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My world at the moment!

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Annibgood
Annibgood

Hi all

12 week post TKR

Many of you will know me from this forumI'm Irish Ann.

Everyone on this forum has been so helpful and informative and I would not be as well as I am today without you all. Thank you.  Thank you.

My world at the moment is in chaos.

My one and only sister, which I have spoken about on this forum, is in hospital 50 miles away with a virulent form of pneumonia.  She is quite frail, and is very ill.

My mother (she's 91) is in hospital near me for over a week, with the same pneumonia.  She had given it to my sister.  My mother is doing well and is responding to treatment.

My husband is in the same hospital awaiting an operation in the 'man problem' area.

He has major heart problems so anaesthesia is a problem and they are still not sure how to proceed at the moment.

He has a large inoperable clot in the back of his heart.

He also has haemachromatosis.

All three are serious and coud kill him and I dont know which bit of him to worry about the most!

But by far the worst and saddest of all is I am losing him, my husband of 47 years, my best friend to dementia. 

He is slowly fading away from me.  Did not remember that they had told him he had a clot in the heart.  Did not tell me about the haemachromatosis nor did he turn up for the appointment that was made for him.  I only found all this out a couple of weeks ago, and the haemachromatosis when he was admitted yesterday.

He will never go into a doctors surgery without me EVER again.

It was a wake up call for me, I had not realised how bad he really was, as on day to day things he is fine.  But anything new he will keep asking you the same thing over and over again.

Terrible too for me was going to the doctors yesterday and explaining that he would not remember a word of what they tell him and they would need to refer to me.

I know this has absolutely nothing to do with TKR but just needed to have a rant and you are the best guys I know for that.

Thank you for listening

Ann

Ireland

 

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  • jannette1
    jannette1 Annibgood

    Posted

    Hi Ann, enjoy the quiet moments while they sleep. At least with both your mum and husband home you haven't got to go backwards and forwards to the hospital to visit. Your going to have a few tough weeks ahead of you looking after two invalids but make sure you put aside time for yourself. You sound an amazing, caring and kind lady, just save a bit for yourself. Take care and wishing you all a speedy recovery. Remember we are here for you at all times. God bless Jannette x
  • jodie_63346
    jodie_63346 Annibgood

    Posted

    Thinking of you my foster mum Ann. Cry when you need too, scream at the world if you need too, smile with the world if you can as it will smile back with you. Take one day at a time. Sending you positive thoughts and lots of love your way. Hold strong lovely xxx

    Love from down under

    💝

  • Annibgood
    Annibgood

    Posted

    Hi Boys and girs!

    Its exactly 6.16am Sunday morning.  MY TIME!!!!

    Drinking coffee, Ice pack on, codeine taken, waiting for them to kick in to do my PT.

    Its our 46thWedding Anniversary today.  Not expecting any flowers, but my daughter brought me roses yesterday which are beautiful, so thats 2 bouquets I got lately (Thanks Sue Isobel X)

    House quiet wink 

    My mother finally stopped  talking ALL the time yesterday and slept on and off most of the day. Steroids must have finally worn off!

    I think Colm is sorry he came out of hospital so quickly now, as he is quite sore and will only get worse as the stitches tighten, he is not impressed with my mothers talking and the TV blaring, not to mention having to share me for nursing duties!  I keep sneaking in to where my mum is and turning it down but as soon as she wakes up, up the volume goes up again!  My head was wrecked between the two of them, the noise, and the sulking! sad

    Opted out again last night, and went to bed. If I sit with one the other one sulks.  Cant do right doing wrong at the moment.

    How is your knee doing Ann?

    What knee!!!!! cry

    Rant over!

    Love to all you angels out there.

    Ann

    The Irish One!

    • jodie_63346
      jodie_63346 Annibgood

      Posted

      So if the question has not been asked my foster mum Ann...how is your knee today?
    • liz00723
      liz00723 Annibgood

      Posted

      Your humour is still with you, thank goodness and a How is your knee today from me as well. 

      Congratultions on on your wedding anniversary.  We will be 46 years in August, thought we were probably about the same age.

      enjoy your day if possible

      liz xx

    • cheryl90571
      cheryl90571 Annibgood

      Posted

      Good morning!

      Sounds like you have already developed a rhythm and routine. That helps a lot.

