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debbie39903
debbie39903

My 83 year old mum had fall today, she has brittle bones disease, and has broken her hip. In alot of pain but in hospital on morphine, with hip replacement surgery arranged for tomoz. Am totally beside myself, would appreciate any advice or help from people that have been through this. Cant stop crying but know I have to be strong for my mum. Any advise appreciated x

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  • deborah33754
    deborah33754 debbie39903

    Posted

    Last August, my principal went to Hawaii for her nephew's wedding, she and her mom were staying in a rental, the night before the wedding, her mother fell and broke her hip....the day of the wedding they were in the hospital doing surgery...two weeks later they came back to Maine, by thanksgiving ... Her mom was back to her normal routines

    medicine is so advanced... We are here to support you so you can support your mom

  • debbie39903
    debbie39903

    Posted

    Thank you...you all reducing me to tears...not in a bad way..but with yr kind supporting words. Thank you xx
    • georgina1957
      georgina1957 debbie39903

      Posted

      Debbie don't get upset get to bed so you can have a chance of feeling normal tumoro xx and I really hope all goes well with your mum xx let us know how she goes and you need to keep your strength up as well x
  • debbie39903
    debbie39903

    Posted

    Think its going to be a sleepless night :-( x
  • aj60
    aj60 debbie39903

    Posted

    Hi Debbie so sorry to read your post. Sounds as if u have had a bad time without this.  As others have said your mom will be looked after.  Try and stay strong.  You are in our thoughts and prayers xxx
  • regi72683
    regi72683 debbie39903

    Posted

    Hi Debbie,

    SO SORRY for your mums situation....I sends prayers to her and you for a speedy recovery and for your emotional recovery.  Like others have said.....right now, the best thing you can do is get some rest and get yourself in a positive frame of mind.  Your mum is in good hands right now and she will definitely need you when she goes home.  It's going to be a long recovery for both of you.  I am 63 and had my hip replaced six weeks ago.  The physical recovery is going very well, but the mental recovery is the hard part.  I am an active person and I have been stuck at home for the most part because I can't drive yet (going to my checkup tonight and should get the go ahead to drive now).  You and your mum will need to take it one day at a time and do exactly what the doctor and physical therapist tell her to do.

    i wish you the best through all of this and please take good care of yourself too!

    Regi

  • hilary02336
    hilary02336 debbie39903

    Posted

    Hi

    hospitals do this type of surgery on older people everyday. You don't even have a general anesthetic  if heart not too good as they can use spinal instead but mum will be out of it.  Being there to help after op would be good as hospitals don't ever seem to have enough nurses to go round. She will get back to normal with help and especially encouragement.  Read all the texts on this site lots of positivity.

    thinking of you both.  God bless.  Hilary

  • barbara17317
    barbara17317 debbie39903

    Posted

    So sorry to hear about your mum.  The hospital will look after her so don't worry about that, they are used to dealing with older patients in this type of situation, more so than younger ones.  She will be given instructions about what to do and what not to do after the op and she will be helped by the nurses and given medication.  She will need help when she gets home of course and make sure you get all the aids you can from the hospital.  My Auntie broke her shoulder bone and she was well looked after and then she broke her hip and had a replacement at the age of 80 and went on until she was 98 with all her faculties, so try not to worry too much and make yourself ill.  Best wishes to you and your mum for a speedy recovery.
  • debbie39903
    debbie39903

    Posted

    Thank you for replies. She had a restless night :-(. Waiting to go down to surgery...got my fingers and toes crossed xx
    • regi72683
      regi72683 debbie39903

      Posted

      Sending lots of prayers to the operating room and to you......everything will be good, she is in good hands and she has GOD's Angels watching over her!  
    • aj60
      aj60 debbie39903

      Posted

      Hi Debbie. Thinking of you and your mom. Has she had her op. How is she? And how are you xxxx
    • debbie39903
      debbie39903 aj60

      Posted

      Yes...had op yesterday. ..she not so good today...broke my heart. They tried to get her to take a few steps today but she couldn't. She was very upset and crying. Wouldn't eat today. Was horrendous. Was strong there but had a good cry when I got back to car just couldnt hold it it anymore. So hard :-( x
    • Mary8610
      Mary8610 debbie39903

      Posted

      It will be hard going , I am 60 and it was hard for me . It's good they are getting her up nothing worse a

      than bed bound at your mums age .

      Thinking of you

    • valerie48782
      valerie48782 debbie39903

      Posted

      dont forget she has just had major surgery and is highly medicated, everyone on here found it really hard at the start and most of us had time to mentally prepare for the op, things will improve slowly but surely - I have had times in my life when I have sat in my car and sobbed over stuff, cars are good for that - do you have anyone who you can go and have a cup of tea (or bottle of wine) with while mum is in hospital?

      best wishes xxx

    • debbie39903
      debbie39903 valerie48782

      Posted

      Thank you...yeah have a very supportive partner, he has been great. Yeah consumed quite alot of tea..Unfortunately had a stroke in December so although a nice glass of wine would be lovely. .am not allowed with my meds :-(. So tea it is. Its just so hard to see her looking so frail...was having to actually bite the side of my mouth today not to cry in front on her. They are going to try again tomorrow with walking as they need to get her up as soon as possible. All the staff have been wonderful with her..total angels xx
    • aj60
      aj60 debbie39903

      Posted

      Hi Debbie it is good they are getting her up... It really is a good sign.   She sounds a strong cookie, you are hurting for her because she is precious to you, which is understandable.   Drink plenty of green tea  or any herbal tea if u like them. .  What part of UK are u from?   We are all thinking of you x
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