Is this herpes?

Struggling to find a specialist in the UK

You don't need a specialist. GUM clinic should suffice or a good GP. Main thing is whether they can do the tests you want. Sometimes private is better in that regard. Don't need a specialist to administer a test, though.

I seen the GUM clinic but they didn't examine me until the symptoms had started to die down a little, however I was examined last week but the burning has subsided and it tends now to be itching, they seen no evidence or rash lesions etc, it really is quite random, itching tingling sensations without any rash or lesions showing, I am booked in to see a genital skin specialist in two weeks but the nurse said she really isn't sure he'll find anything as there is no redness rash or anything, again why it leads to herpes as that doesn't show rashes but causing itching from what I've read

A number of people on here think they have herpes due to tingling and itching, but many never test positive or have questionable results, so it can (and probably is) due to other causes. Even some people with sores tested negative, because it turns out it was due to staph et al. Not everything is herpes.

I know and thanks for the reassurance, it's just symptoms keep happening and i research them for example the buttock skin burning/pain and this is a symptom of herpes, and with it coming on after sexual activity with a new partner it really does stress you out. I will get a 12 week test and go from there, fingers crossed, I will post back in, thanks for your help! 

I use tea tree oil really helpful even for ezcema and poison ivy

Just with regards to symptoms, if I had flu like symptoms, then a week later had itching then roughly two weeks later got burning lips, is this common for Herpes? Or would you expect these symptoms too come on at once rather than on stages?

If an outbreak, you'd expect them to come together or back to back within a week, followed by the appearance of one or more lesions. Definitely not spread out like that. Prodrome only lasts up to a day or two before lesions.

So yours were staged as opposed to all coming at once? 

I wrote this on another forum and they said it would be unlikely for it to come weeks after one another, so much conflicting info!

Yea to be honesty I don't remember having the itch until recently just the tingle and chaffy feeling 

How long did you have the itch and tingle problems? Are they constant? I've had mine for 2 1/2 months 

No usually a few days to a week unless I'm stressing then it can last like 2weeks 

Hmm this is what I'm finding strange with it being present for so long, it does come and go but never quite went away and it's been 2 months 1/2 months since it started, I could be having recurrent outbreaks or something I'm not sure, really puzzled, then the burning pain in the buttocks is another symptom of a recurrent outbreak supposedly 

Also do you get lesions? I haven't developed any as far as I'm aware

I don't have lesions. Bug bit looking bumps 1 near my thigh and 2 in my butt cheeks that tend to get chaffy feeling I'm assuming from wiping. I've def had one that felt like it was months it went on for but mine are never really constant 1 day I'll feel itchy as hell like I wanna scratch my thing off then the next day nothing then 2days later itch again. I should count my days but I don't I find it kind of depressing. I actually try to ignore it. Mind over matter kinda thing. 

So you've actually been diagnosed? Which type if you don't mind me asking?  

Does your itching tend to be in the area where the bug bites are? I tend to have random itching but no sign of bumps, lesions, cuts it's strange. I try not to think about it, I'm similar in that the itch some days is very irritating then a couple days not too bad but then flairs up again, it's been going on for weeks though which I find strange as everyone says it shouldn't. 

Also, you get these spot in both places? I thought it was uncommon for it to affect multiple parts of the genitals? Still learning 

My vaginal lips itch more than anywhere else sometimes I want to scratch it off but I think I need to eat some garlic cloves they help me a lot and this lemon balm salve I got takes a lil while to kick in but when it does it feels great  the 2 in between my cheeks itch a lil not like my lips tho the one on my thigh I can ignore the feeling all together. I have hsv2! 

Ok thanks for the info.

I've convinced myself I've got it as all signs are pointing that way, I'll have to wait for the blood test results this week, feeling really depressed right now can't take my mind of it and the stupid night when this happened 

Stress makes it worse so as hard as it is to do because I know just try to relax. Aroma therapy a good book to loose yourself in. I hope for your sake just a skin infection or yeast infection gone wild. If it's not tho plenty of us here to talk too. You might be fine tho. Before I had herpes. Certain panties irritated my privates and pads anything with fragrance and panties chaffed me I have a nice size butt so they ride in the friction caused irratation I had chronic yeast infections at a point and always been prone to ingrown hairs so I try to avoid shaving just trim that's why it was hard to get diagnosed. So doesn't have to be herpes some or our 😺 are just sensitive. 

Yeah thanks for the help, it's hard not to stress when being faced with this, I feel like my life could be over after a silly night but I'll have to wait and see.

It's just strange that it's occurred after sex with a new partner, which is why it's got to being a disease like herpes as opposed to anything else as there isn't really any sign of a yeast infection, I haven't changed clothing or washing powder so that rules that out, it seems to go away when playing sport when my minds not on it which I've seen someone diagnosed before said the same. it's a waiting game and a horrible one at that. 

How's your life in general living with it? You have a relationship? 

Nice and normal. No relationship not due to the herpes tho. 1 and 6 ppl have it so you plenty of ppl in the dating pool if you want to stick with someone that has it. Herpes dating sites. Also a lot of guys that aren't afraid of herpes. One girl on here got married and has kids after being diagnosed. Life isn't over because of the disease it will change but not over. 

My life is fine! Not dating nothing to do with having herpes tho. Although I don't think you have herpes a lot of ppl carry herpes. Life isn't over due to having it. Some guys are very accepting of it. You can still get married and have kids.

That's good to hear happy it is! 

It will just make it very difficult to build a relationship, and I'd be worried about passing it on when trying for kids, I wouldn't want to infect anyone else.