      Setting aside "ME Time" keeps a person sane throughout the caregiving cycle.

      God is giving you everything that you need. In a strange way, by having to care for others, you are able to deflect worry and pain away from that KNEE of yours. You are also getting exercise just caring for your mother and your husband. Yes, God has HIS ways, and He is RIGHT THERE with you every step of the way!

      Thank you for taking the time to update us! I shared your story with my family. Last night my husband asked, " How's Ann doing?" See? Even OUR FAMILIES are pulling for you!

    • jodie_63346
      jodie_63346 cheryl90571

      Posted

      Mine sister is now the same Cheryl. She too asks how Ann is going. Cheryl is right Ann people in this world really do care what happens to others.

      John Lennon would be so proud. 😉

    • cheryl90571
      cheryl90571 jodie_63346

      Posted

      Ahhhhh! John...my favorite Beatle!

      Several years ago the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame and Museum had their top floor dedicated to all of the momentos that Yoko gave of John's to the Rock Hall. "Imagine" was playing. The blue skies of Cleveland, Ohio were beautiful as you looked out of the glass windows. Many, including me, were in tears. I kept thinking that John should be seeing this wonderful tribute and standing there by his microphone SINGING "Imagine".

      Gone WAY TOO soon!

      And yes, John would be very proud that we are all sticking together!

    • sueisobel
      sueisobel Annibgood

      Posted

      Taking time out (skiving, but how else am I to catch up on emails!!)

      Happy Anniversary (you are most welcome), should imagine your swells with the volume. Invest in a pair of wireless headphones, then your mum can listen away to her hearts content, that way your dad gets the silence and you "should" get a little peace. 

      Have you heard from the hopsital yet?

      Keep strong, keep ranting!!

      x

    • jodie_63346
      jodie_63346 cheryl90571

      Posted

      Cheryl

      That would have been magic to see. Just love his music.

      I think this forum is a great place to be. I have been on other forums and totally freaked out as it was so negative. All I could think oh dear god what have I done to myself. I feel safe here to express myself when the rest if the world just doesn't get it.

      Take care and peace to you as John would say 😉

    • cheryl90571
      cheryl90571 jodie_63346

      Posted

      Yes, I totally agree with you about this great forum! There is something very comforting to get to know people from all over the world who share their stories and experiences, their joys and their challenges and can be of comfort BECAUSE they have gone through the same issues and, in many cases, the same surgery!

      It is good to hear suggestions and to discover how things have gone for others as well as share our own stories.

      Yes, it is comforting to be here with friends.

      Wishing you a great night and a pleasant sleep!😴💗

    • jodie_63346
      jodie_63346 cheryl90571

      Posted

      Thanks Cheryl

      Last night was a fantastic sleep. I fell into bliss about 9 pm and didn't wake till 3 am. I still had the ice pack still on top of my knee. Sleep helps tackle the emotions and my knee Jenni.

      I think it is amazing the friendship that can be made here and the support. Face book eat your heart out 😉

    • cheryl90571
      cheryl90571 jodie_63346

      Posted

      SO glad that you were able to get that good rest last night! It comes after awhile, and when it does, you feel like a new person!😊

      I think this site is very special! I was posting from my hospital room and getting replies just a few hours after my surgery! What a support system!

      There's something amazing yet CREEPY about replacement parts for the body. Knowing that there are SO MANY people out there all over the world who ALSO now have these replacement parts...well, it feels like having a new FAMILY of sorts!

      So, all my new FAMILY of replacement part people...Have the best day ever, and THANK YOU for connecting here in this great forum!

      😊. 💗. 😊. 💗. 😊. 💗. 😊. 💗. 😊. 💗

      Hope you have lots of those great night's sleeps to come, Jodie!

    • jodie_63346
      jodie_63346 cheryl90571

      Posted

      Thanks Cheryl

      I feel for everyone when they say they are struggling with sleep. It's hard getting through this operation with a rested mind let alone a mind that is not fully rested.

      I know for me the nights without sleep the next day was nightmare. 😢

      The land down under

      Xxx

    • cheryl90571
      cheryl90571 jodie_63346

      Posted

      I fortunately don't usually require as much sleep as most people, but since I FINALLY began actually sleeping five or six hours in a row, I DO feel like a different person!

      Wow, who knew??? 😁

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