People don’t understand ... how bad this is
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I think there’s quite a big disparity in women’s symptoms on here . I’m at a 10 with this which means I can’t do normal things like socialize . I see some women writing that they went out met friends went to a game .
I am debilitated . I am constantly tired from the moment I wake up I’m just waiting for the clock to tick so I can go back to bed . I believe women who never had children get it worse.
I appreciate all the comments and caring as some ladies have said ‘move closer to your family ‘ etc. but I don’t think they understand that I can’t do barely anything .
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vicky77852 lori93950
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I am childless too and I had no idea about the whole menopause thing.
We are not prepared at all. I feel that we are in denial, we don’t like to hear or talk about menopause.
For me at first was a terrible schock cause I was only 42 when I diagnosed. I started to feel like human again after some months and on hrt.
I feel that it is so unfair and that my friends live their lives and I have to take hormones and to face all these awful symptoms.
I was suicidal the first month and I was thinking about death all the time. My mum helps me a lot but emotionally it is hard for me to have to face an early menopause.
I was thinking that I will age prematurely and I will die soon. Things will be better when the body starts to adjust to the new hormonal state.
Hope it helps Lori. 💐
marina75664 vicky77852
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Hi Vicky,
I was diagnosed at 43 and when the doc got my hormone test results, she made me feel like a freak and told me it was waaaaay too early. I know better now, I see a lot of women here my age or even younger and understand that it is ok. I have been experiencing a loooot of depressing feelings, crying spells for no reason, that can last for days, which can later change to days of sheer anger where I hate everyone and everything and isolate myself, because I understand that I act and sound like a crazy person. My whole body aches, my back, my neck, my shoulders, I go through days of being not hungry to craving odd foods and sweets. I am constantly tired, wake up just as tired as I was in the evening each morning hoping that today will be different. It's basically has been like a roller coaster from hell!!! Some days I am ok, for a week or two, and then out of no where the hell starts again. And from what I understand, I haven't experience the job of hot flashes just yet, that delight is yet to come, Yey! Which makes me wonder what else is coming and how long is this going to last and am I going to survive this, or am I going to either go mad or die from some kind of oncological desease, because menapause has been known to provoke all kinds of unpleasant deseases. Oh, and to top it off I can't do HRT, because my Mom, Grandma and Great Grandma all died from cancer. I am also pretty vain and constantly worry that I am aging prematurely.
So, I completely understand you, hang in there. I try to meditate and live in the moment, this is the only thing that helps me, just breath, when everything is bad, just concentrate on nothing but your own breathing and that's all. I also try to do things just for me, like the other day, I took a day off, made myself a sandwich and went to the part and sat there like a crazy lady and fed pigeons and crows by the lake all by myself, instead of being at work, and you know what, it helped!!!
Sending you big hugs and lots of understanding and support :-)
vicky77852 marina75664
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lori93950 marina75664
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Maybe you could try BHRT ?
Just remember there are loads of women going through exactly the same thing as you so you are not alone in this .
lori93950 vicky77852
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Yes it’s been a BIG SHOCK ! I honestly ever knew it could be so bad as nobody talks about it . It’s honestly debilitating and depressing .
And yes my friends my age seem to be working going out just living life normally it’s so frustrating I’m sure we all say why me ?
I’m doing the best I can with alternative medicine and now the patch which I didn’t want to go on but I couldn’t continue anymore . I was making appts turning up then having to leave due to feeling so faint . It’s no life for now but you just have to ride the wave and tailor your life around this terrible illness.
shawnalb marina75664
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vicky77852 lori93950
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I absolutely agree Lori, I couldn’t ever imagine the meno nightmare! For me there is no life without my hormones. For me menopause is an illness, I don’t find anything natural at all! The only positive thing was that I tried to reavaluate my life, to think that we will die someday and we have to live our life with the best way we can before it is too late...💐
lori93950 vicky77852
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lori93950 shawnalb
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shawnalb lori93950
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lori93950 shawnalb
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I am a workout queen and I think that is half my problem as your adrenals crash during this time . I don’t want to give it up though as I love it and love having a great body . I may have to though .
2chr2015 shawnalb
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marina75664 lori93950
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Hi, I can't thank you all enough for all the love and support. What are the main differences between BHRT and HRT?
marina75664 shawnalb
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Hi there, I just turned 44 in the beginning of June, but my periods and moods have beeing going all over the place in the past year or a little more. I too have dry mouth, dry hands, hands and feet fall asleep and cramp up, hands tingle sometimes as well, as there's bad blood circulation. And I know what you mean about being afraid to find a lump, it's not dumb and I am going through the same thing, I am afraid to wash my boobs, becuase I don't want to touch them and God forbid accidentally find a lump. Everytime something hurts, I think it's cancer, which I understand that, if you think about it, the chances of it being something else are much greater, then it being cancer, but still the only thing I can think of is the worse possible case scenario. So hang in there. I try to identify these thoughts, as I know that they are nothing but paranoia, and I stop them as soon as I realise that I am thinking them. I just think "there I go again, thinking paranoid thoughts, MARINA STOP!", of course they come back and I have to stop them again, but that's how you train your mind, I guess. I can only guess here and suggest something I try. Hope you feel better! Big hugs!!!
2chr2015 marina75664
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debbie12340 lori93950
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Hi Lori,
I hear you loud and clear . . . Oh to live the normal simple life again 🙏🏼 Who would have thought going shopping would have felt like such a massive achievement . . . I had know idea I would be hit SO HARD by all these horrendous years called ‘perimenopause’ I actually dont know who I am anymore ? Anxiety is my worst symptom, I feel like every day problems suddenly become unbearable, like some massive mountain I can’t possibly conquer . . . I want to believe I’ll feel like me again one day, but I actually can’t imagine how all this is just going to go away ??? I thought I was a strong woman but this has bought me to my knees xx