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rachel_52861
rachel_52861

I've had surgery for a posterior and anterior repair with perineoplasty on the 6th Feb (almost 3 weeks ago) and was told not to have sex until 6 weeks. I never really considered that no sex would mean no orgasms at all so I never asked about it, I was just thinking I wouldn't want intercourse anyway until then or after anyway so it's not an issue. Now my husband is adament that I shouldn't do anything at all for 6 weeks that may lead to an orgasm as it could pull the internal stitches. I've searched the internet for answers but there doesn't seem to be any. I've found some old forum threads and only one which states her surgeon said no orgasm until 6 weeks, other than that nothing so does anyone know if it is safe or not?

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  • jillian1612
    jillian1612 rachel_52861

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    Why dont you just ask your doctor rather than acting on advice from random people. I am sure all mean well and always nice hearing experiences. But rather be safe than sorry and just get medical advice. I waited the 6 weeks before orgasm and it was the best I think I ever had. If you wait you might feel more relaxed than worrying about the risks. I am also a registered nurse, not a specialist and would never give the go ahead based on that fact. Good luck Rachel.
    • DorryC
      DorryC jillian1612

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      I am not the original poster, but my doctor wouldn't answer questions like this if I called in.... they werent even responsive with very urgent questions. I was very thankful to have these forums and to have read Sue Croft's book about recovering from surgery.

      Asking the doctor is great if it's possible to get a response from them over the phone, or wait until the appointment. 

    • Jan999
      Jan999 jillian1612

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      I think rachel was asking if anyone else had experience of this which is the reason why ladies post on this forum. Wasting a Doctors's time to answer such a question is something I'm sure most of us wouldn't dream of, in fact knowing doctors as I do most of them wouldn't know the answer. A urogynaecologist probably would but she's hardly likely to contact him. Reading about other ladies experiences can help to make a decision. I have asked a urogynaecologist and he said it's ok but obviously she isn't his patient.

  • liz21379
    liz21379 rachel_52861

    Posted

    I can say honestly I enjoyed external only stimulation/orgasm with my OH after about 2-3 weeks with no problems. For some reason I felt aroused for the first time in years after my surgery. Sex itself to a good bit longer than 6 weeks to be enjoyable again - at least double that for me .
  • Cazinbed
    Cazinbed rachel_52861

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    Hello- just read this thread. Despite being in dreadful buttock pain when I stand etc from sacropinious fixation, posterior and enterocele repair ( 2 weeks ago) I had clitoral stimulation and orgasm last night. I just focussed on staying reasonably still. I don't feel it could have done any harm as I was told to do pelvic floor exercises straight away and I don't feel those muscle movements are a lot different. I will say that the orgasm wasn't anywhere near as intense or as long as I am used to. I hope that is down to the surgery and healing process and not what it will feel like long term. Loss of sexual function was my main concern before surgery and my consultant said experience of orgasms shouldn't be affected.

  • charlene51019
    charlene51019 rachel_52861

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    Hi Rachel 52861. I am only a week passed the same op you had. Just having the same question you asked. Did you try before the 6week mark with having a orgasm or not? If so how did you find it? I am not ready to yet as I still have a catheter but was just wondering?
    • Cazinbed
      Cazinbed charlene51019

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      Hi Charlene... I know you sent this to Rachel so I hope you don't mind me interjecting...

      As stated above I had an orgasm after 2 weeks and several since. I spoke to my surgeon about it and he said I was mad and that it might cause inflammation from contractions. Well I'm not sure it did although it feels hot there afterwards. I do now have a bartholin cyst which has to be treated and I'm wondering whether having an orgasm contributed. I've not had such a cyst before and I am 51. Surgeons and doctors should give advice on this sort of stuff. There is an assumption that women won't feel sexual having had surgery. I suffered the most terrible sciatic and buttock pain from my sacropinious fixation , but I still felt sexual. Not being able to have sex is bad enough. Not being able to have an orgasm is depressing. If you can, I would try and wait 6 weeks. I say that because I don't think the medical profession knows itself whether it will affect the recovery process.

