle aches, inflammation down my throat which made it hard to swallow my food, allergies, very irritated skin which is very day my hair ,I can’t even explain what happens with that it’s thinning, breaking and very very dry which is driving me crazy because I look like a mess and I am a perfectionist when it comes to things like that. So I pray everyday that I could get through the day it’s been so far lasting 4 years now on top of all this I quit my job couldn’t do it anymore. I just wish somebody could help me?
    • Kazjo
      Kazjo tinapas

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      Hi Tinapas,

      I was googling menopause relief and found this forum. I'm 53. About 6 years ago, I started getting dry, burning mouth and tongue. Sill have it! I have to use special toothpaste (Nature's Gate, I get it on amazon or at Whole Foods) because commercial toothpaste makes the burning unbearable. I did not realize it may be a symptom of menopause, but I believe now that it is. My last period was January 2017 so I've been one full year without it and last March hot flashes started. They came and went, and were tolerable. This March, however, they started back with a vengeance - like 10 times worse!! I've had several a day, every day for almost 2 months and I'm starting to want to give up on life. It's like I've stepped into a microwave oven. I sweat and sometimes my hands get prickly and my heart palps.  And now I have night sweats. And, HAHA - like a cosmic joke - I live in Florida and summer's coming. I'm extremely uncomfortable in my own skin and don't know how long I can put up with this. I'm researching acupuncture for menopause. Please google it in your area and see if that is something for you. May I also suggest you use a good natural carrier oil (jojoba or grapeseed, etc) after every shower to hydrate your dry skin, drink lots of water and use a hair mask every week (I use Hask from Target - cheap and so good!) to keep your hair soft. Keep a good mani/pedi and wear your favorite lipstick, LOL! It's the little things we can control that will help get us through this horrible time. Good luck and know that you are not alone. 

    • tinapas
      tinapas Kazjo

      Posted

      Thank you so much for giving me advice because everyday is getting harder and harder. I have been going through this for at least 4 years and everyday with these symptoms , I really think it’s takimg a toll  on my family. I will try that toothpaste you suggested for burning mouth. And for My hair I will try to do what you told me to do and hopefully it will help me. It’s weird because if you read a lot of what woman are saying about their symptoms , they never say about burning mouth syndrome. That really drives me crazy. But it was very nice to talk to you and hope you feel better.
    • Kazjo
      Kazjo tinapas

      Posted

      Tinapas, Keep in touch with me and let me know how it's going... 

    • rhonda91793
      rhonda91793 phyl33647

      Posted

      I will be 50 in September. I am tired, tired, tired.  I am so familiar with those prayers. I pray God lets me live a little while longer all the time. It does feel like I'm slowly dying. I swear this is the scariest thing I've been through. And I have been through a lot! I have osteogenesis imperfecta (Brittle bones) so my unsteadiness is causing me to have to use my wheelchair more than I have in years. I just can't risk falling and breaking a bone. I feel so defeated right now. I've started natural progesterone cream. This is my second day. Hopefully it will help. I'm glad I found you ladies!

    • eleonora0422
      eleonora0422 rhonda91793

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      I hope u slowly get better. I know where your coming from. Every day is an effort
    • mauiblue
      mauiblue rhonda91793

      Posted

      Hi Rhonda

      Just reaching out i get it, i understand. I also feel defeated, scrambled, misunderstood, and yes like im dying and can not help myself or figure out whats going on.

      ive tried hrt, and its not a fit for me. I wish i really knew more about hrt because it seems to me that

      our hormones fluctuate all the time, so how can one know what is balanced? there is no number, and its always changing and different for each person so ...

      Yes its scary for me too, for many of us, 

      Im here and wanted you to know you are supported. 

      xoxo

    • lori93950
      lori93950 rhonda91793

      Posted

      I’m so sorry you’re going through that ! I was so mad at God felt like smashing the whole house up ! How can he put us through this ? 

      I realize now that I’ve never really been depressed maybe a bit down sometimes but boy this is TOUGH ! And I am super tough . 

      I do everything right ... eat very very healthy 

      Workout and still terrible .

      I do take medical marijuana at night the chocolate edibles and it knocks me out but the progesterone should help you sleep . 

      You can’t just live your life waiting to go to bed however I mean 50 ? Is not old how do celebrities cope ? I can barely get out of bed at noon ! 

    • LCat
      LCat eleonora0422

      Posted

      Hi Eleanora,

      Did you at all have any better days or any hope that you’re sliwly coming out of this nightmare ?

    • salzzone
      salzzone monique_93857

      Posted

      Hi monique

      I sometimes feel faint when driving and have had to pull over, it’s extremely frightening. I passed out completely one night at home and wake in the night feeling faint, I understand that this could be due to low blood pressure and I think that the fluctuating hormones effects balance. I am struggling to cope with this and ge scared when I have to drive. When I feel the lightheadedness start I try to focus on something and practice calming technics such as turn the radio up or sing. The rest I can cope with, but this scares me so much. 

      Wishing all the best

       

    • lori93950
      lori93950 salzzone

      Posted

      I totally sympathize with you as that happened to me twice in the past year in the middle of the night . I think it’s dehydration as I had been drinking but that’s never happened to me before . Now I drink loads of water before bed .

      Just remember you can’t pass out sitting down .... I get dizzy and panicky when driving too and it’s restricted me but now if I’m feeling wobbly I just sit wherever I am . I was sat on the floor of the pharmacy waiting for my HRT prescription do not know how I made it there but was determined to get it! 

      So just sit down compose yourself that’s worked for me so far but yes ! It’s very scary . 

    • LCat
      LCat lori93950

      Posted

      I’m sooo surprised that this can and did happen to you as well !! I had this happen to me years ago .... out of the blue.  It wasn’t dangerous as I was just feeling like passing out ... I was able to drive to a car park and I had to lie down for 45 minutes.  Luckily I was early.   I was on the way up North UK for an interview ... a 5 hours drive.... I was 100% sure I wouldn’t get the job as I felt so horrible.   I have no idea how I managed the interview but strangely I got the job.  My future boss strangely didn’t notice that anything was wrong with me.   
    • maria_03422
      maria_03422 tinapas

      Posted

      Hi!!

      I was reading your comments so similar to mine and its been a while, i was wondering if you are feeling better?

    • maria_03422
      maria_03422 Kazjo

      Posted

      I know what you mean, im in Florida and its tough going through this hell☺
    • francella02633
      francella02633 tinapas

      Posted

      Hello I deal with all of the symptoms that you're faced with on a daily basis. It comes and goes everyday is a new day some days are good some days and not so good but I push myself to get through it. I feel like I'm alone because all my children here cannot relate to what I am going through in this chapter of my life. You're totally not alone I hope you feel better soon.

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