Menopause! Fatigue, crying, aching, nauseous, headaches
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Sitting here crying...... again! Feeling awful. Woke up this morning feeling nauseous and aching legs. Went for a run on Monday. Still recovering. Had hoped to go again yesterday but felt awful. Tired all the time. Anxious about everything. Putting on weight but can't stop eating. Had various tests - all ok, including colonoscopy and mammogram. Worried myself silly in the run up to Christmas ..... Virtually read myself the last rights. Have no confidence. Awful temper. Nagging....... Sick of hearing myself rant on to my 12 year old son. What will help. I've read about B6, is B-50 worth a try (Holland and Barrett)?
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Guest lesley26791
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I knee this post is old so I am HOPING someone has an update to bring me some type of comfort! I am 31 and have been given lupron to induce menopause due to severe endometriosis pain. I also have a decent size cyst on my right ovary (3.1 cm) and a few small fibroids. I was sobbing in pain to my doctor who said this medicine would help me feel better. I can say my localized pain is much less intense but still there. But this medicine induced menopause has me feeling like caca every day! I ache terribly all over. I barely sleep. My migraines are worse. My back hurts. My hip hurts. And I still must take Norco to be able to sleep at all thru the pain. My question is.... does it EVER go away?? Or have I just traded one (allbeit extreme) pain for many lesser pains for the rest is my life?? Someone please tell me this eventually gets better because I'm so young... I can't handle this until I'm 80, 90, 100 whatever. My doc warned about got flashes which I get several times a day. My friend warned about breast pain, yep feels like I'm pregnant again. But no one told me I would feel like I have the flu every day. Anyone please tell me there is hope for being pain free??
melissa63150 lesley26791
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katie96233 lesley26791
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Hi.. new to forum..
So identify with everything you have said and most of the women on here..
I have had so many blood tests X-rays and any other test possible as I was convinced I had some undetected fatal illness.. all comes back normal..
Have definitely seen a pattern in my symptoms seems to be after my period.. sleep for 8 hours but wake up tired.. aching legs and back.. really low mood.. shivers and sometimes wanna eat and other times feel sick also sore throat..
Reading your posts on this forum really helps as I feel nobody else gets it.. frustrating that there is not enough help out there and pretty sure everyone just thinks I'm a hypochondriac..
Stay in touch as going to see my dr and tell her what's wrong with me and what there is She can do to help this bloody nightmare..
Jillybean67 lesley26791
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Knowledge is power... it comes through sharing and willingness to be open and honest ... our testimonies can bring freedom to the one who feels chained, healing to the broken, understanding to the one who is at a loss, and hope to the one who has lost all hope. These feelings were all consuming to me as I began peri.. I became someone I didn't know. Never had a day of depression, always full of life and energy, very rarely sick, always helping and supporting others. Then life fell apart and became a mess. I had no clue what was happening to me or why. I became a recluse, barely had the energy to get through a basic day of work and home chores, lost joy in doing all the things I once loved such as being around people, running, lifting weights, etc etc. I put on 30 lbs over 2 years the whole time beating myself up that I couldn't get a grip... I am stronger than this always able to overcome adversities include bouncing back from a divorce after 22 years marriage, loss of my father who was the love of my life.. if I could make it thru these terrible things then what was wrong with me now that I couldn't pull myself together! It was like I was fighting a ghost. I had all the symptoms you ladies have discussed....nothing short of what I would call debilitating.... thought I was losing my marbles and would end up nuts. All because of this thing called menopause. It wasn't until I was so desperate to figure out what the h!z.