  • No_more_org
    No_more_org rachel_52861

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    I had my op cyctocle and recycle repair in January this year, I was warned that sex would be painfull to start and to wait at least 6 weeks, so we did, 10 months on and i still have not an orgasam, as well as no sensation down there I have the same problems as beofre so I was referred back to gynaecology and was seen today, it was very upsetting the registra I saw said it could be possible that nerves were damaged during the operation and she went to speak to the consultant that had done the surgery, she came back after speaking with the consultant and told me that not having an orgasam was nothing to do with the operation and they could refer me back to my GP to be referred for therapy. I told them my sex life before the operation was perfect in every way now after the operation there is no sensation at all, I was then asked if there was any problems with my partner with that I said NO put my coat on told the registra it has not been the same since the operation being numb is not normal then I walked out.

    they are trying to pass the buck it was the operation that has damaged me and I want women to be told of the posibilty of nerve damage before they have an operation, if I was told of this I would not have had it done, I had a great sex life before the operation. 

    Is there anyone else out there that this has happened to?

    • liz70806
      liz70806 No_more_org

      Posted

      Hi Rachel 

      I had a Cyctocele and slight posterior repair 4th August 2016. It was 4 months before I could even contemplate any bedroom antics. I used to have high labido, in fact it used to annnoy as it was inconvenient most of the time now I hardly ever feel the need. The first time I did manage to orgasm but it was very stunted not like I am used to. The orgasms have got a little better but they are not like they were at all they don't seem to have any back end on them. I like you am gutted it's really got me down. I feel like my G-Spot may have been trimmed away during the repair. I thought things might improve but it's been 15 months and they haven't really. The only way to descibe it is they used to be a firework, now they are a party popper! 

      My Uterus prolapsed after the cyctocle repair (surgeon should have took it out at the same time but didn't think it was required) so now have to have a Vaginal Hysterectomy in a few months. I am dreading the extra damage it's going to do as I like you think my nerves have been damaged during the op. 

      I only had 1 baby - I struggle to believe whats happened to me. 

      I really hope you get some feeling back soon. Feel free to reply back with any questions x 

    • caresfl
      caresfl No_more_org

      Posted

      I think they are not doing enough research on nerve damage with these procedures. With my first c-section my clitoral stopped working almost all together and it took over 9 months to fully heal and regenerate. The Dr. Didn't believe me but I'm 100% positive the surgery caused it. After all, I was fully functioning going in. I would not be upset at the damage I think it's more common then we know and any day now you should get full functionality back. I just wish these doctors would actually hear what we are saying that way they at least have a clue.

    • non_mulierem
      non_mulierem No_more_org

      Posted

      Exactly the same thing's happened to me Rachel and I am now over 4 years since op and no orgasm.  Hope you can sue the surgeon. 

       

    • applejax
      applejax liz70806

      Posted

      Hey there. I knew I needed surgery for 2 years. First, it was just rectocele and Cystocele. Over the 2 years that I waited, my uterus prolapsed. That is what killed all my sensation. I finally had the surgery and it included a hysterectomy, anterior and posterior vaginal repair AND vaginal suspension. I hope that's the case for you as well and that it will return after the hysterectomy. Good luck!!

  • kelly84069
    kelly84069 rachel_52861

    Posted

    Now I’m scared. I’m 3 weeks pist hysterctomy Nd anterior repair and I’ve had a few orgasms. Mainly to check it was still working 🙈 I’ve also done the deed which I feel terrible about now and know it wasn’t a good idea as I’ve aiffered after with pains and slight pink discharge. I could kick myself about it but I had been feeling so well and was just gentle but I’m worried now 

    • Redhead1960
      Redhead1960 kelly84069

      Posted

      Hi Kelly, it's great you can experience orgasms, shows your pelvic floor muscles all working nicely which is a good sign! in my humble opinion I would wait a few more weeks before trying penetration again, maybe wait until after post op check? In theory, I was advised ok for intercourse at 6 weeks. I had been able to have orgasms prior to this and did explore what things were like inside after 6 weeks but it didn't quite look or feel right inside. I had a consultant appointment at 7 weeks and he said I was not fully healed inside (posterior, anterior repair and sacropinous fixation) and said definitely no intercourse for me until after a further check by him at 12 weeks. The internal examination alone left me in ongoing pain and discomfort, dragging pains and soreness for several days so I will leave well alone and heed his advice. Hopefully as it settles down again, and before the 12 weeks, gentle orgasms will be ok, helps check muscles all working, good for endorphins and feeling of closeness with partner and helps with circulation in the area which can promote healing. But everyone is different and for some the stitches would be too painful and probably not ok for orgasms in first few weeks. Hope all settles down again for you soon.

    • Redhead1960
      Redhead1960 kelly84069

      Posted

      i meant to say, the other very important reason not to have intercourse or put anything in vagina in first 6 weeks or more is the risk of infection. This is the most important bit, plus the risk of damaging the delicate tissues as they heal. X
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