I'm so scared with my anxiety and depression I just need help 😞

Hi glad you saw doctor, side affects are horrible , doctors usually tell you to ride it out and push through these horrible feelings as these meds can take couple of weeks or so to start working properly then you see the benefits. This is reasuring but then when we're on our own with pretty scary side affects we wonder if we should just stop them, think I would give them bit longer, if still not happy discuss your concerns with doc again( I know it's torment just wanting to get correct meds, waiting to see if they start working) l always want an overnight cure or I start getting anxious. Hope u get other replies on people's opinions on what to do and how long it took for correct meds to kick in, hopefully feel better soon and you can start pushing yourself alongside meds, you'll have a more positive outlook when you don't feel as anxious, keep talking, hope start feeling better, ??

Hi just replied to belay on here. She is exactly the same as you . On day nine of sertilene , racked with worry and nagative thoughts. Worrying how long they will take to work, hope this helps knowing people having axactly same side effects and worry, your not alone, know this feels awful, hope it passes soon❤️

Meant to say ( just replied to Bekah) sorry keep doing this😳??

I want it to pass soon as hours seem like days, days seem like weeks. I just want to be me again. Just doing odd jobs round the house is hard. Just would like the reassurance that it will get better

Hi l know that feeling so well when you just can't settle because you are so worried this won't get better. I wouldn't believe anybody when they said it would. I thought I was worse than anyone else and I wouldn't get through it. I can look back now , it does pass, the obsessive worry and anxiety we have just makes it worse. . You need to keep busy, talk, any dvd's you can watch( know your mind tends to want to drift back to worrying . Believe me I've been there ,I'd go as far as to say I was terrified I'd never feel normal again. You will??

How long did it take you and what was you on? Any hints and tips?

I broke down at doctors after years of hiding the fact I was even struggling to get out of house, the racing thoughts never letting up was the worst at that point and the fact I would worry, my heart would race, I would shake, I felt I was the only one like this . Doc saiid it was anxiety( probably also social anxiety) started me on small amount of diazapam to calm me enough to push myself to do stuff, and calm racing thoughts. Doc is very good and watches I never get too many meds so I rely on them( that would be another nightmare). Was referred for cbt,and group therapy, I preferred talking to people who understood this feeling(people who know what it feels like) it really helps, don't feel as alone or scared. Mum pushed me to do stuff , I'd got so used to avoiding things incase I got anxious. Now i hardly take any meds, just if say going out and know I minght get bit anxious ( like on social occasions or if I have had a really bad few days of worry( head racing , minght need to calm a little.) I understand anxiety a bit more now, know it won't kill me , just awful, understand it can flair up even if I'm feeling relatively ok. Try to beat it now and if my heads telling me I'm too anxious to do something I try and do it. I will never get used to the racing thoughts and horrible panicy feeling I can get but at least now I know how bad it can be, that I'm not crazy, I'm not alone??

P.s as for how long did it take if you mean side effects u are experiencing now along with anxiety. I tried a couple of other anxiety meds, one had horrid side effects made anxiety seem worse, like you wanted reasurance to persevere with them, took about fortnight to kick in then got better. ❤️

Thank you for that it has helped and put my mind at ease a bit. It's that feeling of being really scared when them thoughts come or a attack comes. And all that comes to my head is "why me".

Great you feel a little reasured. People used to say thugs like' time is a great heeler ' and just take it one day at a time'. I used to think yes but that doesn't help me feeling this awful. Looking back it's true though. Stick in there, ??

How did you get through like going back to work and getting back out there as I'm worried that I'll struggle at that or will I no when I'll be ready when the tablets start kicking in?

I'm lucky I can work from home. But as mds kicked in and I began to feel better in myself it was sujested I did some voluntary work as I was still nervous around people and worried I wasn't pushing myself enough, mum helped me where she worked and gradually got more confident. Don't get me wrong I could still have really anxious days were I felt like saying I can't go in today, that is when I would take a small amount of meds( calm down a little) and go for it, it's the only way. Once I was actually out I was fine and actually took my mind of my head going round and round. It's the actual obsessive thinking ahead all the time that made my anxiety worse. I would still be anxious and maybe shake a little, but it's adrenaline and deep breaths and I would calm down. Takes a while but you will know when you are feeling a bit more positive, then please push yourself, you can do it, I thought I'd never function properly in the real world again. Now i go days without meds , I even get complimented, and told how well I come across, even when I feel like saying ' wow you wouldn't believe the effort that I have to put in. But it's nice not to live in my own head anymore hiding away anxious and depressed, this will all come but for now get through this then work on your confidence, you may still have anxiety but you can learn to live with it. All the people out here are great examples😊??

Hi Edwina,

i have read your posting and agree with everything you say.  Unfortunately as i said i dont seem able ro tolerate these meds and i even get nervy having to fo to see cbt therapist who is very nice. I am just getting by with the diazepam which caan be some days none, some days half of one, others a whole one.  When i have dr appt or anything likemthat i need them.  I have made an achievement this week,a first for me formthree years. Gone three hourss in car to family party and coped. Have only seen them if they came to us.   One swallow doesnt make a summer so still having to work on it.

i think we are all similar on this site, trying tomhelp each other, give a bit of confidence etc.  We all know it will come in time, but its the waiting which is so hard.  I think we need to give ourselves a pat on the back when or if we achieve anything.  ITs so hard trying to get through all of this energy sapping, anxious thinking, depression.  I dont think anyone really knows what its like till they have experienced it.  Hope today proves a decent one for you all and better times are coming.

Thanks Ann. Glad you go through family event. Like you that is when I would take small amount of med, then push on, but find over time you do take less and less and learn you can push yourself to do stuff and generally I feel good ( as if I've achieved something on my own. Still have some days when I'm more anxious than others but know will pass. Agree with you, when your in the midst of it( like your med worries at moment it feels awful), does get better, just so horrible at time so we don't believe it. We will get there, so glad people talk here too. It's such a lonely illness until we reach out. ( like the' one swallow doesn't make a summer) never heard that before. Soon you'll have more good days than bad. Talk anytime??

Today i feel really agitated and depressed and i know we get ups and downs but i feel im not winning this battle. IS this all anxiety related do you think, or is the anxiety a depression by product.  I just need something to help me feel better.  Will try to get out and see a friend if i can.