# was wrong with me that I turned to google and started the journey of searching out some possible answers, knowledge, peace of mind if I could just pinpoint the cause and could quit battling the "unknown" ....how to you fight an unknown force that plays with your mind and body leaving you feel hopeless? If you know what you are battling, that is half the battle ! Thanks to all the discussions I've read on these types of forums I have lightened up on myself, listening to my body if it needs rest, I sleep... not feeling guilty about that jog I can't do because I ache too much. Knowing that if I can't think straight one day at work, it's menopause not me... no longer feeling inadequate to perform my job and throwing in the towel feeling like I should just quit because I can't handle it anymore, or bad day here and there is allowed with menopause. I now find myself still feeling all those symptoms but handling myself much differently understanding what my poor body is going thru. I will say that eating healthier, especially no sugar, soft drinks, or chocolate helps a great deal. Going for walks instead of pounding the pavement makes me feel refreshed and still gives me a bit of that endorphin rush. Lots of rest, and giving myself a lot of grace and forgiveness on those rwally bad days. Soft music to relax me when I am feeling stressed. Taking a deep breath and exhaling slowly. Closing my eyes and creating a journey through the Forrest in my mind (super fun visualizing whatever your journey might be kind of like a child with a crayon and a blank piece of paper). I do take a light dose of zoloft prescribed by my doctor and good vitamins. All helps. But the most important thing that I learned about this is knowing and understanding what my body is going through and why,,,, that while I don't like the way I feel, as long as I know that I will hurt, or have anxiety, etc., I now know why and do the best I can to find ways to relieve the symptoms when they come. Thank you to everyone so willing to share their experiences. It is through your stories that I have found inner peace and healing just from gaining the knowledge that this IS menopause, and we can beat it even though we must all walk through it - together
michelle50768 Jillybean67
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AMEN and AMEN you have summed it up in a nutshell
Ten years peri 13 months without a period
Had to have half my thyroid out last week more he'll
Then day after surgery APERIOD!!!
I've been to hell and back this last ten years now having to wait for thyroid biopsy results and to see if I need meds
If I wasn't a praying woman and came here to listen to you all I really don't know where I would be right now
God bless you x
chris03884 Jillybean67
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Thank you for sharing. Like many of us in the throes of perimenopause wondering how we will feel each day, it's good to know we're not loosing our minds. There are days where pushing a broom around is hard on my feet and hands. Then other days where I could go on, all day feeling like a 30 year old. I'm hoping when all these fluctuations end, I'll feel normal again everyday.
Does anyone get strange intestinal cramping and loose stools the first week of their period? I think it's due to the prostiglandands, schlepping off uterine cells and they jumped to the intestines.
Thanks to all that are helping us understand this crazy phase in our lives.
Wannabenormal Jillybean67
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What a blessed relief to stumble upon you guys. Thank you SO much for posting your experiences. I have similar experience to most of you, been in peri menopause for around 7 years now. Some years ago I asked my GP if my (numerous) symptoms could be peri and he said no. I was too young. I was around 41 then.
I went to see a gynaecologist who said that it was highly likely that I was in peri, that I had Adenomyosis too and that it'd be best to wait for menopause than have surgery....I'm now almost 49.
The last sat few months symptoms have worsened and new symptoms have developed, like hot flushes and random (strong) mood swings. Also random anxiety. Nausea has been relentless and severe, bloating severe. Weight increase around hips and thighs. Two missed periods. Could this increase (seemingly, turning up the volume of peri) be a sign that I'm almost beginning menopause?
I've felt so ill lately and not myself. I've thought I was going a bit mad. I've wondered if I'm dying (really, I felt so bad). Naturally, my mood has been affected at times, especially when in pain with zero energy.
It makes a huge difference to know that I'm not alone. I can relate so much to what you have all experienced. It helps.
I find it shocking that so many women are left to suffer like this. It affects quality of life and is debilitating at times. It's like an invisible illness.
Thanks to each and every one of you. Thank you.
Stay strong, this is tough.
melanie01552 Wannabenormal
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Shana_rifka melanie01552
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Hi Melanie, I would suggest going to an endocrinologist next which I will be doing if things don't change soon. The glands in the body release hormones and endocrinologists diagnose diseases related to the glands. These docs treat hormone imbalances in the glands. I'd try anything. Good luck to you and keep us posted.
melanie01552 Shana_rifka
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irene79173 lesley26791
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Feeling really rough today. Ache all over, feel sick and have no energy just want to feel normal again. Haven't had a period in 8 years but over the last few months have noticed that every 4 weeks I feel a lot worse, I suffer with arthritis and during these times I'm in so much pain and can hardly move. I have flu like symptoms. It's really affecting me in work. Anyone else feel like this and if so any tips on how to cope with it all😢😔
wilma67676 irene79173
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I feel you ..I have been going through this for a long time I can't get no help .I can't wait till its over with .I stop having mynpetiod at age w5 because I had a infection that most women ha bcc e except mine went to at age r which was heading too cancer so everything got took out ...so I understand how you feel when will I ever feel normal .What is normal again I just want to feel not tried legs stop hurting pain go away ...
wilma67676 lesley26791
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Hi I'm 58 I had a hysterectomy at age 24 .They left my overies.And later they was gone .But now I've been suffering with very bad hot flashes night and day .I'm on HRT and its not working now I'm suffering with figti..
I stay very tried I'm also raising r grandsons and get very irrable with them and they don't understand .can you help with any suggestion on my legs I can't stand to be so tried .Tjhis has been going on since I was 28 hot flashes ,nite sweats all for all these yrs has not stop .
Shana_rifka wilma67676
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Hopefully Wilma your getting some exercise, getting sleep and eating healthy. I'm assuming your very very busy and tired bringing up your grand kids. I'm in the exercise industry and these things alone can absolutely make a difference. Good luck.
tracy19564 lesley26791
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I'm so happy to have found this sight. I am 50 and so depressed, have migranes, haven't slept in months, night sweats than feeezing, gaining wait without even eating much, cant concentrate, just miserable. I can't stop crying and am embarrassed at my emotions and how out of control they are
I had an endometrial ablation due to extreme heavy periods which caused anemia. That went well and I no longer get my period.
My gynecologist gave me a prescription for very low dose zoloft which after one day stopped taking because of severe side effects. Additionally I have heartburn continually with stomach bloat and gas pains.
I feel like I'm suffering daily with all of this. I just don't know what else to do. My gyno claims it's just menopause. No kidding? I just want something to help me live my normal life again.
chris03884 tracy19564
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Have you tried digestive enzymes? I have been taking them for several years, forgot to take them for about a month and was having really bad indigestion. Low and behold the indigestion stopped after 2 days on the enzymes. I also take probiotics, which helps.
Sometimes progesterone cream will help with the depression and anxiety. I get stressed from teenagers.....my Dr wanted to give me Paxil for it, but I am trying to work with the progesterone. I am in the unchartered territory of skipping periods and haven't made it to the other side.
tracy19564 chris03884
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Hi Chris, thank you for the advise. While I do take probiotics, I have not tried digestive enzymes. Is there a specific brand you use? Additionally I have not tried the cream you spoke of. I will try anything at this point. It's like suffering daily. Sick and tired of feeling sick and tired lol.
Shana_rifka chris03884
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I've also tried probiotics years ago but nothing!! My IBS is being affected big time by hormones. What kind of digestive enzyme are you using?
chris03884 tracy19564
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Tracy, I have been ordering a brand from Premier Research Labs on Amazon. It's called Premier Digestive. The progesterone cream is a compounded cream that is prescription form. Most insurance companies do not cover the cost. You can also buy progesterone cream in health food stores. Do a google search on progesterone cream. There's a lot of information available on it. I have used it off and on for years. Sometimes it helps, sometimes it doesn't. This hormone roller coaster is a wild ride
chris03884 Shana_rifka
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tracy19564 chris03884
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Shana_rifka chris03884
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Would not mess with hormone cream on my own. Need to work with doc. Bioidenticals not synthetics should be used. Compound pharmacies only. Need to be monitored cause too much can affect your cycle. It needs monitoring also cause every women needs different combos progesterone and estrogen. My doc upped my progesterone and I'm doing better but spotting ( haven't had a period for 5 years) so he'll be re evaluating next week and adjust again. Thanks for the name of digestive enzyme. Will look it up and give it a try.